Marriage & Divorce - 25 July 2007

I would not do this normally, but my husband is doing things behind my back and lies to my face like its nothing. This has gone on my entire marriage and frankly I've had enough. The problem is, I have no proof and I need it. I cannot afford a P.I. and I really need some advice. Please don't bash me for it, I am down to this as there is no other solution in my case. If I were to elaborate I don't think anyone here would really blame me.

2007-07-25 06:51:23 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Only 4% of all couples ever swing. That means it is not normal and everyone is not doing it. I mean, geez, what does that say about the Y!Answers community?

2007-07-25 06:47:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband once told me that i was controlling.when we met he used to drink all the time and never have money.when we married i told him he can drink,but occasionally.his friends invite him out all the time and i tell him i dont want him to go.i let him go,but with decent friends.he has many "male slut"friends that i have told him to boot.i dont tell him how to spend his money,but i do encourage him to save when he can.for these reasons,he says i am controlling.am i or not?

2007-07-25 06:42:40 · 12 answers · asked by fishin for answer 3

2007-07-25 06:41:35 · 25 answers · asked by mario_magic_66 1

About four years ago my husband cheated on me and had a little girl by another girl and he apologized and after a year apart i took him back. a week ago i was looking through his phone and saw a picture of him and his stipper girlfriend, and pictures she sent to him of herself naked saying I love you ,your my baby. I confronted him and he did not deny that it was his girlfriend and said that he met her a week ago. Tried to blame me because i always nag because he never comes home . We have two beautiful children together, why would he blame me, i have been a great mom, all i asked him for was to do stuff with us, instead me and the kids did everything alone becasue he is never home.And he is from lebanon, not saying they are all like that at all but maybe we do have a cultural differences here. I disconnected his phone, i am devistated and he is still with this girl and I am hurt. i just need some advice, maybe from someone who has gone through this or someone to build up my strength

2007-07-25 06:40:40 · 17 answers · asked by smilesallthetime 2

Boy, the girl who posted the question about her married lover got called all kinds of names, but the couple that wanted to swing...oh that's great! I mean WTF? Come on, cheating is cheating - atleast a secret affair means you actually respect the feelings of your significant other. And swinging? That means someone is going to use me for sex - exchange bodily fluids and yes, absord some of my DNA cells in the process. Ew! Boy people, I'm just saying, think about it before you let people sleep with you. . .

2007-07-25 06:37:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been married to my husband for 3 yrs, we've been together fo 8. Everything in our life is perfect except for in the bedroom. I'm just not interested anymore at all. I don't have any sexual feelings at anytime for anything anymore. We've tried just about everything to spice it up but still no luck. I know that its affecting our relationship, he tries to understand but i know it doesn't make sense. He thinks it's him and has started to get down on himself but it's not him at all. Like I said other than this our marriage is great but this is a big part of it and I know its affecting both of us.
Please Help!!!

2007-07-25 06:35:34 · 21 answers · asked by Cally_2332 2

Explain this to me? I have been on Y!A long enough to see this Q over and over.. I just don't understand. Please explain why you think it is "hot" or "erotic" to see your spouse with another person (especially the opposite sex). I would freak out if I had to watch my man with someone else..

2007-07-25 06:34:02 · 13 answers · asked by Wildflower 6

What does it mean if someone says you are a controlling person.

2007-07-25 06:32:26 · 19 answers · asked by J.J. 1

I didn't mean for it to happen. Let me explain. I have been dating my first much younger man for about 7months and he won't consider marriage now or anytime in the near or far fututre, or at least that's what he says. To make a long story short I went ahead to a dating site and met someone who's around my age. I have been with him for almost 2 months. None of them knows about the other, but my much younger man had initiatially been told but he wouldn't hear of it so I kept quiet. My online friend contacts me every day by phone and we chat often. I thought I would be waiting for this situation to solve intself, but it gets harder each day. I feel like a hypocrite and that I do not deserve the love of any of them, but I am not the one to start that I-am-not-considering-marriage-and-you-know-it-line from my younger man. I am falling in love with my more positive, older online man and we started getting intimate too on top of that . Now I am almost intimate with both. I am 53 years old

2007-07-25 06:15:51 · 7 answers · asked by firefaerie 3

If you are a Muslim woman, I'd like to get to know you just hit me up.

2007-07-25 06:11:29 · 5 answers · asked by AB 1

take his a s s to the cleaners or be fair and peaceful? He had affair, I gave him a chance, and things have gotten back to me since the chance I gave him, I have found him on sex seeking websites, in short, he totally blew his chance. A part of me wants to be fair and nice, for the sake of the kids, but the other part of me says make him pay for what he did. I have an angel on one shoulder, and a devil on the other...lol....what would you do if this situation was yours?

2007-07-25 06:11:18 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-25 06:08:57 · 9 answers · asked by non active 2

I feel weird but I love the wa she makes love to me, I wanna sit and watch and she her in action .. we have done the video and it just not the same.. am I a bad person for thinking this or what.. should I tell her?

2007-07-25 06:08:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

when we are at home he kisses me and wants to hold me and hold hands and all that BUT when we go out say to like the store he goes his way and lets me go my way and we never hold hands or kiss or nothing. why?? if i try to get close to him when were out he'll follow along but if i dont make a move he doesnt either. i fell like he has lost love for me but then when we are at home hes such a sweet heart.

2007-07-25 06:03:31 · 9 answers · asked by TTC #2 Baby Dust MEEE! 5

i am totally depressed. is there a book or website for newly married couples? barely married and soooo many problems. i really don't like the stepdaughter (18). the stepson (16) doesn't come around. my new husband said one positive thing that seems to help.... "thank God she moved out before you moved in!!!!"

She calls him and screams and cries about everything.... did this before we were married. She doens't calm down until he gives her money.

i am really upset and i don't want anyone to know what hell i'm in.

2007-07-25 05:59:03 · 6 answers · asked by (!)listen 5

My horrible husband constantly tells people about our sex life, or the lack of sex life, to total strangers. He has been known to tell people I am a zombie in bed, and not sexy enough for him. I don't know if I can take much more of this abuse!

2007-07-25 05:57:46 · 26 answers · asked by H_bomb the III 2

Together for almost 16 years with alot of good times. She started a relationship with a coworker and left me for him even loved me right up to leaving me. We are divorced now and she told me that she fell out of love with me. But its a small town and I know she had to say more than that or she would look bad. I heard from a friend that she tells her close friends that I was emotonally abuseing her! Telling her she is beautiful and sexy is abusive? I was good to her maybe to good as I think she is nothing more than a spoiled brat who got everything she wanted growing up. Do I defend my character or just let it go??? I really am a nice guy as I have no reason to BS on yahoo Q&A...

2007-07-25 05:56:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

He only mentioned to me that he would sell the car to settlle th debt. Instead he paid and did not sell the car but gave it back to her. Shes a manipulative woman. he decided to give her the car after she gave him a tie and a card signed by her 2 sons as a birthday present. he has gone into our savings to pay her debt. i dont opppose him helping his family but he should have the decency to tell me the truth. he thinks Im not aware do I ask him?

2007-07-25 05:56:14 · 6 answers · asked by cassis 1

2007-07-25 05:54:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Adultry and financial infidelity. One partner has one problem the other partner the other problem. Now coming to blows and wondering if divorce is the only answer. How do you know? They said it wouldn't happen again, but it did time and time again. One more than the other. Both equally guilty. How do you move on and grow together or is there so much flooding under the bridge it's washed out?

2007-07-25 05:53:59 · 16 answers · asked by Mystress L 4

If I wanted to take both names would I be.... Jane Doe-Doe??

2007-07-25 05:52:06 · 10 answers · asked by ? 3

I have been married for 4 years, and it seems that my husband has been cheating ever since.I only know of two girls he has had in our home, but every time i am gone for more then an hour he is on the pc talking to girls or phone sex.He says that he has a problem and he can not help it but i find that hard to believe. I really want to make us work out. Is there anything that could help him or should I just give up on trying to help him??

2007-07-25 05:45:06 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

any thought on it, or changes should be made, please help thx

I would like to sit down face to face with you somewhere quiet near future. Sit down and explain what the best interests for us in this marriage we can both accept If we don't, it will come back to haunt us in many ways. We can both accept. The key is to do it maturely, without deliberate pain, so that we can both accept. You as my wife have questions, I answer them as fairly as I can for you without confusion.
Or choose other options, such as marriage counseling. These can also be logical steps that may help to keep this marriage together. Might even be able to stay friends. Or if not, we can look back on our time together as an enjoyable experiment which just didn't work out the way we originally hoped. I hope to spend some time together in November, I still would like to fulfill that day for you in Vegas,Canada or at a Romantic Lodge. We can share a peaceful moment together as best as we can. .

2007-07-25 05:36:18 · 17 answers · asked by newyorkerhpd 1

My wife, if you have been paying attentionto my previous questions, has made my life difficult by physically abusing me, trying to frame me, and playing mind games with me...really bad stuff...amd I was the VICTIM in all of this...to say I am 100% guilt free would not be right but I would NEVER have done this kind of stuff to prove a point or to just be a jerk...

Anyway, she says she misses being with me and sees the errors of her ways...I have to be honest, I have heard all of this before...many times with no results...so I tend to be cautious when she says these things...

Well the thing is I love her and I do not want to be blinded by love when it comes to her drinking problem and past phyical abuse towards me...nobody deserves to be treated like I was treated...NOBODY!!!

Well my stipulations were that she go into a minimum 6 month detox and rehab program to stop her drinking and that she attend an anger management program as well to control her temper...

2007-07-25 05:25:04 · 12 answers · asked by ashley_bottoms 2

2007-07-25 05:19:49 · 17 answers · asked by Susan 2

Is it possible for a man who has a coke habit to stay faithful to his wife? My husband has never given me reason to doubt his fidelity. He tells me I can call the numbers on his cell whenever, he 'appears' pretty comfortable. He's pretty much always home, loves and plays with the kids, we used to have sex alot (Up until last week when I discovered his coke habit and that hurt too much). I just wonder if coke habit = equals= unfaithful all the time? Thanks everyone. I'm seriously messed up in the head with all these doubts. I feel like leaving work I'm so sick even thinking he could be lying.

2007-07-25 05:02:25 · 11 answers · asked by Hope 4

I knew he had a kid but I didnt know it was with a major "b%&*h".Maybe Iam wrong but do you think its ok for her to come around to the family reunions& partys she still calls my mother inlaw "Suegra" which means that she is still with my husband should I bring it to her attention or the family needs to get a piece of my mind ? I dont know who to be more angry with!My husband stood up for me and told his mom he thought they were all wrong including his sisters& brothers but they all said they didnt have aproblem with me they were just scared "the Devil' would not bring the kid around . What should I do?

2007-07-25 05:01:54 · 17 answers · asked by BulletGirl 2

My husband and I have a great marriage of 24 years. Our sex life is great and still plentiful. I have a very bad snoring problem. My husband sleeps on the couch. I miss his warm body at night...

2007-07-25 04:55:11 · 34 answers · asked by nothingbutmotherlove 3

I would like to make her more sexy and less zombie like. Any suggestions?

2007-07-25 04:46:57 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous