I still want to work on the marriage.
I have two small girls.
If she threatens to throw me out, do I need to leave legally?
Can she call the police?
Should I offer to leave?
2007-08-28 02:42:00 · 38 answers · asked by James B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she is the one thinking of ending the marriage then she needs to leave....not you or the kids. If you leave she can file for abandonment and she would have more leverage in court. No she cannot call the police if you are both deeded on the house or share the lease unless she has proof of spousal abuse. For the girls sake I would stay and try to work things out, give her her space but not too much space and of course go to counseling.
2007-08-28 02:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by LilSunbeam 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to leave. As a matter of fact, when the separation ultimately leads to divorce, she would be able to get more money in the settlement by claiming you had abandoned her if you leave. She can call the police if she wants, but it won't do her any good -- they can't force a person to leave his own home. Furthermore, things have no chance at all of improving if you move out. Instead, ask your wife specifically what things you could have done differently in your marriage in order for this not to have happened, and then start making changes in yourself accordingly. So stay put!
2007-08-28 02:53:23 · answer #2 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is serious about leaving you, there is nothing you can do. It takes two to keep it together. You don't stay together because of the children, because then the children suffer. If she gets a legal separation, yes, you have to leave, and yes she can call the police to make you leave. As far as should you leave, you have no choice. Then you just move on and get a life. Good luck.
2007-09-03 18:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by darlene z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not need to leave. if she is the one wanting to separate. she has to go not you. and no' the law cannot force you from your home. unless it is some sort of legal matter. or if you do not live with in the United States. and no' she cannot force you out. she can call the police, but they cannot make you leave. not with out some sort of legal matter, as I said before.
The fact is if she wants the separation and you do not, she is the one that will have to go. and she will not be able to take the children with her. unless she has a legal document saying she has the right, in most States. (also this has to be signed, by a Judge)
So please do not worry, the law is on your side. unless you do something to change things such as breaking some legal act. such as to, bring harm to. any member in the home. now understand,if it were you going. the this will be against you.
Please' understand. States within the United States may change in laws. so this means that not all laws are the same in every state.
take care,
2007-09-02 03:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear you are going through this. Do not leave. Find out why she's moved on. There has to be a reason. If it's something you can change, then you might have that opportunity. Why would she have the right to call the police on you...You haven't done anything wrong. It is legally half your house.
2007-09-03 16:39:04 · answer #5 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moved on means another man is in her life. You should think about what can you do to help change her mind. Take her out to dinner and talk to her. If she wants to "move on" ask why? One thing I've learn this week is she can't throw you out. If she calls the police what are you doing for her to do that? You dont want to stay with someone that doesnt want you around. You should look for another place to live. Separation is good sometimes when your not getting along. Think about the kids.
Good luck
2007-09-03 01:11:28 · answer #6 · answered by betty boo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave - once you do, she holds all the cards. If she wants to break wide, make her take the first step, and then you stand a good chance at breaking even. I did it this way, and I got everything I asked for in the judgement. As a matter of fact, she got sued by her atty for not paying her legal bills, and she had to swallow her pride and ask me for a loan, because the guy she was having an affair with from her office is a deadbeat with bad credit and couldn't help her out. What a bag of crap.
2007-09-02 14:46:22 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You FIGHT!! Fight for her and fight for your babies!!! You need to gather your strength and be the man she needs you to be. Here are two books Love and Respect and Cracking the Communication code by Emmerson Eggrich. In your case I would say try to buy the cd's and listen to Cracking the COmmunication Code first. you can order the cd's at loveandrespect.com. In the mean time while your waiting for the salvation of your marriage to come in the mail here is what you do.... First of all don't get the mentality that it's not fair your the only one trying once she see's your effort she will pitch in it might take time (she will be unoptimistic at first). YOu have to make up your mind once and for all to have a great marriage. Do everything you can to make her happy ...don't argue, clean the house, cook, buy her thoughtful gifts, And heres the kicker arrange for a date night take her somewhere nice (like your first restraunt together) and let her know You have made up your mind to make this marriage work and that she and the girls mean more to you than anything else in the world. Even if she blows you off with what you say or doesnt even go DONT GIVE UP!! Let her see the change and once she realizes you mean it she will start to thaw! Good Luck and DONT GIVE UP!!
2007-08-28 03:27:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she has "moved on" there really isn't anything you can do.
You do not need to leave, legally, morally, ethically, or otherwise. She can call the police but if you have done nothing wrong, the police cannot take action against you.
You should NOT offer to leave. SHE is the one who wants to end the marraige. SHE has "moved on" and apparently without care for you or your girls. So, SHE can move out. If she has truly "moved on" it should not be a problem for her. Remind her that moving on without you means moving on without your girls.
Tell her good-bye. Tell her you will wait to hear from her lawyer. Meanwhile, get a lawyer of your own and make sure you do not get screwed. Get a GOOD lawyer. You then have to commit your life to raising your girls alone since your wife wants to "move on" without you all. If she wants out, show her the door.
Stop being a weany. Be a man and stand up for what is yours.
2007-08-28 02:51:44 · answer #9 · answered by JustAskin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she is the one wanting to end the marriage then open the door for her and let her leave. You and the kids stay put. Until legal proceedings are set in a written agreement she will have no choice but to leave. It will be up to her from then on to seek legal advice, get a legal separation in order to get you to leave the home if she finds good reason to do so.
2007-08-28 02:57:38 · answer #10 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋