Marriage & Divorce - 25 July 2007

when you have already poured your heart out to someone and they still want to leave cuase there is someone else they are interested in yet you know you can make that person happier what do you do? i love my fiance and i messed up i told her how i feel she has cheated on me and i still love her. she told me she still loves me and is willing to give me a chance yet i am not sure how sincere she is sence i keep catching small lies. she told me she would have told me about them eventually but i am not sure. the only thing i am sure of is that i want her in my life nd still want to marry her. i am extreamly depressed and truely sad. what can i do to make this other guy seem like nothing compared to me? what can i do to make her want to truuely be with me? she admited to me last night she is still in-love with me yet she did go looking. i am hurt and confused please help. giving her up without a fight is not an answer. i love her and thats not going away.

2007-07-25 23:53:06 · 11 answers · asked by ken p 1

My husband was married earlier and has a 4 year old daughter from that marriage.He later separated and we got married about a year ago.However, we were having a rough patch in our life for the past 2 years or so. This began when i moved to the city he was living in as we had a long distance relationship b4 that.After I moved to the city i realized that he was not the same person,was nt in love with me as much as I was with him.I would catch him lying about his friendship with other woman, or even caught him when he went out with another lady once.I forgave him, but must admit that whenever i was hurt by those thoughts I reminded him of it and he always complained that if i have forgiven him then i should not bring up the topic again.During this time he lost interest in me. We had no sex life.we would do it only when he wanted to which wud be once or twice a month.He would not get intimate with me except for saying I love u over the phone.Now im pregnant,need love but dont feel the same

2007-07-25 23:44:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

A single mother has 2 kids - 12 and 5. She gets involved with a guy - they have similar interests and get on well and everything is fine for 6 months or so and the guy buys a house and the mum and her kids move in. But things don't go so well when they're living together. They argue and break up for a few months, then get back together and almost immediately the mum and her kids move back in. The arguments start again, so they move out. Then they move back in again and eventually move out again for good. Each time they move the 12 year old has to change schools.

Obviously the kids are being messed around, but who do you blame more - not for the problems in the relationship, but for the instability in the kids' lives.

2007-07-25 21:57:56 · 31 answers · asked by Alex 5

OK, a friend of mine mentioned to me that people actually are getting married via online communications.
To try to put this a bit more clearly: one of his best friends has just gotten married to a very wealthy woman from Shanghai.

He just showed up for the wedding, she has moved into the country and they never actually see each other unless they chose to, which according to my friend, is hardly ever. They can get a divorce in 2 years time. She paid HIM £50,000 to marry her - he had absolutely nothing to offer her but help to gain citizenship in the UK.

Is this completely bizarre or does it actually happn on a large scale?

Does anyone have any links or interesting tidbits to share?

2007-07-25 21:56:57 · 13 answers · asked by celestinerocks85 2

2007-07-25 21:42:42 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Prior to our seperation we both had very good, high paying jobs but due to my son having disabilities I had to stop working
and then dad got laid off. Then all the more problems came up
so we seperated and now back at our parents. You shouldnt assume that all people like going back to thier parents but I am lucky that I can. I didnt just sit around pumping out babies. Hopefully one of those real life situations wont happen to you, and then eventually that would make you have to leave your home. Remember things like this happen all the time to people, one day they are living in a beautiful home, with nice cars, and plenty of food and clothing. Then one day it could all be gone. You have no clue about my situations so please dont judge me and think that I was not responsible. I do work very hard but with all my medical expenses it's hard to get a head.

2007-07-25 21:33:39 · 2 answers · asked by nancy m 1

2007-07-25 21:21:11 · 9 answers · asked by stranger 7

Most of our women are not loving her husband's mother sincerly.

2007-07-25 21:19:13 · 13 answers · asked by subair p 1

I dont trust my husband, i check his phone and send myself crazy by doing this. Now he deletes all his messages even though he thinks i havent checked his messages for ages. He is a very private person and doesnt tell me much about his life outside of our home and i feel insecure.
I dont want to feel like this anymore, i dont want to hurt anymore. I have enough problems with my son without looking for more.
What prompted this was yest he stood in the kitchen and was using his phone, he was vague when i asked who he was texting (he asks me too when i am texting someone). Anyway i checked his phone later - and honest i havent done this for a long time but felt he was evasive and found he had deleted all his sent messages.
I think what makes it worse is that he has lied to me in the past and will just not tell me something if he thinks it will cause hassel.
I know it is my problem but i dont know how to stop feeling like this.

2007-07-25 21:02:01 · 23 answers · asked by cottontail 5

I just got married and bought a house with my husband prior to getting married. My question is, what are my rights to the house. I don't know much about this stuff. I just wondered...if he wanted to sell the house, would I have to agree or can he just do it without my consent as he is the primary breadwinner? Just asking in case he changes his mind about the house. I like it here...don't want to move. Thanks - BTW I live in Canada, don't know if the laws are different here.

2007-07-25 20:53:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just a bit of fun..

Don't ask me what he's doing, just give me an answer to whatever you think the question is about - gonna check and see how many of you are telepathic out there. :-D

Give it your best shot.!

2007-07-25 20:53:32 · 10 answers · asked by Alex 5

See my previous ? for more info:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AvsXr.PYHfFJwolB.uquo3bty6IX?qid=20070520201211AArmguh

So I finally was able to get my boyfriend to make us a couples' counseling appt which is free thru his work. We've been to 5 weekly sessions and I feel that we are getting nowhere! Instead of working on concrete problems (he's irresponsible and it stresses me out) we spend half the session doing silly worksheets like "the 10 myths of love" and talking about how bad our childhoods were. Worse, I feel like whenever I do bring up an actual problem, the counselor turns it around and explains that my bf acts this way because he's still acting out rebellion towards his alcoholic father. I think she's enabling my bf to act like a child instead of taking responsibility for his actions in the present! Is it a case of "you get what you pay for" or is this how counseling really works? What should I say? Our last "freebie" appt is Fri.

2007-07-25 20:50:34 · 23 answers · asked by ahelaumakani 4

Is there any time limit within which the marriage registration has to be done? Can a marriage registration be done even after many months/years after the actual wedding ritual has taken place if we have all the required documents?

2007-07-25 20:35:50 · 6 answers · asked by bride s 1

tus nalgas...lol

2007-07-25 20:34:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

i dont feel anything.

2007-07-25 20:24:49 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

not want quantity but quality so he asks for sex once a week or even after two weeks. I think i find that quite abnormal and that really disturbes me because he has ever become unfaithful to me and i keep asking myself does he get sex satisfaction from elsewhere. is that normal. he is a bit plump and sometimes i think i think its the problem of weight. kindly advice.

2007-07-25 20:18:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

birth of our first born child. my husband went out of the country on business and slept with a prosititute. when he came back i smelt cigarette on him and confronted him, he confessed of drinking and smoking, i was not convinced that's all he did and i prodded him further upon which he confessed that he actually slept with a prostitute. i felt betrayed and contemplated leaving him, only to rethink it and i decided to stay after he apologised and promised it shall never happen again. but i've never been able to forgive him for disrespecting me and holding me in contempt. i keep telling myself that one day i'll walk out on him. I keep asking whether he was thinking about me when he was doing that and it really hurts me considering that he even sinned before God him being a beliver. please help.

2007-07-25 20:09:06 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Please, only serious answers... (please)
Its not a huge issue, but I've noticed a decline in me and my husbands sex drive.
He usually wants a quicky in the morning when I pretty much just get mad and tell him I'm going to be late to work.
Other than that, we probably havent had sex for about a week and a half (maybe more?).
Is this just called "marriage"?
Or is he bored?
Wants some strange?
Time schedules just off?
Medical or psycological condition (like lack of motivation).
He seems to have some health problems here and there but it just seems like a downward cycle.
We are having less and less sex....
Feedback appreciated.
Thanks in advance.

2007-07-25 20:07:18 · 7 answers · asked by Candice C 2

My parents say that this man is a good choice. If u dont love him now it doesnt mean you never will . If he'll love you, take care of you then automatically youll fell in love with him. Is it possible that things will change after getting physically intimate with him???????

2007-07-25 20:05:09 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

he's having trouble paying bills in the new place., i help with the inside bills and my car payment and cr card bills i have. and cell bill. i buy groc. and whatever i can do. never no money to take a vaca.! what can i do? he wont let me see how much he makes. i just want to know how he spends his money and he doesnt show me all the time where it goes.

2007-07-25 20:02:10 · 4 answers · asked by nana c 1

My husband died 6 years ago and I remarried 2 months ago , my kids are 8,10, and 15 years old. They all want to take my husbands name, how do I go about this and how much does it cost? I heard that you can just use it without doing anything ,is this legal?

2007-07-25 19:52:38 · 11 answers · asked by chris' girl 2

We have been dating for yrs, we were both legally married but seperated (totally diferent homes) when we began. My divorce has been final for a while now, his has taken quite longer but he is working in that direction. I am confused, he wants to have an Islamic wedding with me. I am totally in love and commited to him. Can this be okay'd through Allah? Can we go through this marriage and be blessed? What if we already have a child together, can we be washed of those sins and have a happy marriage with God as our focus? He had a brother do the ceremony for our son after birth but I want everything ok in the eyes of God. We do not live together and will not be able to do that for a while. Does this matter? Do we need to do anything extra to be forgiven for having sex before the union? Please help!!!

2007-07-25 19:52:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

i seriously suspect he is paying for sex. mayb he is not please wif my "performance" on bed. sometimes i am tired n do not wish to get intimate wif him. but he longs for sex everyday! does dat give him a vaild reason to pay for his sex out of home?

2007-07-25 19:48:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi everyone,
ok here it goes, i have been with my partner for the last two year, been living together for just over a year, we got married in sept 06 the problem i am having is that everytime i go out she always looking at other women, last night we was out to see barbra streisand everything was going fine, then as we where leaving she was eyeing up some woman she looked at here and the woman looked back, this happened a few times i was walking behind and saw this, which hurt me, wat do i do should i say something to my partner about this or say nothing? even if i do say something she will say i am seeing things, or i am going mad.... she has done this many times before just makes me think if she really loves me, i give my all to this woman, i love her so very much , but i feel confused once again, (we are gay women )she is 47 i am 41 please anyone out there that can give me some advice, i cant talk with her because she will only walk away and not hear me out,
crystal x

2007-07-25 19:47:53 · 15 answers · asked by crystalbluetarot 2

My husband and I got married a month ago. He is a good person with a good heart. He treats me like a princess. But he has bad credit, $15,000 credit debt, and has loser in-laws that rely on him too much. I see his financial situation and his family affecting any future plans that we may have.

On the other hand...i have this ex-boyfriend who says he still loves me but he has cheated and lied to me several times. But he is financially successfull and has a gud family. There are still trust issues tho.

So shud i divorce my husband, go back to my ex, or just
divorce and be away from both?

Help on this please!

2007-07-25 19:37:13 · 16 answers · asked by Hawaiigirl 1

if you slept with alot of guys *like 17 other people and it wasnt while i was with him..*...would you tell your new husband ...*it was some people he knew* or would you just take it to the grave?

2007-07-25 19:33:04 · 20 answers · asked by anonymous 1

Just wondering. People always tell me how pretty I am, yet guys always seem distant. I'm not intersted in any one per se, But I am not one of those girls that flirt with guys, unless it's a friend and I trust he knows we are just friends and goffing aroud. It seems like I give the cold shoulder to guys-I guess it's because right off of the bat I know if I like him, and even when I do, I don't say anything-I expect him to be man and tell me-if he likes me, so I won't humiliate myself. So, are you the same type of girl?..You are pretty and any guy would be lucky to have you, yet no guy can't because you seem kind of distant and too cold for them-because you come off that way, and they are just afraid to make the move and have you reject them?....What is your story?...

2007-07-25 19:05:35 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a skinny girl, im 13, im 5'4, and I weigh 95. and im tired of people making fun of me, saying that im weak and I couldnt hurt a fly.....so.........my sister had recently went through a devorce, and move in w/ us.......then she moved out w/ her bf who she is getting married too......and she had her bed frames in the garage, and I decided I was going to lift weights, so I lifted bed frames for about a week....I know, I know, its not normal, BUT yesterday, my dad put them away in the attic!!!! And They wont but me anyweights, because they say I dont need them, and I wont use then......what should I do?

2007-07-25 18:58:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Methods to help couples trust

2007-07-25 18:56:25 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-25 18:54:13 · 10 answers · asked by Sue B 1