Petty. Ive been asking for my belongings for 4 months now and nothing. My wonderful ex boyfriend can't seem to make the time to either A: pack my stuff and set it out his front door. B: let me pack my own belongings. or C: take my stuff to a neutral zone so we can exchange it or leave it at a friends house for me to pick up.
I have brought law officials into it but I don't have proof that those things are indeed, mine...so I can't do small claims court.
But that isn't what is bothering me. What bothers me is WHY he is refusing me what is rightfully mine even though he makes more than the average American per year, is 23 years old and can afford his own stuff!!!. We were each other's first loves and moving in together was a first time for the both of us. Our breakup was about a 10 on the rick tor scale, it wasn't good. Is he trying to hold onto my memory? Is he waiting for the right time? or is he trying to mess with me, knowing that my stuff in his possession is going to eat @ me?
2007-08-28 03:08:30 · 19 answers · asked by ♥Beezy♪ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People, I don't have reciepts for my purchases!! Also, I did have a citizen standby with a few cops on two different occasions...one while he was at the place and REFUSED to open the damn door. The cops couldn't make him open the door to give me my stuff back and they told me that point blank! I am screwed and he knows it.. Thanks for nothing guys...jk :P
2007-08-28 04:52:48 · update #1
And NO...I haven't contacted my ex in over a month and a half... I refuse to chase him.
2007-08-28 04:55:17 · update #2
He might want to keep your underwear and sniff them every nite before he goes to bed, as far as your vibrators they can be passed off as back massagers and might keep them as well. I dont understand the bras unless there might be titty residue on them and let him have the douche
2007-08-28 03:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the sheriff and arrange to have a uniformed officer accompany you to your ex's apartment while you retrieve your belongings. You may have to see an attorney and get a court order if the bf resists, and only you can decide whether what you left behind is worth the effort.
If I were you, I'd just write the stuff off. It'll cost a bit to replace, but hey - that'd also deprive him of a means of giving you a hard time.
2007-08-28 10:16:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being petty, probably trying to hold onto the relationship by holding onto your things.
But it's just stuff. If you can live without it, I'd encourage you to move on. He knows it's bothering you, so that's why he's not giving you your things back.
As soon as you let it go, or act like you don't want your stuff back, he'll relent.
If you've gotten by for 4 months without those things, do you really need them? Maybe you're using this as an issue to hang onto him?
Good luck.
2007-08-28 10:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by samans442 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you mean by 'eat @ you'. If it is something that he can hold you ransom, go to the authority. If it is something of no value, then forget it & move on. If it is something very valuable, then proceed to file claims in small court. It is up to him to proof the stuff are indeed his. Does not mean that he owns all possessions in the house when you two had been occupying it quite sometime. Wish you good luck!!
2007-08-28 10:20:20 · answer #4 · answered by hoenghsu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be hard but trust me, the best revenge for this pr!ck is to not ever call or ask for your stuff ever again. Let it go, he is using the stuff as a reason to hurt you and for you to keep contacting him. Beleive me, you will have the last laugh if you just act like this @$$ has dropped off the face of the universe and never ask for the stuff again. Don't give this idiot the satisfaction of holding your things over your head anymore.
2007-08-28 10:21:07 · answer #5 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to shed some light on this, the police will help you just tell them what the story is, who carries proof of everything they own? But the bottom line is if you have to walk away from the things you left behind so be it, you can replace them, next time do not be so quick to move in with someone, and have the next person to move in with sign a paper you will write up on what is yours.
2007-08-28 10:16:12 · answer #6 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy and anger is whats keeping him from letting you go in and get your things back. He is angry at himself or you depending on how this relationship ended. I was the same when my ex left. all i can say is give him time to think over his situation and eventually he will come around and give your stuff back. I did after a couple of months. I just needed time to reflect on what happened. Maybe he needs to do the same. Good Luck.
2007-08-28 10:16:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just trying to mess with you. You CAN take him to small claims court. There's bound to be friend, relative or credit card recieipt showing you bought it. If you wrote a check, you can also have your bank do a research. It might cost you a few bucks, but it'll be worth it!
2007-08-28 11:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by txgasman64 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its his pride, the one last thing he can hold on to , he has a form of control and he knows it bothers you...its sad that a grown man will not give you what is yours. i do not know what belongings you are after but stop asking...show up at his front door with hismother or someone on his side of it and maybe then he can realize what a jerk he is being good luck
2007-08-28 10:13:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be waiting on his doorstep when he comes home from work with a few garbage bags in your hands. Maybe you can get some of it out right then and there, and arrange amicably to come get the rest later.
2007-08-28 10:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋