I see many couples out there that have been married for 25 plus years, and i always wonder if one of them ever cheated on the other at one time. Do you think everybody eventually cheats at one time or another???
2007-07-24 19:49:31 · 15 answers · asked by meow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess i kinda wonder this now because my husband of ten years did cheat, and i never thought he would do that, i just didn't see it in him and how he hide it so well, i never ever would have done that to him, kinda made me feel that i really never knew him
2007-07-24 20:04:25 · update #1
no i dont, i think that mature couples that up hold to their words, and promises (vows) i think that although there are always ups and downs in all marriages and obsticles that need to be faced..i think they owned up to the choices they made 25 plus years ago to love honor and respect and to remain faithful as long as they both shall live .. if everyone cheated , no one would even want to try to be married.. there would be no sense in entering a marriage knowing eventually one or both of u were going to break each others hearts, usually people get married because they do intend to be with that one person for the rest of their life.. People that cheat, are immature people trapped in an adult body that have no morals or values, and basically no heart.. because its more respectful to bow out of a marriage, with dignity and pride, then to hurt someone so deeply that u once cared about so greatly.. even if things change over time, they should atleast have earned that much respect from their spouse..
2007-07-24 20:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to say who will and will not cheat no matter how long they have been together. It really depends on the person and the respect that they have for the relationship and the other person. Sometimes feelings get lost, and one may not feel obligated to stay faithful but just do not want to hurt the other person. But, if feelings are lost, it would show how much respect that person has if they do not go to the other person and say so. If your husband cheated on you, it really does not matter the reason because he should have been man enough and had more respect for the person that you have been to him for the past ten years and said that there was a problem in the relationship, rather than going out and cheating on you.
If I were you, right now I would even question if someone would eventually cheat after time because that is not a question anyone can answer but the person who is willing to cheat. You need to be asking yourself if this is the person you want to continue living your life with, and if you can put this behind you and learn to trust him again because if not, the relationship will go down the drain because of the hurt and deceit he caused to you.
2007-07-25 03:18:53 · answer #2 · answered by miss voe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everybody cheats. I know I will never cheat on my boyfriend. many people use the excuse that you cannot live without sinning, without cheating, that it's human nature but it's not true. With all the love and respect you have for your partner and all the integrity you have in you, you would not even think of cheating. When you date a person you should look carefully at that person and see the little things they do and the one thing you should concentrate on is faithfulness and unfaithfulness. Cause with all the ups and downs of marriage you definitely do not need nor want to worry about whether your partner is cheating on you or not.
But yes it is possible that a couple do not at all cheat on each other.
2007-07-25 03:27:02 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdivine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes usually it's the husband that cheats but not always women are slowly catching up to the men. To talk to the wives there husbands don't cheat.Do they no just how stupid that sounds .They speak for their husband and their husbands agree with them.No one knows what the other does when they leave the house that's where trust comes in and that's how husbands get away with cheating .They know the wife would never dream that they are out sleeping with another woman.It's funny when i hear all these immature couples that so believe in what they say but they just don't know yet how hard and tempting life is when you look at the same person day in and day out and here comes someone that makes you feel alive again.That's hard to walk away from and 90 % don't walk away sad to say.
2007-07-25 03:16:12 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally have a negative outlook on the subject. One thing I do find very logical is that everyone can potentially cheat. If an opportunity presents itself, I think its quite probable. I have seen alot in my lifetime, including alot of this. I have also seen situations where the man seemed like he'd never do it, and has. In my personal opinion, I think alot of men in the world do it and get away with it. It really isn't hard to cheat, and its not as hard as one may think to be able to cheat.
2007-07-25 03:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by cindy h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe adultery is a part of everyone's life. We are all tempted in life to do things that we know are wrong. At the same time, we all fall for certain temptations, and for someone who has been married for quite some time, it is tempting to look elsewhere for adventure and pleasure. That's when we can use the love we feel for our significant other to wipe out any adulterous feelings we are having.
2007-07-25 03:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the communication fades and the spark is allowed to smolder out between a couple, i believe that this is the time that a person could start desiring attention. i do not think everyone eventually cheats. i couldnt to the woman i love for nothing, marriage is sacred to me. i would divorce first if i needed to do that.
2007-07-25 03:27:38 · answer #7 · answered by Jack 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOWAY,every couple has problems for sure but not cheating issue.my parents were married for35 years not always happy but for sure faithfull.you know the most important thing in marraige is respect for each other when respect is lost then there is no need for this marraige to continue as you can expect cheating and abbuse.
2007-07-25 02:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by mony y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think everyone eventually cheats. Cheating is for losers.
Edited to add: It sucks what you are going through. It's really your husbands lack of self control or possibly a mid life crisis, don't blame yourself! He should have had the balls to be upfront!
I'm really sorry you are going through this.
2007-07-25 02:56:27 · answer #9 · answered by **Llola** 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes maybe by emotional or some other. I have a friend who had an emotional affair with somebody online. she found out her husband was also doing the same thing. he had some profile on a friends site stating to be single with a ex girlfriend as a new friend also single. he doesn't know that she knows
2007-07-25 02:56:03 · answer #10 · answered by Smarty Pants 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋