So I've been with my b/f for a year and a half, and lately I feel like I'm really clingy, even though he says I'm not. I don't want to be, but like he's all I really have at college, and he knows that. So if I'm not w/ him or at class, I'm sittin in my room. I do work and am involved in clubs. But i just feel like he knows that i sit around and wait for him. He doesn't have any friends here besides me either, but he lives close to home. He does do alot for me, but not as much as he used to. Maybe I'm just bein paranoid because he does hang out with me everyday. And everything he does these days annoys me or makes me worried, and I don't know why. I just feel anxious alot and worry that something is terribly wrong with us. I don't want to push him away, and it's not like I'm the one calling him or im-ing him all the time, he always does that to me. He tells me that he'll never break-up with me and such, but what is wrong with me? Am I being too clingy?
2007-08-27 06:21:35 · 9 answers · asked by LateBloomer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like you're bored! If you're in clubs and stuff don't you meet people there? Get a part-time job. Keep busy, that'll keep your mind off of him. You have too much time to think.
2007-08-27 08:04:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's just the pressure of College. Living far away, having know one else close to you, you might feel insecure that since he is the only thing good in your life, that you might loose him. Talk to him and discuss your feelings, if he loves you he should understand how you feel, I don't advice breaking up but maybe you need a friend girl that you can go out and have fun with, releive stress and know that you enjoy your bf because you want to and not cuz you have to.
2007-08-27 13:29:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is the one who is clingy. You say he doesn't have any friends, why not? You do work and are involved in clubs, but what does he do? I think what you are feeling is that you are his whole world and he has nothing but you. He needs to get out more so he has more than just you.
2007-08-27 13:42:26 · answer #3 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are being is too insecure.
It has nothing to do with him. Sounds like you need security and since you cant find it in yourself you lean all over him and your getting on your own nerves; let alone his. Keep him in your life but learn to love yourself more. Spend quality time with yourself and i dont mean sitting around alone waiting for him. Practice enjoying yourself and others will in return enjoy you. Then you will be more secure in your relationship with him and even other friends that may start coming around.
2007-08-27 13:44:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know what's wrong with you, but you could take some time and tell your boyfriend how you feel... i feel clingy, i don't meant to be, i feel insecure... or whatever you are feeling.
sometimes we need to get things out in the open and discuss them.
take care... and maybe stop sitting around... find a hobby, take a class, get OUT in your spare time and do nice things for YOU hon!! hugs
2007-08-27 13:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES! Find some other people to hang out with also.
2007-08-27 13:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by fnd40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start doing some things for him and you will feel better.
2007-08-27 13:28:49 · answer #7 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are. You need to expand your circle of friends...immediately.
2007-08-27 13:32:44 · answer #8 · answered by Mathsorcerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a life...Where is this going?
2007-08-27 13:36:08 · answer #9 · answered by EXPLOR6353 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋