It's been 4 years since she dumped me. I was devastated. In my final contact with her, i told her if she ever needed me, i would be there for her. Out of the blue, she has emailed me saying she needs me & if i am still there for her. She has been telling me all the details about her current bf who she says treats her like crap & that she needs help/advise to get out of the relationship. I am trying to be helpful & supportive by telling her what a jerk this guy is & how she deserves better. She is very depressed & confused about the whole thing & is having a hard time figuring out if she is doing the right thing by leaving him. To make things worse, I recently found out that she has told people about our relationship.That I was abusive to her, that she left me 10 times during the 5 years we lived together & was never in love with me, it was purely lust. When she left me for the last time, I came home one day & she & her belongings were just gone, without a word to me. What should i do?
2007-08-28 02:34:21 · 12 answers · asked by jackmowack 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Four years?
Keep it rolling. Make it another four.
Steer clear!
2007-08-28 02:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's been 4 years since she broke your heart. Do you see any changes in her? I'm assuming that you didn't abuse her, so maybe what you've heard isn't true. If you really want to know if she told people that, I suggest coming out & asking her. Maybe she did say it, but it was years ago & she was just angry. If it's not a lie then stay away from her & all women, please.
If you still love her and want to be with her, I think you should give it another shot. As long as you feel she has matured enough not to do something like she did before. If you don't you may wonder "what if" for a long time. If you think there's a shot you could find happiness with her then I think you should go for it.
2007-08-28 09:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You already know the answer to that question....of course you shouldn't. If you are this far out why put yourself through it again? She will use you to get out of this situation then hurt you all over again. You dont deserve that and if she spread lies about you being abusive then she obviously didn't even respect you enough to leave you with your dignity. Sounds like she is a "me me me" person? Good luck, I know how tempting it can be when you still love someone after all this time, but trust me it will just start the vicisous cycle of heartbreak all over again.
2007-08-28 09:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by LilSunbeam 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is just looking for a way out of her current relationship. You could be the way out for her, she won't stay. If you were abusive in your past relationship then it could be that she is addicted to the drama in life and knows your vulnerable. Change your e-mail, wish her all the luck in the world and say good-bye. You can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved, Superman.
2007-08-28 09:45:12 · answer #4 · answered by Cheri >^.^< 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were abusive to that woman you deserve to have the crap beat out of you on a daily basis.
If she was lying to all of these people about your relationship perhaps she should inform those people about the true nature of your relationship before you help her.
2007-08-28 09:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by umannjo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow she really screwd you, she totally went about it the wrong way, were you abusive or was it just a lie, cause if it were a lie i wouldnt take her back, she broke your heart, gave you a bad name, and just uped and left you, now thats pretty bad...whats to say it wouldnt happen again, my advice would say forget the past and only look foward, you can continue helping her with advice if youd like, but i wouldnt go back if i were you. there will be someone else that would work with you better than she has. but its your life so follow your heart.
2007-08-28 09:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by Diana D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U need to SNAP OUT OF THIS DELUSION! she told people how u treated her she actually branded you, left you for another and want her back? r u CRAZY or CRAZY for LOVE, sit down listen to yourself: SHE LEFT YOU! get over it stop holding back your life on someone who's unsure of want she wants, when you keep going backwards what are you achieving pain, anger, grief, resentment and MORE problems going forward: SUCCESS, MOTIVATION,HIGH SELF-ESTEEM and other positive things would just start flowing without stoping so get up dust off learn from the past and MOVE ON she'll get over hers!!
2007-08-28 10:08:47 · answer #7 · answered by mexcisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she is a little nutty. I would tell her that I heard what she said....leave the drama for someone else. It feels good to talk to her right now because it is familiar..that is all.
2007-08-28 09:41:29 · answer #8 · answered by Rein 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She seems like an unbalanced person. Find her a psychiatrist then go on with your life.
2007-08-28 09:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by Ardelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow a pair and grow up. You don't EVER take somebody back, and who told you chicks dig door mats?
2007-08-28 09:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋