I am married with two young children. I have been unhappy for over a year now and never said anything to my husband, until the day a younger male tried to put the moves on me (sexually). I wasn't at first interested, but after some thought, I was. I'm so confused and I am not sure what to do.
2007-07-25 10:00:39 · 29 answers · asked by miss personality 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you never talked to your husband about your unhappiness, then what chance did you give him to help you or to make you happy? You should talk with your husband first see how your relationship goes. If it doesn't go right, then divorce him, then when it's final, pursue a relationship with someone else.
2007-07-25 10:04:43 · answer #1 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
The husband or the younger man?
2014-12-14 16:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should cheat. That's never the answer. You are just bored in your marriage. You need to drop all contact with the young guy so you won't be tempted to cheat. Tell your husband you're getting bored and plan a trip with him or something. Try and make it fun again. Even go to a counselor and talk. If you are still unhappy then get separated/divorced. But just think - if you hook up with his young guy and he dumps you in a week and your husband won't take you back, what are you gonna do? Life will be very lonely and you will be full of regret. Think about it.
2007-07-25 10:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you won't tell you husband your concerns than how is he to know?If your marriage is over than end it. if you play with the younger guy he will end for you as you will get caught.When he calls wanting to play. Don't be surprised if he dumps you after a time or 2 as he sure doesn't want you to get a divorce & have a family affair.Sorry about being so forward but you have everything to lose an nothing to gain>>
2007-07-25 10:10:48 · answer #4 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that you have been unhappy for over a year now and have not even bothered to discus this with your husband is unfair for you to assume he can read your mind. You need to go to your husband and tell him about your unhappiness then you both should seek professional help to try and resolve what it is that is making you so unhappy. Just know, most all marriages come to a standstill for a while, where same old routines and obligations make life boring. You cannot expect your spouse to fulfil and be responsible for all of your happiness. You are responsible for making yourself happy in ways that does not jeopardise your marriage. With professional help hopefully you both will be able to turn the marriage to a more positive union. Best of luck to you both.
2007-07-25 10:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappy in your marriage, bringing someone else in will not make you any happier. In fact, you'll have the guilt factor thrown in. It's best for you to try and talk to your husband and forget having a fling. It's not worth it. Try to communicate with your husband. Let him know what you're feeling. Hopefully he'll meet you halfway to some sort of a solution.
((hugs))
2007-07-25 10:08:35 · answer #6 · answered by BluAppleBabe2 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to try and work it out with your husband before giving up. You never gave your husband a chance to deal with your unhappiness and then you get interested in cheating or almost cheating? You need to talk to your husband and see if you can work out your problems in your marriage. Try a therapist if needed. You owe it to yourself, your husband and your children. If you try all this and it does not workout then perhaps you need to move on but for goodness sakes give the man (that you said for better for worse) the chance to make things better.
2007-07-25 10:09:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't act on it, it will only cause more problems than you already have. If you aren't happy in your marriage and want out then get out but don't go having an affair with a younger man, it's crazy! Keep it a fantasy and work on your marriage.
2007-07-25 10:06:08 · answer #8 · answered by **Llola** 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Husband
Think of the kids first .
Being without a father isn't what you want for them .
2007-07-25 10:27:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets see. if your going to f*** this younger man do your husband the courtesy of filing for divorce first.
im guessing the younger man is just going to use you but thats your choice.
did you try to tell your hubby that your unhappy? therapy? anything?
affair wont fix anything.
2007-07-25 10:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by princessfionafantasy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋