Marriage & Divorce - 24 July 2007

I recently asked my wife if she would like a divorce. Of course I was prepaired for a multitude of answers and got the one that I thought that I was going to get. Which was that she was thinking about it. However, she is willing to work things out. From the tone in her voice and the statements that she made she sounds like she is serious about trying to make things work.

I also asked her later on if she wants a me to help push herself in her job and education. And she said yes.

One of my questions is, do you think that she was or is wanting a divorce or if this is really a way of getting me to be a better husband?

The other is, do you think that if I do the simple things that she is requesting that it will help us out in the long run?

2007-07-24 23:59:23 · 16 answers · asked by kataklysmkamel 2

Recently me and wife have been going through some things.Thewords of Divorce have been mentioned and to futhercomplicate things we have three children. I am older than my wife by a few years. Every now andthen she will talk with me about change that is fine with methat will take time.But the question that keeps hiting me me is do I love her. My RESPONSE IS YES and that is not based souly on thekids asshe thought. I really do love her. But then she ask meif I love her regardless of anything and she gets the same answer of YES. Wahat I am wondering now is what is love and how do you know whenyou do love someonelike that. I know what is was for me inthe beginning of the relatinship but what is it suppose to be now?

2007-07-24 23:30:25 · 7 answers · asked by Ryan m 1

I know how I feel about about it but I would like to know how others feel. This is the kind of conversation that goes on between my wf and other men either face to face or over the net usually with guys she knows. This is what I found recently

From Guy
Hay mate Good to catch up with you. Even if it was just on the net.blah blah I'd like to get up there just to get away. If we get a wink wink on the side, that's ok. blah blah I was just thinking how good it would be getting away from it all and making you wink wink every where,lol, blah. blah got training on tonight so It'll be late when I get back. I may miss chatting with you.blah. wink wink you one day,lol.

Responce from my wife
hi ya mate, u have to watch what you say in your emails mate, daughter just read it, she is upset with you talking to her mother like that, lol, i so cant wait untill to you do

Sorry I had to delete and start again it was a mess and unreadable

2007-07-24 23:22:48 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 25 and my parents want me to get married soon.They are looking for a suitable boy for me.Theproblem is that all the persons they choose for me i dont like them. I believe that marriage is a relationship based on love..U sud love a person to marry him..but my parents say that love wil come after marriage..My heart is not willing to accept this while my mind says that ur family is suffering because of u as i have youger sisters after me who have to get married too...All my life i have always wanted a person who wud love me .. who wud be my friend..But in reality all i get to see is quite the opposite..I am petrified of marriage..i dont know what to do..Listern to my heart and wait for the right person and upset my parents more..Or sud i make my parents happy by marrying their choice and break my own heart ?

2007-07-24 23:01:47 · 12 answers · asked by Lucy 1

i caugth my husband flirting online,and it really bothers me alot..how can i deal with it?

2007-07-24 22:36:27 · 12 answers · asked by waki! 1

I recently heard that since finishing school (3yrs ago) some of my former high school class mates have already gotten engaged, married and have had babies (or planning to). Now we are only about 21 or so. I was just wondering on whether people still feel the need to get married to get validation (or some sort of meaning) in their lives? I thought ppl who are in their early twenties are ideally exploring life, meeting different ppl, pursuing their career etc..
Im not judging but was just wondering whether ppl like this neglected to bear this in mind or just needed immmediate validation in their lives.

2007-07-24 22:31:59 · 7 answers · asked by . 1

2007-07-24 22:04:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-24 22:00:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

There is this women. I fooled around with her when we were younger and never went any further than that. That was about 8 yrs ago. Now I am living with my girl friend and have kids. She also lives with her boyfriend and also has kids. We also live in the same apt. complex 2 bldgs. apart. We see each other often. I hang out with her current boyfriend. Well the other night she told me she still thinks about me. I also do the same. I wonder What If? What could have been? I talk to her every night while I am at work and she told me she has feeling for me and the more I talk to her I am starting to have more and more feeling for her. She was engaged but she called it off since have started talking. What am I to do? Her boyfriend doesn't appreciate her and my girlfriend has become a total nightmare over the last couple of months. Please help.

2007-07-24 21:54:37 · 25 answers · asked by CRUNKMAN 2

2007-07-24 21:51:26 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am cheating on my husband and he is cheating on me, now I just found out my boyfriend was cheating on me with my friend who is cheating on my husband.
This is so weird! if anyone helps me I will give you best answers as much as i can PLEASE!!!!!!!!!

2007-07-24 21:36:09 · 21 answers · asked by Melanie 1

I am married for 10 years and have 2 kids.We share a good relationship.But of late, my hubby is hiding his email passwords from me. Since i am a little egositic, i dont want to ask him directly.It hurts to know that he is not open with me.He was never like this earlier.I dont suspect any extra marital affairs but at the same time not able to rule out the chance either.genuine help appreciated.thanks

2007-07-24 21:34:10 · 25 answers · asked by shiraji 1

If your husband put lotion on your feet every night, would that make you happy? Would you be willing to put lotion on your husband’s feet? Yes, no, maybe?

If no, why? If yes, why? And the maybe’s, well, I guess your thinking about it.

The reason I am asking is that I put lotion on my wife’s feet pretty much whenever I am home. I am a truck driver, so there are a few nights a month that I don’t get to put the lotion on.

I have asked my wife if she would return the favor and put lotion on my feet. She said no. She then said that if I don’t want to put lotion on her feet, then I don’t have to. But that just leads up to the silent treatment, etc. Not fun.

What would you do?

2007-07-24 20:16:49 · 11 answers · asked by Xtruckerwannabe 2

I see many couples out there that have been married for 25 plus years, and i always wonder if one of them ever cheated on the other at one time. Do you think everybody eventually cheats at one time or another???

2007-07-24 19:49:31 · 15 answers · asked by meow 2

2007-07-24 19:28:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for six years and my wife's and I's sex life is minimal. When we talk, she tells me she has no sex drive and doesn't know how to make it better. She swears to me that she is still very attracted to me but it's to the point it is effecting our marriage. Can anyone give suggestions on how to increase her sex drive? We have tried pornography, which works but it is a temporary fix. Any Idea's?

2007-07-24 18:52:45 · 17 answers · asked by big daddy 2

We had a cd that I had to cash out to pay some bills but I also spent alot of the money on me. The CD was $2,000.00 and there is only $400.00 left I don't have the exact amount that I spent on myself but it mostly went for bills. I want what is mine by law, but I also want to pay her back for some of the money I spent on myself. Her 401k is about $5,000.00.

2007-07-24 18:38:15 · 20 answers · asked by mkhab2003c 1

an abusive boyfriend/husband change?

2007-07-24 18:26:55 · 22 answers · asked by C12H22O11 4

2007-07-24 18:20:49 · 19 answers · asked by van 1

2007-07-24 18:19:44 · 51 answers · asked by Laymo 2

I mean you make promise vows saying you will always be truthful and loyal then they go out and cheat.

2007-07-24 18:15:50 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-24 17:59:09 · 3 answers · asked by tira 1

We often talk about eqal rights for man & women.Then my point is that in case of divorce unemployed should also have right to claim for maintainence from his earning wife.

2007-07-24 17:52:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Seems not visiting with his children would be a deterent to his no paying the support. But if he really didn't care whether he saw them or not, he wouldn't pay, and they would be better off anyway.

2007-07-24 17:50:29 · 21 answers · asked by goldtabl 2

i took her back the other times but told myself enough is enough but its been a while since we broke up and she hasnt dated anyone else yet and still shows me affection she seems like she changed but i dont know if i can take that chance again any advice

2007-07-24 17:45:13 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

And what do you think of girls who try to show off a whole bunch of skin just to get your attention?

2007-07-24 17:44:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-24 17:43:40 · 22 answers · asked by mojo569 4

I'm 17 and I've made some bad mistakes in the past regarding boys. I've dissappointed my mother numerous times, even after I told her I would do right. I'm really trying to do some soul searching and get my life on track. I'm a senior in high school and I just want to live life and focus on me right now. I want to get the boys off my mind and just be a better person overall. I don't really know where t start because I kinda feel like it's too late to do right. Any advice?

2007-07-24 17:38:19 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I wabnna get my hubby back, but I need some ideas! No ideas about faking to be cheating please;}

2007-07-24 17:35:55 · 6 answers · asked by tayi-baby 1

My son is 4 , and he loves to go to his grandmothers (my in laws) and I am forever fighting with them to watch him when he goes out side ,put his seat belt on ,Stop giving him coffee,well the latest thing when he slept over his grandfather told him to take his foot and put it between his grandmothers legs and wiggle his toes. it makes her laugh.... am I wrong for thinking this has gone too far ? or is this just playing ? my wife seems to always take her family's side and thinks it was wrong but not that bad to make an issue about it I feel I need to stand firm and never allow sleep overs and only to visit when one of us are there plaese help and ty

2007-07-24 17:32:06 · 15 answers · asked by tom d 1