Marriage & Divorce - 28 July 2007

I have been married for almost 6 years and headed for a divorce. I love my wife dearly and I want to be strong, but it is almost impossible. She is my strength...but she always uses that where I'm weak. I want to be stronger, but I don't want to hurt/lose her. I have several downfalls.
I am an acoholic. I drink at least a pint a day, but I usually don't get drunk. I know I need to stop and I want her to help...but she says it's up to me.
I smoke weed. I blaze every day and smoke Blacks/cigarettes when I'm not. I am a smoker.
I procrastinate. I say a million things that should be done and do about 10 of them.
I am out of shape. I am 6'2 and 225 with an "okay" build. I'm not fat, but I ain't what I used to/could be.
I am argumentative. I like to talk about things in depth. I know I should just let some things go, but it's nearly impossible.
I do love her as I said. I never cheated, hit her, or failed my financial responsibilities.
Now she doesn't even want friendship. Answers?

2007-07-28 23:43:49 · 20 answers · asked by thisguy 3

Firstly my apologies if this all sounds so pityful. I recently got married, however, since returning from honeymoon, my new husband has just gone back to his sloppy ways, thoughtless ways. Everytime I try and talk to him about anything, it's like having a conversation with a stroppy teen. He seems to spend most of his time sleeping, or playing on his computer. I feel so alone with everything, it's making me feel really bitter towards our life together. We own our home, and have lots of nice things, but he doesn't seem to appreciate any of it or respect any of the responsibilities that come with it. I spent my whole life working really hard to have my own home, the nice car, and little luxuries, my new husband is now a part of all that. I feel like he should want to look after our home, to care what i think and feel about things, but all i ever see him do, is winge, or sleep, or play stupid card games on the pc. This is not how i saw marriage, I have tried talking things through...

2007-07-28 23:29:19 · 28 answers · asked by troublewithacapitaltee 2

I lost my wife to an affair that she has had since I was deployed to Iraq as a US Soldier. I love my wife with all of my heart and want her back, and can even forgive her, but she was angry with me for having to leave her and sayws that she just got tired of being alone. Is there any hope at all for saving my marriage of nearly ten years? She says that she really cares for this person and that he is good to her. I just dont know what to do. Should I just let her go, or fight for what I truly believe in my heart is mine?

2007-07-28 22:31:10 · 26 answers · asked by bravo 1

I am currently getting marriage counselling. The counselling sessions seem to draw me to a conclusion I should leave my wife.

I got married really young, I am very different to my wife, I have fallen for another woman (but not pursued that physically), I wish my wife was a different type of person - she could be more confident, ambitious, outgoing. I am sick of spending nights at home and not out.

The other side of it is that my wife is a great person. She is loyal and loving.

She doesnt want our marriage to end despite me telling her how I feel about this other woman.

I am now 35. My wife is 30 and tells me that if I leave her I have ruined her life. She feels she is too old to meet a new guy and remarry and have kids. She feels she will be a lonely spinster.

This lack of self confidence is one of the things I really dont like about her.

She believes committment is a choice. A choice I made when we got married and I am obligated to stay with her.

2007-07-28 22:23:11 · 15 answers · asked by Stone Heart 1

Well after all people believe that it's ok for two men or two women to get married and they claim that it's ok aslong as they both love each other and are committed to each other, wel what about a brother and sister who love each other and are committed to each other should they be allowed to get married to.

If one perversion such as homosexuality is tolerated and accepted then it allows other perversions to be tolerated and accepted to. Also what about bigamy and polygamy, should they both be legal, if a man wants to marry 2 or 5 or 10 women should he be allowed to, i mean after all love and committment is all that matters right so therefor it would only seem right to allow the man to marry the 2 or 5 or 10 women wouldnt it.

Or vice versa a woman wants to marry 2 or 5 or 10 men and she claims to love them all and be committed to them all it would only be fair for her to be allowed to marry them wouldnt it.

2007-07-28 22:08:33 · 18 answers · asked by john M 1

Most times he denies he's done anything to me and then he says he's sorry he'll never do it again, but it alway happens again. Today he pushed me and grabbed me by the arm in front of our 5 year old. Is it just me or this is wrong? he is usually such a normal person but it seems to me he has no self control.

2007-07-28 22:03:51 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband was an only child, and he was married before, but devoriced, and his children say nothing belongs to me and it only belongs to their daddy, am I wrong thinking that I took care of his mother, while none of them were around to help that what ever is his is mine, been married since august 6, 1997? 10 yrs is along time isn't it, and when I moved into his mother house with me, it told me it was my house, I am so confused what is wrong? greedy, selfish, okay I see both, buth how do i make my point?

2007-07-28 21:51:07 · 14 answers · asked by flannelpajamas1 4

Unfortanately my wife and I are getting a divorce. Were in the paperwork and filing stages. This is a no-fault divorce. I went to war and we grew to be to seperate people. Long-distance relationships suck but long-distance marriage will tear you apart. We talk to eachother in a civilized manner, we split everything with no fighting.

But now we have 2 new sets of friends hers and mine. I know nothing about her friends and she doesn't know mine. How soon is to soon to start dating for both her and I. I know we've both thought about it... and do you think it will help you move on.

2007-07-28 21:13:44 · 14 answers · asked by C0MS3C . 2

2007-07-28 21:12:53 · 18 answers · asked by ellen 4

I'm just curious about Leviticus 20:21

2007-07-28 21:11:31 · 7 answers · asked by jsprplc2006 4

He says that because he wasn't "with" her till after he moved out and I can't prove otherwise, that they courts won't consider it adultery. He hasn't filed anything yet but has had a lawyer on contingency. (btw, she's pregnant and they're both sure it's his)

He also says that because we the home we are in isn't martial property that he doesn't have to provide me with a place to live. That he can take our daughter into his home and leave my shelter in my hands to deal with even though I haven't got a job.

We live in TN.

2007-07-28 21:03:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-28 21:00:50 · 7 answers · asked by letgoletflow26 2

How about "damaged goods"?

What do people mean when they use these terms?

Thanks,

Flavio

2007-07-28 20:47:29 · 14 answers · asked by ? 3

Should you just give them what they want....cheap sex with no strings!

2007-07-28 20:45:33 · 13 answers · asked by ? 3

1. married to a hot chick

OR

2. married to a frumpy corpulent chick

2007-07-28 20:44:03 · 20 answers · asked by ? 3

husband is only fond of his parents n their parents using his love to make him hate me.he wants divorse cuz their parents say that.dont want 2 tell anything to in laws bt what should i make changes in behavior so that atleast i can live with husband happily n he discovers n cn see how deeply i love him

2007-07-28 20:32:27 · 10 answers · asked by kruti b 1

2007-07-28 20:30:20 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been dating an absolutely wonderful man for the past year and a half and I believe we are ready to take the next step in making a solid engagement commitment to each other (as in telling family, friends and eventually planning a wedding). I do not need a fancy ring nor do I need to set a permanent date - however, I would love to know that we are on our way to doing the right thing. We live together and share expenses, chores, responsibility of a 2 year old and we are pursuing purchasing a home. There are no skeletons in my closet, and I feel very comfortable, safe and happy with him.

He does say things such as "I will marry you some day" but we never get any where past that. Am I wrong in pushing him to make the commitment of an engagment?

2007-07-28 20:24:08 · 6 answers · asked by Lucy365 2

2007-07-28 19:59:47 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

When in love but fighting why does it seem so easy for some woman to be like whatever even when the man is trying to change and show that he is sorry?

2007-07-28 19:57:57 · 15 answers · asked by letgoletflow26 2

Or is it better to live your life for yourself even if you're married...

2007-07-28 19:53:51 · 9 answers · asked by Somewhere in Time 3

dont get me wrong I want my father to be happy but him getting married right know is a mistake. He still loves my mother not just because shes my mother in another kind of way. He also still talks to other women but he says I'm going to stop as soon as I tie the knot. I need to know what can I do to make him see that getting married is not the answer ............He also stated baby I'm getting to old and I never been married I've done everything else in my life so I got to do this. If you know what I should do respond back. THANKS

2007-07-28 19:51:13 · 10 answers · asked by MARCO B 2

I am not very good at this dating scene. I hate the bar scene, and I am so busy when I have the kids that I dont' know how to start. What is the best way to meet women, talk to them and yet let them know that the kids are priority number one in my life at this time? I hate not having someone in my life, but I also want my kids to come first and I realize this is not what most women are going to want to hear. My kids are 10, 9, 5 and nearly 3. HELP, WHERE TO I START AND AM I TOO DAMN OLD TO EXPECT THAT YOUNG ROMANCE THAT I REMEBER FROM DATING 12 YEARS AGO? HELP!!!!

2007-07-28 19:30:21 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I really cannot believe what goes in mind of these western celebrities that they get committed and again gets departed. divorce and breakups are like a small part for them.

check this link: http://www.blogtantra.com/2007/07/28/jennifer-aniston%e2%80%99s-break-up-with-british-model-bricklayer-and-nepals-culture-on-commitments/

Made your comments on this. Not only nepal's culture but even india's culture doesnt believe on breakups until and unless its a big problem.

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2007-07-28 19:14:40 · 6 answers · asked by blogtantra.com 1

2007-07-28 19:12:18 · 16 answers · asked by kkecs07 1

I find myself in a dilemma. A female co-worker and i have taken a liking to one another...the problem is, she's married and I'm in a domestic partnership. Nothing has happen, yet, but the sparks are flying. What should I do?

2007-07-28 19:03:24 · 11 answers · asked by ozwol 3

2007-07-28 19:00:27 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

Lets assume marriage is a continued success through out his life, In my view husband should love wife more as the years are passing, and in the old age husband should love his wife at his best.

2007-07-28 18:46:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

does a guy REALLY love his wife, when he has cheated by talking sexual to someone else ( didnt actually ACT on it though) and always putting down his wife to others. Telliong everyone how horrible she is, and then confessing his love to other women. he STAYS with the wife though, he claims its only becuase of thier child. does it sound like he ACTUALLY LOVES this wife of his?

2007-07-28 18:44:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-28 18:33:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous