what happens when you try to talk to your husband,he shrugs and say i dont want to argue?

Answer 1

What happens is that you get extremely annoyed!!! haha.

My husband is notorious for this. He does not like to argue or discuss anything that could potentially start an argument EVER!!!

In all honesty, it really can make things worse. I used to get frustrated at whatever it was I wanted to discuss, and then he didn't want to talk to me, so I was MORE frustrated....and everything would just get so bottled up because then I didn't think I could talk to him about anything.

If he REALLY doesn't want to have the conversation with you and it's eating away at you, send him an email, write him a note....text him even. MAYBE if he has the chance to read your thoughts and doesn't feel like he has to be in 'defensive mode' he'll have time to think and tell you what he's feeling WITHOUT an argument. Good luck!

Answer 2

You have talked him into submission.

If you want to just get the results you want, simply keep yapping, and yapping, and yapping. He will do whatever you ask without a word of complaint. Behind your back, though, he will be doing something else. Namely, what he wants. It's his way of sticking it to the man. Or woman.

If you really want to get to know him and find out what he is thinking, however, ask a question and then SHUT UP AND LISTEN. FOR A LONG, LONG, TIME. I MEAN DAYS. NO TALKING. PERIOD. ZIP. ZILCH.

You will most likely find you will be incapable of shutting up which means [1] you must have control, [2] you do not care what he really thinks you just want to hear him say yes dear and [3] you should not be surprised when you discover his secret world - whatever it is made of.

Answer 3

He probably just doesn't want to hear it. Just give him some space and he'll cool down. We tend to make things bigger as it is. When he cools down, just talk to him then and maybe he'll be more into hearing what you are having to say. Plus a lot of this kind of has to do with what the arguement was about. Is it really worth arguing about?

Answer 4

Explain that you're not trying to argue. Explain that you would just like a solution to the problem. If he doesn't want a solution ask him why. If you're angry when you express how you feel, he's probably feeling attacked. Most men do if you point out their faults. Explain that you're not trying to attack him. Also try to be calm when you confront him. Men are very quick to just be passive if they feel they're being attacked.

Answer 5

It depends on how serious the question is. If its about him not putting the toilet seat down I would get over it. If I think he is having an affair and I want him to answer the question then I would sit down with him and tell him that we wont argue, we need to talk about our problems.

Answer 6

Then the problem sits on the back burner for later use and does not get resolved. Simply tell him that you want to talk to him, and that you are not going to argue with him.

Answer 7

He is being passive aggressive.

If he doesn't want to talk about it, ask him when would be a good time, say in 24 hours?

I have this same issue with my husband. I feel for ya.

Answer 8

Agree with him, and then further the conversation. Say, "Of course not -- I don't want to argue either! I'm just wanting to get your thoughts about this."

Answer 9

Even though he know's youre wrong he is willing to go along with you because hes tired of arguing with you over your silly a55 stuff

Answer 10

He is being smart. Why waste time arguing when there is a ball game to watch.