I am so in love with my woman, how is it possible some men forget their wifes when they cheat on them.?

Question

I mean you make promise vows saying you will always be truthful and loyal then they go out and cheat.

Answer 1

They are just selfish losers who dont take marriage seriously- sounds like your wife is a lucky woman... good luck :)

Answer 2

I think it could be that alot of couples after awhile take each other forgranted and don't work at keeping things exciting and alive. They get into the same old rut day after day and stop communicating together expecting that they should read each other's mind. People cheat for various reasons even though the partner that is cheated on is perfect in every way. You have spouses that are not content being with only one person .......sex addicts........or feel they are intitled to it for this reason or that. Even though a spouse does good deeds and is great with all the people around them does not mean that they are loyal in the committment of their marriage vows. They may start out in all sincerity but fall short after time on being a faithfull partner.

Answer 3

I think alot of the times people get caught up in the sexual attrection to really look at the person and they get too deep and then realize oh s!%&
I messed up and instead of taking a responsible route they dive deeper into trouble,
heres the same Q for women I am soo in love with my husband why would women cheat on their husbands we have been married for 8 years and have 4 kids and i love and respect that man more and more everyday ,,I makes you wonder why do people even get married if they dont know each other very well ,well I am glad to hear a man with this point of view you both are very lucky people
and im glad to see that there are real men who dont cheat GB

Answer 4

You are a lucky man, but you ask a complex question. Some guys are just scumbags who aren't capable of loyalty and don't value what they have, but I actually think that's the tiny minority of men who cheat.

I think the majority of men who cheat just want some kindness and human contact from someone of the opposite sex. Just hang around here on Answers for a while and you'll get a feel for just how many petty, bitter, unkind, plain old malicious wives there are out there (I'm surprised more men don't cheat honestly).

This does not excuse what they are doing at all, because cheating only hurts everyone more, but I think there would be a LOT less cheating in this world if more wives simply loved their husbands more than their own pettiness, and were simply kind.

Before I get a lot of hate mail from women on this subject, let me just point one thing out. My ex wife was a high-priced escort before I met her. Yes, she was screwed up and yes I was immature and screwed up for marrying her, but all of that's another topic and beside the point. What I wanted to point out to you is that she told me that far more than half of the men who hired her did NOT WANT SEX of any kind (shocked me at the time, but now I understand it). All they wanted was someone who would talk to them and treat them like they were a person - with kindness and respect. Why? Because their wives wouldn't.

I just wish more husbands and wives actually took the time to appreciate and care about each other. There would be a lot less divorce, cheating, and broken homes, in my opinion.

Answer 5

I never understood how men could do this either.
i think they start to forget about the love they shared with their wife. They forget since schedules get busy and the time spent together starts to diminish. A woman they don't know begins to seem more appealing then there wife that they have been with for years.. some people have a hard time not acting on temptations. Your wife is very lucky to have such an intelligent man who respects his wife and the vows he made to her.

Answer 6

Sometimes it's lust. Sometimes it's distance. Sometimes the relationship has gone sour. I have a friend whose wife refuses to sleep with him - he sleeps in a recliner - and doesn't want sex anymore, nor any physical contact at all. The relationship just isn't good anymore. He's tempted to cheat because their relationship is missing something vital, and that's probably why a lot of people do it. On the other hand, some people just get off on the thrill of sneaking around and having two women at the same time. It's sick, but it's true.

Answer 7

I ask my self the some thing dude. My husband cheated on me before I got married to him and every thing has been cool since then but I'm only human so I do worry about the what if he dose it again, but after we got married he has stayed true to his vows. And may I say he is a wonderful man to me and I gave him one change to make me happy and so far he is doing it, but I will ask him your question :) just to see what he has to say. Oh and is good to know that there is men like you out there who love to let every one know I Love My Women she should feel very lucky to have a man like you :)

Answer 8

Some people don't realize that marriage puts allot of stress on the married. as soon as u get married you know that you have to keep things right even if so many things change.
stress causes depression. when you develop depression, you begin to not want sex as much, when your spouse realizes the change with the sex pattern, they start to believe that they are getting neglected and they will start looking for some sexual attention. when they do get the attention they need, they will be tempted to start a relationship with the one giving them the attention.
temptation is a horrible thing and will take over your life if your not careful.

Answer 9

for the same reason there are murderers, and rapists, and other forms of bad people in the world....people do things and they are not always good.

many people marry for the sake of doing it and not because they are completely and utterly in love with someone. all you can do is be an ethical person and do what you say you will do when you make a vow, and only make one when you mean it with all your being.

Answer 10

Human nature..
In 1955, 25% of women and 50% of men had cheated..
In 2005, 75% of women and 50% of men had cheated..
Feminism & Birth Control released the true woman...

Answer 11

Reality is, sometimes the flicker of love dies if you don't keep it alive. Or either of spouse is not serious to their commitments. A lot of reasons can be enumerated. But the bottom line is, the determination to keep the love alive regardless of any given situation.