My fiance and I got into it really badly this morning, and we both said things that shouldn't have been said. It ended with him saying that he would have me thrown out of here by the cops if I didn't leave. He also said that he refused to keep the kids with him, so if I do leave, I have to make my daughter change schools, and basically uproot their lives. Should I just leave, or should I just show him that I can be more stubborn than he can?
I don't know why he would refuse to have the kids stay with him (I would be staying with my aunt, sleeping on her couch.) I have no money to support them, and no car to transport them.
2007-08-27 06:13:03 · 7 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The house and everything in it are legally in his name, my name isn't on anything, so I think if he did have me thrown out I wouldn't have a legal leg to stand on.
2007-08-27 06:18:46 · update #1
To joumoer, the kids are BOTH his, don't be so quick to make assumptions or judge other people's lives before you walk a mile in their shoes.
2007-08-27 06:23:10 · update #2
Ok breathe, he can't just throw you out. You may not be married, but you live there, get mail there, and he has to actually evict you, and I mean serve you & take you to eviction court, to make you move. You have established residency. He can call the cops, and they won't do a thing.
So don't go anywhere.
I suggest you suggest counseling, so that the two of you learn how to disagree without it turning into a huge fiasco. And in the meantime, get yourself self-supportive with a car and a job, so that if it doesn't work out - you can care for yourself & your kids, on your own.
2007-08-27 06:26:26 · answer #1 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave yet. Find someone to keep the kids for a few hrs and calmly talk things out. You need to know where you stand with your relationship. Make him tell you straight up if he wants to work things out or give up. If he is the bio father of the kids, then he will have to pay child support! You need to get a job to be able to be your own person, no matter where your relationship goes!
2007-08-27 13:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by Linda S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should leave. Uprooting your childrens' lives for a while and struggling economically while you being working to earn a paycheck are *much* less damaging than the kind of fighting your just described.
Besides...he is willing to kick you and the children out into the street, even if he has to call the police to do it? Only a self-centered, childish brat does that...and you deserve someone better. Mad or not, there is no excuse for such behavior.
2007-08-27 13:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by Mathsorcerer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get a home, a job and a car before you get another boyfriend. I don't think living with a man who threatens to ruin your child's life is a good thing to force a child to endure. Might be ok for you, but do your kids need this crap?
2007-08-27 13:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have no money no car and kids with a guy who wont marry you but who does have a house but of course because you arent married has no responsibility to you but who would actually call the cops on you and throw you out because i assume you were such a lunatic this morning, and, you wonder if you should be more stubborn?
oh, yes, be more stupid, i mean stubborn! your actions already are getting you so far in life!
2007-08-27 13:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by jaded 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not married and living together? Also, you have a child from someone else? And you depend on him to support you? Lady, get a life! Start taking care of yourself and don't be so dependent on someone else. Should you leave? No, you can't afford to. Just be nice to him - you seem to need him more than he needs you - until you can find your own independence. Then relationships can be rewarding because you have more choices.
2007-08-27 13:20:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
get back in his face and tell HIM to leave...why should you be the one to pack up and go?? make sure you get a lawyer for child support too.....good luck
2007-08-27 13:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋