My parents say that this man is a good choice. If u dont love him now it doesnt mean you never will . If he'll love you, take care of you then automatically youll fell in love with him. Is it possible that things will change after getting physically intimate with him???????
2007-07-25 20:05:09 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes,automatically,he will love you and take care of you then automatically you fell in love with him.But remember you should always be in mind that what things are happening it should be yours.
2007-07-25 20:11:12 · answer #1 · answered by rks 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. But u need to talk to each other after the nuptuals, or even before if u can. Then u both can enter into a union that u can live with. If u rush into relations just because u got married, there's no guarentee that u'll love him, there's none anyway, but it might make the relation go easier....seeing as how u don't seem to want to do this. Getting to know someone, atleast a little, goes a long way in an arranged marriage. U'll feel closer to him once u get intimate...but ur parents are right...there is a possibillity for love to grow. U both must be open to let it in, and let it flourish, compromise...and have open communication. Don't bring anyone else into ur marriage either...it could lead to more problems. Always use family as last secondary resource, try and solve problems with ur spouse...with ur spouse first. y? Because since u two had the problem, u two know exactly what happened and can try to solve it on ur own.
Take what ur parents have said with a grain of salt, because they are speaking from experience. But don't force anything...just let it come naturally. good luck.
2007-07-26 19:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical intimacy doesn't mean you will fall head over hills for this guy. If you don't love him why marry him just because your parents says so? Just because they think he is a good choice doesn't mean he actually is. You should take the time out to get to know this guy for yourself. I know in some cultures marriages are arranged. But why marry someone with just the possibility of him being a good guy? He could end up being a husband from hell. Really sit down and talk to your parents about taking more time out to get to know this guy and take things one day at a time. If you eventually fall in love with him....marry him....
2007-07-26 07:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry him. Who cares if your parents say he is the best choice for you. It looks like they are forcing you into a loveless marriage. Being intimate with him is not going to change anything since you have no love for him, it will just be sex. You might never love him and in time you might actually fall in love with someone but what are you going to do when you are married to him.
2007-07-26 03:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by MZ. Latina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, anything is possible. I take my hat off to anyone who has an arranged marriage. All said and done, marrying someone whether by arrangement or by personal choice, you are taking a big risk. What's to say you won't fall out of love with the one you marry for love? What's to say you won't fall in love with someone you marry that isn't of your choosing? Remember one thing though - sex and love are two separate things. Do not confuse them both.
2007-07-29 13:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have done many many things in my life to please my mom and dad, to get their attention and affections. Made choices on education, marriage and very important decisions that impacted my life. I regret having done this. Understand, you have been given only one life to live and it is your own to make happy, sad or pleasant as you wish. You are the master of your destiny. Do not let your parents exercise their control over your life and make decisions they believe would have been right for them. THe quesiotn is are the choices right for you.
LIving in a loveless relationship is probably the least fulfilling experience a person can have. It leads to depression, thoughts of self destruction or severe anxitiety. Live life for your self and enjoy every day as a gift that your life is your own. Listen to what others are telling you and be ecclectic, by taking certain suggestions and incorporating them into your own plan.
2007-07-26 03:34:13 · answer #6 · answered by ]-[ustler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no relation depends on physical intimates.
only if u have a good relation with Ur partner then only physical relations comes
because relations based only on physical intimates do not succeed
but yes if he loves u take cares of u u will surely fell in love with him bcoz remember love marriages break more than arranged marriage but if arranged marriage breaks u have all u family supporting u but if a love marriage has a dispute than only some lucky once have a family support
2007-07-26 03:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not have any relationship and you do not even secretly love someone else, it shall work, provided you two stay committed to each other aftr marriage. This will give you an opportunity to know him, understand him, flirt him, getting involved emotionally, getting involved physically without ever fearing that the relationship might not get approval of those who matter or without any other fears like getting caught etc.
Go ahead...
Good Luck
2007-07-26 03:24:14 · answer #8 · answered by sharma.kulbhushan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like some chinese or indian religioun. Tell them to bugger of and tell them you want marry Mukthar Savarof. Some hot guy with a realy big ****. If you dont love this guy then there is no way that you can marry him. Your future kids will suffer in this relationship dont do that to them or yourself.
2007-07-26 03:16:01 · answer #9 · answered by nadia d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please think 100 times before u take the decision. first starting talking to him continuously atleast for 5 months, try to understand him and then take the decision. because of your parents dont try to take immediate decisions without thinking. i made the same mistake and suffering now. i am requesting you once again to first understand him and then get married. no one will come to your help later if he is not good.
2007-07-26 07:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by anusha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋