A question for married women.?

Question

If your husband put lotion on your feet every night, would that make you happy? Would you be willing to put lotion on your husband’s feet? Yes, no, maybe?

If no, why? If yes, why? And the maybe’s, well, I guess your thinking about it.

The reason I am asking is that I put lotion on my wife’s feet pretty much whenever I am home. I am a truck driver, so there are a few nights a month that I don’t get to put the lotion on.

I have asked my wife if she would return the favor and put lotion on my feet. She said no. She then said that if I don’t want to put lotion on her feet, then I don’t have to. But that just leads up to the silent treatment, etc. Not fun.

What would you do?

Just wanted to add this quick note. Most of your answers are great. On that note I need to let you know that because I can only choose one as the best doesn't mean that yours was not good if I didn't choose it.

I like most of the answers that I have seen so far. Thanks for responding.

Forgot to add this. Personally, I don't think me feet are ugly. I don't have any disfiguring qualities or anything else that would make it an unpleasant experience.

I have asked my wife why she doesn't want to put lotion on my feet and she says she just doesn't want to.

Her feet are quite dry and I really don't mind doing it for her. My feet get dry once in a while and it would be nice if she would do the same for me.

I told her that I just want to feel her hands rubbing my feet. I like to feel her touch. It’s almost like when she cuts my hair. I hate it when she rushes through the hair cut because it means I don’t get to feel her hands on my scalp, etc.

Well, I guess it's time for me to pick the best answer, Please don't be offended if I don't pick yours. Most of the questions are great, but only one can be the best.

Again, thanks for responding.

Um, one more little detail. I've never been concerned or asked my wife to rub my feet after I rub hers. I just wanted to know if she would ever rub my feet. Her answer is NO. It didn't matter what time or when, just that she might/ Oh well. Such is life.

Thanks again for all or your answers.

Answer 1

Me personally, i would return the favor, maybe not everytime because well because my husband is in the mood to doesnt necessarily mean every time he's in the mood to that i would be.. but id try to do sweet things for him as well ..

Im married to a truck driver as well.. so i know what u mean about being gone..

But i also know women, and well alot of women, dont like messing with mens feet.. but if she's not into feet she should be returning the favor in other ways, like massaging ur back or legs etc..

Sounds more to me that ur wife is either spoiled with u catering to her, that she now expects it with out returning the favor.. or Your gone for such long periods of time, that she does want to feel special when your home, but yet is forgetting that u've been gone as well and u worked hard, and that it needs to go both ways and not just one way, atleast not all the time..

Answer 2

I am a OTR truckers wife. I wouldn't have a problem putting lotion on wherever he ask me to. Except his feet they are ugly ! LOL !!! If the lotion on the feet is a big problem ask her. If she got a problem with it I don't think its a big deal. She should at least say why. She might feel a bit neglected & taken for granted while your gone. I know in my marriage I sometimes do. My husband hands me dirty laundry & sits in the recliner. I know exactly how things are for a driver's wife. Just spend what little time you do have at home, with her. Forget about the fighting, enjoy being together !

Answer 3

Well I'm the opposite way. I will rub my husband's feet, especially when they are sore, but I really hate having my feet rubbed. Its just not my thing.
I am assuming that your feet are clean and neat when you ask her, otherwise it may not be a pleasant experience for her. But I do think its a bit selfish of your wife to want you to do her feet, and refuses to do it for you. It then seems to be a kind of power trip on her part.
If her thing is just that she doesn't like to touch feet, could she rub your back/neck or whatever instead? She should be willing to compromise, and so should you. That's how you make a relationship work.

Answer 4

I would tell her to grow up. My husband and I take turns. I would do whatever he wanted that made him feel good and he would do the same for me. Start getting pedicures if you want lotion on your feet and suggest she do the same because marriage is 50-50, life is too short to be childish and give the silent treatment. What she's doing with the silent treatment is have control. You need to stop her asap, it will only get worse.

Answer 5

Now, the real question is…do you like taking care of your wife’s feet? Especially when she’s saying that you don’t have to, as long as she does not have to…return the favor?
Do you do that to make her feel good or just because you like her feet?

I have beautiful feet, the kind that you see in ads (no… better) and that were used as models for Parisian French sculptors (really, my feet are in a modern Parisian museum right now) so my husband likes to massage my feet and do other things to them because they’re cute and beautiful (not dry but with perfect curve of the pinky) and sensitive so I really like it too.

So the pleasure is mutual, him, enjoying my feet and me, enjoying him enjoying my feet.

I do not think he’s doing me a favor just because I’m enjoying it…he’s enjoying it too…so it’s mutual.

Now if he would tell me to do the same to his feet…what the frak!!!!!!!!

His feet are not ugly or anything…I guess…never paid much attention to them.

I guess I could do him a BIG favor and massage them but I would not get any pleasure out of it only the pleasure to give him a favor. I’d rather rub my own feet (which I always do in my bath).



Just enjoy your wife’s feet, and let her enjoy your enjoyment of her feet…
Don’t ask her to enjoy your feet, you’re just a guy with guy’s feet…

If you want to feel her touch without making her feel like it’s a chore, just make her wash your hair (the scalp is very erogenous) or just let her barely touch you with her hands on your whole naked body until you cannot stand the goosebumps any longer.

Answer 6

Hey:
Looking at your question is like looking at my hubby writing that.
I should probably start by saying that I love my man with every breath of my soul but when it comes to massages I get them and seldom return the favour!
I know I am not selfish because I would do anything for him and cut myself out but its like this for a woman:
When we do get massages or footrubs we feel so loved and relaxed that we become lazy(smile) and relaxed and comfortable.Its like our brain shuts up from relaxation,its not we donot wanna do anything for our man put we are so damn comfortable we perfer to basket in that bliss.
So if she says that she just doesn't want to its the truth,women are just wired different I guess;in a good way.
Goodluck.

Answer 7

i am not much on having anything done with my feet...too ticklish.
i always rub my husbands feet, legs, shoulders or whatever he wants. your wife needs to get over herself

make an appointment for a professional massage...see how much she likes that

Answer 8

What's with the lotion obsession? Anyway,,,I wouldn't like my Husband to do the same thing, every night to me..no, I like spontaneity and variety..not everything scheduled and rehearsed.

Maybe your wife is getting a little bored with LOTION...how about thinking of something else? Like...maybe some sleep, yeah, that sounds like an idea...

Answer 9

sounds like she mistakes your kindness as weakness. happens often enough. i would stand strong through the silent treatment. she'll come around, just stand your ground.
id be happy to have my feet rubbed. dont let her take you for granted. a woman who respects someone would not allow someone to rub there feet, w/o being willing to return the favor. i would rub my mans feet.
next time tell her, if she wont rub your feet you wont rub hers. then stand by your word. when you stand by your word, she'll respect you..(although she'll be pissed at you at first) re-cant on your word, she wot respect a man wh doesnt follow there own word, but she'll be happy cause she won..
she'll eventualy be happy and come around when she knows your serious, and utimately thats respectable. being a doormat is not.. you seem like a good guy..hope everything works out..
good luck ;)

Answer 10

How selfish is she? Truck drivers work exceedingly long hours and the mental awareness they need to carry out their jobs is unbelievable, I know I am married to one.

Your wife should be pandering to your needs not you to hers. I personally don't do that for my hubby but I don't expect him to do it to mine either.