He yells at me for little things I do. Our neighbors have called the police twice because of the yelling. This hasn't stopped him from yelling even. He has yelled at me during the day and said the police wouldn't be called because it wasn't night time when people are trying to sleep. I know we need to find a marriage counselor. But is there a medication for people with an anger problem?
2007-07-25 12:27:58 · 13 answers · asked by jojo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are medications for people with "anger management" issues, but that would require him addressing his problem with a doctor... and your husband doesn't exactly sound like the type to sit down and confront his anger.
If I were you, I would be very careful. He sounds a bit scary. Next time, I recommend that YOU call the police.
2007-07-25 12:32:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There may be something for it, but only a psychiatrist would be able to prescribe it, if in fact there is a psychiactric problem. You know you need to go to a marriage counselor, have you made arrangements to do so, or is it a lost cause and you are looking for something homeopathic?
You need to recognize that him yelling at you so loudly that police are called, you are being abused. Abuse isn't limited to physical or sexual. Verbal and emotional abuse are much more common, and often very hard to document. The fact that he even recognizes that he can get away with yelling at you during the day, means that there is intent behind it.. it isn't a sudden uncontrolled burst of anger. He is trying to keep you afraid and always on guard as a way to control you. It is NO DIFFERENT THAN IF HE WAS USING HIS FISTS, and if you don't stop it now, it WILL escalate because there is nothing to stop him.
2007-07-25 12:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by C J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Medication isn't the answer.... you are. Try writing each other e-mails or pen and paper to figure out your problems and find out the root of why he only yells at you instead of talking things out. Really try this and see what happens. Then let us all know if this worked. Also you may be the problem and if this is so then you should try not always being right and even if you are right let him think that he is right and someday he will know that he was wrong and you will have the satisfaction of knowing that you were right and for the sake of not arguing you let him win. This will let him know that he is important to you. Good Luck
2007-07-25 12:39:36 · answer #3 · answered by Husband 1st Kids 2nd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there is no easy medication. He needs to go to counseling. This is not just a marriage counseling issue. He needs to take some anger management courses. Probably though, he won't want to do it. Maybe if the police get sick of the calls to your house they can convince him to go seek help. I have not only been in your situation but have also had a neighbor who was the same way. Hopefully you do not have kids that are being put through this. Demand he get some help.
2007-07-25 12:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most men not all when they act like that is because they are cheating,I could be wrong because I only know a paragraph of your life. But now is a good time to start paying attention to little things like his work schedule, clothes, in his pockets and cell phone incoming and outgoing calls.
He is your husband and sometimes men think they own us because we carry their name. They are suppose to keep us safe and out of harm but now days they seem to be the ones that we need protection from.
All I can say is good luck and keep an eye out.
2007-07-25 14:01:51 · answer #5 · answered by Mid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot change him. He needs to get sober, and into recovery if he has any hope of changing himself. You too may need to get sober and into recovery... or at least find an Al-anon group.
I know you did not mention anything about alcohol or drugs. But I know, ans a recovering addict/alcoholic myself, that his anger issues are almost certainly linked with an addictive personality.
Good luck. I will pray for you and your husband.
2007-07-25 12:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah... its called "get the hell out of there and let him yell at an empty apartment"
There is no cure for stupid. You aren't married to a man, you are married to a bully. He won't change cuz he will ALWAYS find something to be mad about.
2007-07-25 12:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get help before the yelling turns into hitting. And there is no magic pill to make him stop. You both need professional help, before either one of you gets hurt.
2007-07-25 12:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can try to get him to go to an anger mngt. program as well as marriage counselor.
2007-07-25 12:38:50 · answer #9 · answered by who are you anyway?? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes as well as management classes.
Was he like this before you married him? If yes, why did you marry him? If no, is there anything that could be a stressor to this?
2007-07-25 12:59:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋