Marriage & Divorce - 27 August 2007

My husband and I keep separate checking accounts but budget for "joint" things like the mortgage, utilities, etc. When we want to buy something for ourselves we just buy it with our own money so we don't argue. It works pretty well, except for one area: home redecorating. I say that's a "joint" thing b/c it's improving the look and feel of our outdated 70s home. He says it's a hobby and should come out of my own money. I'm not talking thousands; just a new light fixture and some new curtains now and then. Would you consider that something to share or something I should pay for?

2007-08-27 08:36:22 · 14 answers · asked by ♫ Sweet Honesty ♫ 5

if a woman that is married have split up but not legally separated form her husband buys a house with another man,will her legal husband still be entitle to half in a divorce.

2007-08-27 08:32:33 · 8 answers · asked by miamiryder 1

Should I stay or go? My bf and I have been together 3 years, but it's been a rocky relationship. He used to tell me how excited he was about being intimate with me. He used to be more intimate with me period. He also used to call me from work to tell me he loved me, but that dwindled down and hasn't happened recently. I'm 23, btw and am feeling like some women do after a 20 year marriage - unappreciated and put down. He also accused me of being disrespectful because I have not met his brother (who, at 30 yrs old, has come to live with his mother because he can't stay out of jail). I have not only not met him because I don't want to, but also due to the fact that I work and attend a university. On my days off, I want to relax - not meet some jail bird who I don't know/care about. I also feel like we're a married couple because I can't stand the rest of his family - I've had the in-law experience and it sucks. Not to mention he has a kid and a crazy ex who uses their son for her benefit.

2007-08-27 08:31:08 · 10 answers · asked by 80schick 1

have a lazy horn,, a pain in my head, and am slighly depressed

what should i do

2007-08-27 08:29:00 · 9 answers · asked by justmebackagain 2

I read somewhere [probably theknot.com] that the officiant is supposed to mail something to somebody and somebody is supposed to mail something to you [us] before things are official. Is this true and if it is, what is it that's being mailed? Our officiant handed us our marriage license and said "That's it. There's nothing left to do" but, I just want to check and make sure.

Also, do I have to do something to officially change my last name or does that happen automatically? I know I have to go get a new license... Is there anything else?

2007-08-27 08:19:55 · 13 answers · asked by ? 4

have been married 11 yrs now 3 and a half years ago I almost left my husband for a man i met online I also told him I was not sure I love him because he has always been a bit controling. I know now I do love him I tell him every day I gave up several friends and several games I was playing and have been trying to prove he can trust me but he still does not how do I get him to trust me? The only game I have left we play together. I also work a full time job and take care of our kids. I want his trust back and he says we don't need counseling.. help please?

2007-08-27 08:19:25 · 8 answers · asked by Marriedwithkids11 1

Long story quick: My husband was deported 2 years ago and now isn't coming back. The process will take a while. I've been faithful all this time, but now I'm ready to move on and meet some new people. Is there a way to explain this to prospective dates without scaring them off? Or should I even mention it? Or?...

2007-08-27 08:14:44 · 18 answers · asked by Getsbetterwithtime 3

We are newlyweds, less than year, but have been together for almost 9 years. He has had a problem with alcohol since I have known him and has been violent, crtical and verbally abusive for all this time. There are times I am afraid because I don't know what he is capable of and I never know when an outbreak will occur. He drinks heavily at least 4 night, maybe 6 a week. He is a functioning alcholic in terms of sociey, but I feel like I have just woke up. My father is an alcolohic and I married my dad. When he is sober he can SO sweet or he can be mean. I never know what I am going to get. He says he wants to change and I asked him flat out. If I asked you to pick alcohol or me, what would you choose? He told me he didn't know, that he really can't give up drinking. He refuses counseling or AA because he really doesn't want to stop. I don't want to be unhappy anymore or scared, but I feel like if I leave him my life will be a wreck! We have a house and a history.What should I do?

2007-08-27 07:54:47 · 31 answers · asked by Jcord29 2

Husband recently left and says he wants a divorce. He is staying with friends now. We have been to see a paralegal to see what steps to take to get divorced. But sometimes he acts like he is really unsure of his desion. He came over to the house to talk and started crying when he looked at out wedding pictures. Then I gave him my ring back and he acted hurt that I did. Then he asked me if I wanted it back a few days later. I said okay and he took it to have it cleaned before he brought it back. I really don't know if his is having some kind of midlife crisis and is confused or just doesn't know what he wants.

2007-08-27 07:49:11 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

because i know when people get married they should respect the vows they've taken,now i'm hardly seein' this these days,what happen to love and to cherish?

2007-08-27 07:37:29 · 20 answers · asked by mb0941 1

2007-08-27 07:35:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

He lies to me about things that he knows will upset me. He started chewing tobacco and I found out from a friend. He said he quit, but I found out otherwise. He lies about buying it, he lies about buying porn. I have no clue how much more he lies about. I have to catch him and figure the lies out for myself. He never sets me down and tells me he's lapsed and bought tobacco, or he's lapsed and bought porn (which he was addicted to for about a year) He doesn't confess when confronted about these things. I have to drag it out of him. One time it took me 8 months to drag a lie out of him. He lied to me for those 8 months looking me straight in the eyes! He always lies and looks me straight in the eyes. Who knows what else he's lied/lying about?? He didn't do this stuff until about 3 years ago. We've been together 8 years. I can't stand this. I don't trust him anymore. Should I quit? We have a 16 month old boy. I never lie to him If I have done something I think would upset him, I tell him.

2007-08-27 07:26:01 · 13 answers · asked by Anu Y. 2

Read between the lines. He was interested, but it was that time of the month so I couldn't or didn't want to. anyway, he said he was really in the mood that and that loved me enough to see "beyond" that. I was like ewwww, no way. anyway, I told my friend and she said there was nothing w/that. she does it all the time. I can't imagine the mess and feeling of it all. how many of you don't care about that?

2007-08-27 07:17:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

He wants me to ********. I am not comfortable doing this but have done it anway because I wanted to please him. Although I think this is against my beliefs. I am a devout Catholic and don't know if this is against my religion. I am kinda innocent when it comes to these things. My question now is, what should I do? Sex is a sacred thing that a married couple share, so I am not sure if this is right.

2007-08-27 07:14:51 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-27 07:10:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well we've been together for 8yrs and we're madly in love and happy! He has a 12 year old daughter from a previous marriage. His daugther lives with us and she call's me mom. I love her do death just as if she where my own. We live a good life we are happy and couldn't be better. His ex is constantly harrasing us and calling me names when she's on the phone with their daugther. She keeps threatning to go to court for some sort of custody and she insist that her and my husband have not gotten a divorce!! I believe my husband and have no reason to doubt him. But what do I do about her? I can't ignore it and besides her I'm happy in my relationship! The way I look at it is she causes the drama so that i'll leave my husband but that's never gonna happen!! So how can I deal with her? How can I make her go away?

2007-08-27 07:03:57 · 12 answers · asked by banana 1

He is a volenteer cop for our town...he is always gone...he works his regular job and then goes and does his thing with them...when I talk to him...he says that he is doing something good and instead of being mad to just get over it. I am stay at home mom. I have two young girls and well it does get a little borning. I tell him this and he goes well this is what you wanted when you got pregnant. After the girls get in school you can get a job and get out of house. I tell him I want is his attention not so much something to do. He says well it is hard to give you attention because you always want it. Your not happy with 10-20 minutes. I dont know...I am little mad he doesnt understand how I feel and I dont how to tell him because I have tried but he doesnt get it. What should I do...how should I say it so he understand me better.

2007-08-27 07:02:42 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

My soon to be ex was recently charged with forging and cashing a personal check that she stole from her own 18 year old son to pocket the funds Made the check payable to her and forged his signature on the bottom. Pretty ruthless to obtain a couple hundered dollars. Will this affect her ability to gain custody of our two younger kids along with child support?

2007-08-27 07:00:22 · 27 answers · asked by What to do? 1

2007-08-27 06:35:58 · 14 answers · asked by LordVader 4

I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and have been fooling myself into thinking I could stay with him. He was unemployed for 5 years and only got a job before we started going out. He still lives at home (he is 30) whereas I just bought my second apartment. I earn more money than him but I never thought it was a problem. We aren't 'in love' but do love each other. We get on really well but I have found myself thinking that I can't spend my life with someone who doesn't have any ambition. He recently said that there was a 'possibility' we may get married someday but he didn't seem sure! This put the final nail in the coffin for me and I want to move on and find someone else. Thing is, this is going to come as a complete shock to him because everything is seemingly ok right now. I just can't waste my time with someone who doesn't see a future with me....but how do I let him know??

2007-08-27 06:30:34 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a husband that works 7 days a week only to come home and veg out on the couch. I have 2 young sons and I get no help from him. Is it wrong for me to be pissed off about that? I understand that he works all day and wants to relax but I raise 2 kids all day and need some adult communication. ugh. Is there any of you ladies in the same boat?

2007-08-27 06:26:58 · 26 answers · asked by fireworkgirl 2

I moved to GA from cali w/ my five year old. The father does not pay child support or exercise his visitation rights. He just calls to yell at me all the time and make threats that he is going to take me back to court for custody. How do I change the venue to GA? And if anyone has any good contact numbers for the San Bernardino County child support office that would be great. ( I have called and left voice mails for weeks now and NO ONE ever calls me back)

2007-08-27 06:21:36 · 4 answers · asked by Sambug 1

So I've been with my b/f for a year and a half, and lately I feel like I'm really clingy, even though he says I'm not. I don't want to be, but like he's all I really have at college, and he knows that. So if I'm not w/ him or at class, I'm sittin in my room. I do work and am involved in clubs. But i just feel like he knows that i sit around and wait for him. He doesn't have any friends here besides me either, but he lives close to home. He does do alot for me, but not as much as he used to. Maybe I'm just bein paranoid because he does hang out with me everyday. And everything he does these days annoys me or makes me worried, and I don't know why. I just feel anxious alot and worry that something is terribly wrong with us. I don't want to push him away, and it's not like I'm the one calling him or im-ing him all the time, he always does that to me. He tells me that he'll never break-up with me and such, but what is wrong with me? Am I being too clingy?

2007-08-27 06:21:35 · 9 answers · asked by LateBloomer 2

Yesterday, my husband brought home the rest of our belongings that had been stored in his Mothers storage unit (we have moved recently). I came home from work at 10:30 PM to find the house pretty clean, but all this crap everywhere. His Mother, who works for Avon, apparently gave us a bunch of stuff. Now, because his Mother gave it to him, he counts it as disrespectful to get rid of it, so we have to keep it. We have a small home, which now has three desks (because his Mother gave them to us). Two are in our bedroom. Our closet is packed with his stuff. Electronics, an extra computer, music equipement, wires, golf clubs, etc.

I got so fuming this morning that I moved myself out of the bedroom. Our baby doesn't need closet space and I do, so I moved my things into it. Is it normal that I want out of that bedroom? He'll think my reason is ridiculous, but he won't move the stuff. Do you think I'm crazy?

2007-08-27 06:18:30 · 15 answers · asked by robinslooking 1

Why or why not?

2007-08-27 06:18:15 · 14 answers · asked by julesl68 5

Come on, I know you're out there. And how long did the relationship last with the mistress once you were free to be together?

(I'm nobody's mistress.....just wondering.)

2007-08-27 06:17:08 · 13 answers · asked by meagain 4

My fiance and I got into it really badly this morning, and we both said things that shouldn't have been said. It ended with him saying that he would have me thrown out of here by the cops if I didn't leave. He also said that he refused to keep the kids with him, so if I do leave, I have to make my daughter change schools, and basically uproot their lives. Should I just leave, or should I just show him that I can be more stubborn than he can?
I don't know why he would refuse to have the kids stay with him (I would be staying with my aunt, sleeping on her couch.) I have no money to support them, and no car to transport them.

2007-08-27 06:13:03 · 7 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7

I love my wife very much and she says she loves me.

However she had a relationship which she said was just a freindship with a much older man, he used to buy her drinks and get her drunk. He has a reputation of feeling women up when they are drunk. This happened while I was away caring for my son who was very ill.

When I came back she agreed that she would not even talk to him anymore.

I just found our latest cell phone bill, she used to keep it on the internet but since it was so high last time I decided to print it out to see why.

To my horror in one month their were 131 calls between her and this old pervert. All of which happened while I was at work.

I asked her if our marriage was over and she said she would be lost without me and she doesn't know why she kept talking to him.

What should I do?

2007-08-27 06:12:20 · 25 answers · asked by PokerPlayer 2

2007-08-27 06:09:33 · 7 answers · asked by boathouse 2

They claim they don't want to interfere with his life (which they indirectly do anyway). So, currently he could not find a job (not sure how hard he was looking), we had a successful business but sold it three years ago. Since then have incurred more debt and lets just say it isn't pretty. Anyway, now I have to work because he has health issues (from a drinking problem, which I am happy to say he no longer does). I have a great job and have a chance to move up, which would require a transfer. He has decided to go back to school for his masters. I'm all for that, however, his parents and grandparents keep telling him he needs to stick with this and not quit, to transfer would be a mistake. When it comes to me my happiness apparently isn't that important. They were irritated when he turned down a position near them, but the pay was less than mine and I would have had to quit my job. Transferring would enable him to continue his schooling and me to make more money.

2007-08-27 06:04:05 · 13 answers · asked by daff73 5