Marriage & Divorce - 25 July 2007

2007-07-25 12:41:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

now its esculated he is sleeping on sofa now and he told me not to flaunt my body i only do this as a make up thing i feel so insulted what would you do if this was said to you married to him for 20yrs jeeze flaunt haha

2007-07-25 12:37:57 · 9 answers · asked by astra 5

now its esculated he is sleeping on sofa now and he told me not to flaunt my body i only do this as a make up thing i feel so insulted what would you do if this was said to you married to him for 20yrs jeeze flaunt haha

2007-07-25 12:37:27 · 2 answers · asked by astra 5

He yells at me for little things I do. Our neighbors have called the police twice because of the yelling. This hasn't stopped him from yelling even. He has yelled at me during the day and said the police wouldn't be called because it wasn't night time when people are trying to sleep. I know we need to find a marriage counselor. But is there a medication for people with an anger problem?

2007-07-25 12:27:58 · 13 answers · asked by jojo 3

Tell me what goes through your minds. Do u think about the hurt you are inflecting on innocent people?No really I really want to know. I already know that the married people are very much to blame but they can't do this without your help.I'm not whinning about any situation just want to know.

2007-07-25 12:27:43 · 7 answers · asked by jusayg 2

What made you suspicious? What did you do with your suspicions? If you are the type that would prefer to pretend it isn't happening, how long would you let it go? What are certain things that would make you very suspicious? What did you do to try and catch him/her? Anything you have to add. THANKS!

2007-07-25 12:14:58 · 10 answers · asked by shoegal0675 2

We have been in our present home for nearly 10 years, I dislike the town we are in and have never truly settled here. We have a disabled son and a teenage daughter. My mother and brothers live 20 miles away and I want to move back to this town where my husband and I met and were brought up - its our roots. My husband is not budging one bit - he refuses to go backwards, for him it is, for me its forwards. Its a busier town, feel so comfortable with the people, we have friends there and family. He doesnt want to uproot our daughter's school, she is 13, nor do I but I have been so unhappy for years and I can't take much more living here. We are arguing alot and the strain is taking its toll on all of us. How can I make him see that we need a support network around us, I have struggled for so long caring for our son and I need help with him and my husband obviously has to work. We have been married 20 years. Thanks

2007-07-25 12:08:38 · 22 answers · asked by alipaul2 2

Men - do your wives become less attractive / sexually stimulating to you after you've been married for a while? - i.e., b/c you get used to your wives, & there is newer (perhaps more objectively attractive) stimuli out there... I'm not talking about committment ~ just wondering about mens' sexual reactions after they've been married for some time.

2007-07-25 12:06:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Conventional wisdom says widow, what does everyone else think?

2007-07-25 11:52:33 · 7 answers · asked by Cybele 1

2007-07-25 11:47:41 · 9 answers · asked by otubu s 1

2007-07-25 11:44:58 · 15 answers · asked by matt1para 1

I have been married for 2 years to a guy who is really not very nice to me. He is very verbally abusive and I want a divorce. I told him a few weeks ago that I was leaving and he told me that I wasn't.

My problem is that I do care about him and I want him to be happy, but I can't have that happen at the expense of my own happiness. I really don't know what to do. He and his family are very religious and don't believe in divorce. We have tried couples counseling but he won't participate. I feel like I am out of options to make this thing work and I just don't know what to do? I feel like he doesn't listen to me at all. He is contantly trying to parent me. It does not feel anything at all like a partnership. I am pretty sure that I want to leave and just start fresh, but he says "no." What is the right answer? Do I keep trying to make it work and sacrifice my own happiness for the next 40 years?

2007-07-25 11:36:56 · 11 answers · asked by K S 2

We used to get along great, but now that he is driving a car he seems to think that he is all grown up and can call me names for no reason, argue about everything I say, and just plain offensive and rude.
His dad says it is just his age (17). I disagree, I have grown children of my own that would of never been allowed to disrespect an adult, and I do not try to be a parent to him as he has his Mother and father in the picture. Should I just ignore him or stick up for myself?

2007-07-25 11:29:03 · 13 answers · asked by Ellyn 5

and won't let up, and won't let her get away, and she hits him,is it abuse? I mean like when he just sees her glance at a poster of a guy, and then starts yelling at her in the face that she likes other men, and that she is a _______, and doesn't deserve him. And that is all she did. And he keeps on and tells her that the family doesn't need her at all, they'd be better off without her, and she strikes out and slaps him, is it abuse?

2007-07-25 11:20:11 · 14 answers · asked by goldtabl 2

My bf left me at 7 mos preggo saying he wasn't ready for the baby. He's been lying to me for some time about what he's been up to as well. Not sure if he has another gf but that's besides the point. I am an independent 34 yo. I have a great job and I am very healthy. No family near though. I have contacted an attorney for my case, but wanted to know if anyone has had any roadblocks in receiving child support. He works in a family business. i have no idea how much he gets "paid" or if it's under the table. I know the lawyers will investigate all of the income. I don't want to get my hopes up but I want him to know that he can't just walk away from a child that he wanted as well.

2007-07-25 11:15:38 · 6 answers · asked by pussnboots333 4

I have been married 19 years. Ever since my brother in law died 4 years ago, my husand has decided that he too is going to die young. He has become emotionally, physically, and sexually distant. He has his checking, savings and credit accounts...I have mine. He has assigned my bills(anything to do with the kids-education, medical, food, field trips and anything to do with my vehicle.) He comes in late from work, takes a shower and goes into the babies room to sleep in the recliner. He says I should be thankful because he snoars. He said the only reason we have been married so long is because he is nonconfrontational. So we never work out anything..because it is not up for discussion. The only reason I feel he is not cheating is because he has gained more weight to about 330. I feel like most guys that cheat would lose weight and exercise...
So would someone explain to me please what the difference is between a marriage and a roommate?

2007-07-25 11:09:17 · 7 answers · asked by Rebecca P 2

My fiance' continues to lie to me about smoking. She tells me that she has quit and doesn't smoke anymore yet I know differently from reliable sources. If she can't tell me the truth about something simple like smoking, what else could she be afraid to tell me? What would you do in this situation?

2007-07-25 11:06:40 · 7 answers · asked by roshambo76 2

Me and my husband are getting a divorce... and at first it was a mess... I recived an order stating he now has temporary custody of my children in march... it was filled but there is no signature from a judge... or marked if it was apporved or not... would it still be apporved? Please help if you can!

2007-07-25 11:02:00 · 6 answers · asked by daytonruth 2

We've been married for 10 months and keep fighting ove the same exact thing. I can script how things will develop. We both contribute to each fight. We make up, often wonderign what the hell happened the night before. In a week or 2 the same exact things happens again. Health insurance doesn't cover the therapy and money is kinda tight now- this is a part of the problem. Both of us agree that continue on like that is INSANE. I dont' like "go to church advice" mainly because I do not enjoy being preached to. Husband said he will support the idea of any therapist I will be comfortable with. I go to Unity church on the Plaza. Any ideas????

2007-07-25 10:55:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-25 10:39:06 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm married with 2 kids and I love my family dearly. Recently I went to a family members funeral and met up with a cousin I hadn't seen in over 20 years. So we started talking (on the phone we live very far away). Out of the blue he texts me and says he's in love with me and always has been since we were kids. I love him I really do and I think I have the same feelings for him but I know it can never be. It's just all kinds of wrong. So what should I do?

2007-07-25 10:24:10 · 29 answers · asked by Sexy Anna 3

Make children and forget them......why?

2007-07-25 10:23:04 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

she lives abroad with my son if i dont give her wat she wants i dont get to see my son why is she allowed to do this?

2007-07-25 10:15:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

His brother and sister-in-law do not have a joint checking account. They split the mortgage and she pays her fer stuff and he pays for his. But she also pay all the child expenses and medical insurance.

2007-07-25 10:06:50 · 13 answers · asked by heartshapedmailbox 2

I am married with two young children. I have been unhappy for over a year now and never said anything to my husband, until the day a younger male tried to put the moves on me (sexually). I wasn't at first interested, but after some thought, I was. I'm so confused and I am not sure what to do.

2007-07-25 10:00:39 · 29 answers · asked by miss personality 1

As background, I work, and my wife does not. She goes to school part time, but is currently between semesters. Married 10 years. I recently started a new position where I work from home 4 days a week. Since I'm home, I've gotten a new perspective on what happens here when I'm working.

We have 3 kids, all under 6. The kids pretty much occupy themselves all day. Video games, TV, puzzles, books, whatever. Mom doesn't do a whole lot of interacting. They often come to me in the home office for stuff. It seems like my wife doesn't do much. I make breakfast in the morning 90% of the time. I make lunch 75% of the time. We do dinner together.

When I go downstairs during the workday, she is on her computer or watching soaps. She does the laundry. She tidies up when it gets bad (not confused with CLEANING) or when I say something. The house has been mopped twice in the last year - once by me. I agreed to buy this house new so she could have exactly what she wanted in it, and it's going to hell.

2007-07-25 09:57:13 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been married for three years. Each year I have asked my husband about having kids. He said he really wants kids, but doesn't think we get along well enough to have them at this time. He doesn't feel that we will provide the proper environment. We do argue a lot, but mostly because of things he has done (cheating, porn, lying, etc.). Yes, I contribute to the problems because I am the type of person that cannot let something go. I have to beat things in the ground. He also accuses me of wanting to do all of the talking and no listening. I do have a habit of butting in when he's talking. Not intentional, but it's a habit that needs to be broken. I am in counseling trying to deal with all these issues. I was diagnosed with PCOS many years ago, and have never been pregnant. I know that when it's God's timing I will, however, the doctor suggests we use fertility drugs to help me ovulate. Everytime I mention it he says he doesn't feel any different about the situation.

2007-07-25 09:51:38 · 12 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

2007-07-25 09:49:58 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi everyone, I'm hoping someone can help me, I live in the United Kingdom and my Husband lives in California we are waiting to join him. I want him and he wants to adopt my 14yr old daughter, he has been a dad to her since she was 5yrs old although we have only been married 3yrs. Her biological Father is Unknown on the birth certificate as in the U.K he couldnt be named without his consent. All I know is he lives in Virginia and his name of course. He has had no contact and this is because I am white and he is black so my daughter is mixed race and his famikyn don't approve and to be honest she is a regret of his. How do we go about getting her adopted by my husban in the state of California. Your advice is much appreciated.

2007-07-25 09:47:27 · 2 answers · asked by I need help 2

I lived with my boyfriend for 9 months...we are no longer together and he seems to think we were common law. I am going to end up talking to a lawyer becuase I started paying all the bills and now he seems to think since we were common law he may not be responsible for paying half the utilities... He invited me to live with him(lease in his name,utilities in his name) and we agreed that i would only pay the for the groceries but it turned out that I ended up paying for a couple months worth utilities, groceries, and rent. He didnt have any money to pay so i ended up paying it with the agreement he would pay me back. will i have any right to get at least half the money back?

2007-07-25 09:44:20 · 8 answers · asked by karaoke742000 2