Well we've been together for 8yrs and we're madly in love and happy! He has a 12 year old daughter from a previous marriage. His daugther lives with us and she call's me mom. I love her do death just as if she where my own. We live a good life we are happy and couldn't be better. His ex is constantly harrasing us and calling me names when she's on the phone with their daugther. She keeps threatning to go to court for some sort of custody and she insist that her and my husband have not gotten a divorce!! I believe my husband and have no reason to doubt him. But what do I do about her? I can't ignore it and besides her I'm happy in my relationship! The way I look at it is she causes the drama so that i'll leave my husband but that's never gonna happen!! So how can I deal with her? How can I make her go away?
2007-08-27 07:03:57 · 12 answers · asked by banana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I mean should I try and be friend her or stay away? She is a drug addict and is not a reliable person. She is on every aid possible and has not had custody of her since she was 4 Yrs. old. She has been in and out of jail and has never really been part of her life. Oh and the reason she got taken away was because of child abuse.
2007-08-27 11:10:57 · update #1
This is your husband's problem to deal with. Apparently he is content to sit back and let suffer over it so he doesn;t have to do anything. Tell him he must file harassment charges against her immediately.
2007-08-27 07:10:36 · answer #1 · answered by fnd40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get something through your head right now -you are NOT the child's mother - she is. She will NEVER go "away". She has rights, regardless if the child lives with you or not. If you are trying to alienate her from her child's life because you don't want her around,then she has every right in the world to threaten custody action.
You should be giving the child privacy and not eavesdropping on calls.
I suggest you look into the matter about the divorce - your husband should be able to show you divorce papers to prove it.
In the meantime, you don't deal with her, you have your husband to speak with her about matters concerning the child - and you back off.
2007-08-27 07:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is not going to go away. You have taken her place & she is mad as hell. Wouldn't you be if it happened to you. Put yourself in her shoes & figure out how you would want to be treated. Then do that. woman to woman.
Get the daughter to call her Mommy #1 & you Mommy #2.
I've heard my daughter call my ex's new wife mommy & it hurt like hell. But luckly I was mature enough to deal with it. Ask the ex what does she want you to do. egknogledge how she feels & ask how you can make it better.
You might suggest that the child start calling you Aunt,
2007-08-27 09:14:51 · answer #3 · answered by shellysd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-08-27 07:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You take her to court first. Go to get the divorce papers to be sure that they are divorced. Sue her for harassment. Record her phone conversations with her daughter so you'll have proof. Tell her you're recording the conversations maybe that will make her watch what she says. Listen in on the phone if she continues to talk bad about you, hang up the phone . Just tell her ahead of time that you are listening.
2007-08-27 07:13:01 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can ignore her and need to.
she is likely bored, has no life, is jealous and sounds a little emotionally unstable to boot.
take it all with a grain of salt, as they say... just live your life and let her spout.. she is doing wrong by saying bad things about you to her daughter, and i'm sure the daughter knows it's wrong.
you can't change this woman, so just sit back and realize she's nuts.
2007-08-27 07:10:32 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a restraining order against her. tell her she cannot call your house if she is going to continue to talk poorly about you. also, to make sure about the divorce thing talk to an attorney and see if they could look into it for you. better to be safe than sorry.
2007-08-27 07:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by lilmissyprissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you discussed this with your husband? Sounds like he needs to deal with it. There seems to be a boundaries issue.
2007-08-27 07:15:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Order of Protection and send her crazy *** to jail
2007-08-27 07:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.There is nothing to deal with she is just mad because you have everything she wants ..don't let her bother you..she is only hurting herself ...when you hug her daughter just think how blessed you are...
2007-08-27 07:11:38 · answer #10 · answered by Pat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋