Why do I think about cheating when Im in love with the guy Im with? Is something missing?

Answer 1

It is the natural thing to do. It is built into your subconscious. Women have always found mates that were dependable and good providers and then when they are ovulating have sneaky sex to select better genes for children. It is not a conscience decision, it is based on natural selection.

Women that did not have sneaky sex to select the best genes for their children and thereby improve the odd of their children surviving to adulthood and pass their genes are not our ancestors. In modern society with birth control it may not be applicable; however, modern times are a flash in the pan. Our brains are wired to the millions of years during the stone age times when we evolved.

Answer 2

I think it's human nature. It's natural to look at a hot guy and wonder what it'd be like to have sex with him (briefly, not obsessively). It's also natural to think about exes and remember how good things were and imagine being with them again. And hey, just because you love the person you're with doesn't mean you don't spark with anyone else. The difference that your love makes is that you can so no to temptation and avoid situations where it would be tough to do so. I'm married, and I love my husband more than anyone else in the world, but I still know that if I ever saw my ex again I would have a hard time not cheating because we spark, that's why we were together in the first place. So I won't see him again, and if I had to, I would make sure we were never in a situation where that could happen. It doesn't mean something's missing, it means your human. However, if you can ever forget about your love enough to cheat, or if it ever becomes unclear whether or not you'd actually be willing to cheat, yes, there probably is a problem. I may think about it, but I know I'd never, ever do it. If you're seriously considering it then you need to take a look at your relationship and figure out if it's worth being in. Otherwise, feel free to fantasize. Just remember that a big part of the fantasy man is you don't have to deal with him in real life. You never fight, there are never bills, never rough patches, and therefore no one will ever be that man.

Answer 3

You don't know what is missing? No one else can tell you. If you are thinking about cheating, think of the reason why. I can tell you from experience, that cheating will only make things worse. If you are really in love with the one you are with try talking to him about the things in the relationship that are bothering you or things that you may want from the relationship, but are not getting. Don't cheat on him. I made that mistake. I tried talking to him and talking to him and he never gave me the time of day. Finally, after two years of this, I cheated on him. I regret it to this day and still love him very much. We tried to work past it but unfortunately were unable too. If I could take back anything in this world, I would take back that. Please, do not do it! Try talking things out. If after time he doesn't listen or want to work on the things that need to be worked on, leave him. But don't cheat on him. It will only hurt him and make you feel terrible for days to come. Hope this helps and good luck.

Answer 4

Surprise! You are not in love with the guy you are with. You are in lust with the guy you are with. That is why you are still thinking about cheating. If you really were in love, there would be a heart felt commitment sealing out all others. You just don't know what the real thing feels like yet.

Answer 5

If it's real love, then you will never think of cheating. Love is total giving without taking any consideration on what you'll get in return. If you are thinking that there's something missing. Then it's not real love. There's nothing amiss, when the LOVE you feel is REAL.

Answer 6

No I think that's not uncommon people get bored and want and need change. Talk to him about maybe you want to get freakier in the bedroom or spice things up a bit. If you address your issues with him you might be surprised in that he's willing to do what it is to make you happy or keep your attention. Having thoughts about cheating is one thing but doing it and not have communicated your feelings with your man first is kinda messed up. Just something to think about the next time you get that feeling!

Answer 7

In my opinion it is one of either two things. First, the relationship you are in does not have everything you want in it or does not have it anymore.

Secondly and what I believe personally is that we humans need variety in our lives. Looking at the world today, there are very rare occasssions in which true love lasts a long time. Look at it honestly. How many 'happy' marriages are there in today's society? I think it is in our nature to want to explore new options after a certain time, even if we still want to hang on to what we have a well.

Confliction is in our nature and it is only natural to question if a desire for something new.

Answer 8

Yes there is something missing. It may not be in the relationship but with you. When people go outside of the relationship, or consider it, then they are hoping to find something when they leave. FYI , they are usually disappointed. Focus on your reasons fo cheating and fix that in you or in your relationship. Good Luck.

Answer 9

If you're thinking about cheating then obviously there is something lacking in your present relationship. Either address the issue or move on. How would you feel if you knew that your boyfriend was thinking about cheating on you?

Answer 10

Alot of times, we will Live in a Fantasy World. The grass is Seldom Greenier on the other side. If you have a Good Man, do not risk losing him over a Fantasy ,which you turn into a Reality by doing the act and regretting it..