They claim they don't want to interfere with his life (which they indirectly do anyway). So, currently he could not find a job (not sure how hard he was looking), we had a successful business but sold it three years ago. Since then have incurred more debt and lets just say it isn't pretty. Anyway, now I have to work because he has health issues (from a drinking problem, which I am happy to say he no longer does). I have a great job and have a chance to move up, which would require a transfer. He has decided to go back to school for his masters. I'm all for that, however, his parents and grandparents keep telling him he needs to stick with this and not quit, to transfer would be a mistake. When it comes to me my happiness apparently isn't that important. They were irritated when he turned down a position near them, but the pay was less than mine and I would have had to quit my job. Transferring would enable him to continue his schooling and me to make more money.
2007-08-27 06:04:05 · 13 answers · asked by daff73 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is between you and your husband, and not his family.... they are voicing their objections because apparently they don't realize he is an adult and can cross the street all by himself now. Most parents would be delighted to see their child want to better him/herself.... tell mom and grandma to cut the umbilical cord and to get some counselling for codependancy!
2007-08-27 06:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by Linda S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 07:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the Bible it talks about how a man and woman should leave their parents and hold to each other. If you are married, then your relationship should be about each other, not what you can each get out of the other. Do not divorce. That should not be an option, but at least have a sit down talk with your husband, and his family and try to work out your differences, and explain why you think it would be good for your transfer. If they are unable to come around to your thinking, at least try to talk to your husband. It would be bad to make enemies of your in-laws, but worse for you to divorce.
2007-08-27 06:13:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what's best for you and your "immediate" family. It would seem that you've already been thru enough just with him let alone having to deal with his parents.
I would thank them for their input and concern but do what you think you should do which looks like the transfer. Eventually the in laws will get over it and if not you really can't be responsible for their happiness.
Of course I would always be respectful and cordial to them but that is all you owe them.
2007-08-27 06:15:10 · answer #4 · answered by m_c_m_a_n 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when you put it that way
there really is no reason for the discussion besides
his family being in your business.
I would remind him that he's a married man and he
has his own family to worry about which is you.
If he wants to move to be closer to them then he's
going to move without you. Let his family pay his
outstanding bills. I'm sure when you remind everyone that
there's alot of bills that need to be paid they'll shut up for
a few.
2007-08-27 06:14:13 · answer #5 · answered by Lady T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you have more issues with your husband than your in-laws....talk with him on this and discuss pro's and con's of your issue. You two are married, so make choices together. Unfortunatley, when you marry someone you also in a sense marry their family also. So remember, keep your issues among each other and let him know that and don't insult his parents...men and their mommies are so protective.
2007-08-27 06:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by toni l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to quit putting their noses into your business.
He needs to decide whether he wants to transfer with you so you can further your career, especially since it won't negatively impact his education.
If he decides that he absolutely cannot move away from his family, then he has chosen them over you; this will free you to move on with your own life.
2007-08-27 06:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by Mathsorcerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what is best for the two of you. They do not live your life, so they will just have to accept what ever the two of you decide.
2007-08-27 06:13:19 · answer #8 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, how fast do you have to transfere. then you and your husband ONLY!!! has to sit down and TALK it out .look at the pros and cons and last but not least the both of you can not be sel-fish.
2007-08-27 06:16:38 · answer #9 · answered by andria r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to support you. When he married you he was supposed to have cut the apron strings so he needs to tell them he is going with you to do what is right for his family.
2007-08-27 06:12:30 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋