My bf left me at 7 mos preggo saying he wasn't ready for the baby. He's been lying to me for some time about what he's been up to as well. Not sure if he has another gf but that's besides the point. I am an independent 34 yo. I have a great job and I am very healthy. No family near though. I have contacted an attorney for my case, but wanted to know if anyone has had any roadblocks in receiving child support. He works in a family business. i have no idea how much he gets "paid" or if it's under the table. I know the lawyers will investigate all of the income. I don't want to get my hopes up but I want him to know that he can't just walk away from a child that he wanted as well.
2007-07-25 11:15:38 · 6 answers · asked by pussnboots333 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yah Tim you sound like a real winner. Why would he wait until I was 7 mos to tell me he wasn't ready for a baby. BTW we both wanted the baby, he backed out and expected me to "take care" of it. Maybe I was naive but what kind of human being would do that. I know i'll be a great mom without him. I just want to know what to expect.
2007-07-25 11:40:40 · update #1
You are on the right path. I was with the father of my child and he was supportive in the beginning, going to appointment's and etc. The he changed his mind 3 months before she was born. He has never seen her. I filed with the child support office and he didn't agree to the amount. I tried several times to get him to sign the birth certificate and then the paternity acknowledgement form, I tried to set up times so he could spend time with her. But he kept refusing. She is 5 months old now and he has sent a total of $800 child support on his own. We then had a court date to enforce the child support order and he served papers for legitimation, joint legal custody, and visitation. It's good that you have a lawyer b/c they can bail on you anytime. To this day he still has not seen his daughter, nor has he called to ask me how she is doing. Don't go through the child support office unless you think he will agree to the amount, if not go straight to court with a lawyer. Hang in there. Being a mother is a wonderful thing and I couldn't be happier. Do what you gotta do, good luck.
2007-07-25 11:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by myalivia07 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lawyer?? Guess that means you already foresee a problem? Or did you already have your baby? There are Child Support Enforcement Agencies in all states that do this stuff for free. However, if he still tries to avoid his responsibility, then maybe a lawyer is worth talking to. In my experience it ended up that the cost for the lawyer was more than I'd get from him in support, so it wasn't worth it. Make sure your lawyer is honest with you about that, otherwise you're better off keeping your money for your child then spending it chasing him down.
BTW, it doesn't matter if he "wanted" a baby or not. He took part in making it and it's his responsibility too. Stick with it and get to know the laws in your state asap, so you know what your capabilities are.... and good luck! My ex is in arrears over $30K and hasn't spent 1 night in jail for it. Our system is seriously lacking in this area.
2007-07-25 18:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by I, Sapient 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents went through it.
The judicial system in my state sucks so bad.
When my dad didn't make much when I was like 1 or 2 he was ordered to pay $162.00 a month (chump change). Over the years he made more money and now has a really nice house and stuff. My mom took him to court again like 2 years ago and they denied her case bc they trusted him when he told them he would increase the child support to $300.
Two years later he's bought be stuff but it's not even close to what $300 a month will add up to. My mom would file again but I'm almost 17. There would be no point in paying more child support for a little over a year.
My advice: Hang in there, don't stop trying until you feel as though justice was served fairly to you. Don't fall for your ex's lies and tricks.
2007-07-25 18:24:44 · answer #3 · answered by q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, you have to be $5K in arrears for it to even be addressed in Texas. Do not expect the guy to volunteer to pay child support, that will not happen. You have to decide, now, if you are willing to raise your child without financial assistance from "dad", or not. The guy will be your albatross for life. Think it through.
Just curious, why the hell were you having unprotected sex, since you are so independent, and *smart*, that was not a good idea. Shame on you.
2007-07-25 18:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are 34 years old. When women get to be that age they get more responsible. To get child support you first need to extablish legally that he is the father since you are not married. Since he told you he was not ready for a baby this sounds like you tried to trap him by not using birth control. I can't believe people like you who bring children into this world for no reason.
2007-07-25 18:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by Tim C 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Get a different lawyer one who knows what they are talking about. You got some really bad advice there.
2007-07-25 18:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋