Marriage & Divorce - 26 July 2007

My fiance and I talked about it and he seems to think it's an insult if I don't take his name. I just don't see why women should have to go through the hassle of changing their names. It's not fair and to me or any other woman. It's quite simply anti-feminist. I don't know what to do with him!

It's not like I would agree to have children, so that's not an issue when it comes to different names.

I just feel like my last name is my family. His last name is his family. We're partners in life, not family members, why do I need to take his name? It's such an out dated patriarchal tradition stemming from the idea of owning females. He just doesn't get how unfair it is even these days when it's more of a hassle than an ownership thing!! How can I convince him that not taking his name is not an insult to his family, but merely respect for my own?

2007-07-26 23:46:56 · 15 answers · asked by skunk pie 5

freaking me out. He says he is just being nice and saying hello, and I believe him. He actually told me about it upfront, and showed me the email exchange.

How should I handle this....? It's, uh, been VERY clear that I am uncomfortable with it!!!

2007-07-26 22:59:25 · 24 answers · asked by ♦♦pixiechix♦♦ 5

i just found out my stepdaughter's husband cheated on her and
the person who saw him made me promise not to tell what should i do?

2007-07-26 22:43:07 · 26 answers · asked by mary b 1

For going on four years now after my parents divorce my mom has been depressed, without hope of healing.

She refuses counciling, support groups, and antidepressants.

She has a habit of living in her own little world exactly as she wants it to be and a bit ignorant of the truth. She has a tendency to get depressed and go on and on about how her 'bleeding heart' is being 'dragged along the ground' and such.

She also has a tendency to hold onto that sorrow (take note for FOUR YEARS). I mentioned one thing about my father and she was miserable, and ranting and complaining all mothers day no matter what i did.

She's also discouraging me from love becuase she's so absoulutely sure that all i'll ever get out of it is heartbreak. Qoute: "Dont ever get married, youll only get heartbreak."

I'm fourteen years old and i've been forced to grow up enough as it is. Is there anything i can tell her or do for her? Or should i just sit back and keep listening to her 'bleeding heart'?

2007-07-26 21:48:48 · 12 answers · asked by Kuma Ninotori 3

I'm engaged to be married and my fiance and I haven't lived together yet. I've been with him for about 7 months and we aren't getting married until next Spring and even though we haven't really lived with each other yet we have spent the night together several times and I already do his laundry, clean his apartment, and do several other things for him and it's not like we have beliefs against it but my mom things since we waited already, we should just wait until after we are married to live together plus his parents already hate me and would love to have something else against me. My lease is over at the end of next month and I've been thinking about it a lot. What do you think should I move in with him or not?

2007-07-26 21:23:10 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

She left me for her coworker lover and 6 weeks later she wants me to come to dinner? we have two kids...she is still with him. Is she just being nice while i deal with a ripped out heart?

2007-07-26 20:54:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I left for this guy who is my soulmate I love him so much a love
like this is all Ive ever dreamed of.I made a mistake the first time
I left them that guy didnt really want a relationship.I am the mom
that should count right?So far I havent seen my kids for 3 weeks
but I did call them,thats when I found out thier dad is suing for
custody.He wont really be granted custody will he?

2007-07-26 20:25:45 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-26 20:19:55 · 8 answers · asked by sabrina 1

i've been in a 7 year relationship. we've recently broke up. this past week, he has been calling me 2-3 times a day, leaving me msgs like "im in trouble, pick up".. but, he is seeing another already. i cant and dont want to speak to him because it still hurts... plus, why talk if he has "moved on"? so, a few days ago, i changed my cell phone number. but i feel sorta sad. what can i do to feel better. im not ready to speak to him or any of his friends. why do i feel this way?

2007-07-26 19:40:27 · 8 answers · asked by 1212 2

O.K my boyfriend and I have been together almost 8 years. We have 2 children together. I am 31 and he is 36. I love him dearly but I am at the point where he needs to decide if he is in this for the long haul. If not... let me know. Do you think 8 years and 2 children later is enough time to decide if I am worth marrying? Is it selfish of me to make him decide? I feel stupid coming on here and venting but, I hate to bring our family/friends into our relationship. It will be nice to get outside opinions. The thing is... we are not even engaged so, when I introduce him... I have to say my boyfriend!

2007-07-26 19:18:47 · 30 answers · asked by muay_thai_cutie 1

If the parties both divorce their current spouses does it make ok. Plus one of them benefits job wise because of the illecit affair. They also used company funding and meetings to date. Is the company right in allowing them to change positions so they can continue the affair. Would you want to work for this type of company.

2007-07-26 19:11:05 · 19 answers · asked by philly_delphian 1

I don't see anything wrong with it but she says that it is like cheating on her. I don't ask her to watch it and I don't watch it around her. Also, she is a stripper!! I ask her how she could feel this way because her job is a by product of porn...she is a version of porn. She says it is not the same because she doen't enjoy it. Damn right its not the same!! I am not showing my goodies to other women and letting them go home and get off on it!!! Am I wrong for looking at porn on my computer from time to time?

2007-07-26 18:47:22 · 62 answers · asked by thatnikkafosho 1

My friends wife cheated on him and when she was in the bath he got a hairdryer and threatened to drop it in the bath. What do you think of this?

2007-07-26 18:20:40 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

I ask my wife for sex about every 3 to 4 days. sometimes she tells me that I want it to much. she hates when i bring it up and gets annoyed.

2007-07-26 18:11:06 · 10 answers · asked by jrein_27 1

i am comfortable but unsure if i am in love dont know if i dont want to loose hime or mu security shield how do you disteguish love from comfort

2007-07-26 17:51:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

he attacked her and he is emotionally abusive to her. She left him for a while and was doing great untill he went and bought her a necklace trying to get her back. all he does is drink and he treats her and the kids like crap she has been like a zombie for the last few years that she has been with him and now she wants to go back. she says he will change but i just don't see it happening all he wants to do is keep her barefoot and pregnant. as soon as he found out he was going to have to pay child support he decided he wanted her back he is always in and out of jail and he has no respect for her. how can i help her to change her mind about going back to him or should i even try i am worried about her and i want what is best for her and her kids please help!

2007-07-26 16:59:47 · 7 answers · asked by slim 2

anyone recognizes me for me or my talents. What does a guy do in this situation?

2007-07-26 16:35:26 · 7 answers · asked by The Starr Company 1

I am not married, just curious.

2007-07-26 16:30:01 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

my partner is a normal healthy guy,but hes not as interested in sex as other men ive been with in the past.i know hes not cheating and i know he loves me,hes very affectionate and loving,but it seems i always make the moves.we live together,and generally have sex once a week if that.thats not normal is it?for a young guy to only want it that much if that?does anyone have an opinion,i dont know if maybe im doing something wrong

2007-07-26 16:17:07 · 16 answers · asked by stormy b 1

I am a Christian, and I would like to find a nice Christian girl to settle down with.

I asked a question about an appropriate way to find out if a girl saves herself for marriage.

I recieved several answers that say i am judgemental. I do not feel this is accurate. I can be friends with everybody, but I see potential marriage candidates would have to have the same values as mine ( i am waiting for marriage).

People say God doesn't judge, so I have no reason to. Wouldn't i be more dishonest pretending it didn't affect my feelings? I don't want to hurt anybody. But i mean, we marry people we are totally at peace with, right?

To me the subject is a big red flag. I don't think i am being judgemental, so much as it being a fact that i know this person doesn't share my values.

What do you think?

2007-07-26 16:07:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my husband are temporarily apart due to the military but in less than 2 months we will back together =) Well I told him about a week ago that I would take a picture of myself eveyrday and send it till we were together again. He loved the idea, but now I'm running out of ideas. Does anyone know of any cute themed ideas for pictures?? I sent him a picture with me wearing a lei and wrote want to get leid haha. Anyone know anything else like that? Or what I could be doing or how I could pose in the pics? Any help is appreciated!!

Thankyou =]

2007-07-26 16:07:19 · 5 answers · asked by sweet_n_sexii94 2

A women who tells her spouse her feelings and needs. A spouse who appreciates a man who plans trips and vacations. If the marriage starts getting a little stail she will tell him that and not bail out for greener grass. My wife left me for a coworker and this is what she told me "you should have noticed that I wasn't happy" well with you running around trying to be miss popularity in our small town its kinda hard to notice! sorry had to vent. any ways I want a women who will sit down with me and discuss issues after 15 years she could never tell me her feelings or needs I'm serious. Is that normal with women??

2007-07-26 16:01:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have had this interest in scat for as long as I can remember. When I was a child I was very interested in poop. When I was 12 or 13 the interest grew to an obsession. Now I'm completely into scat sex, but I know it's not healthy. I don't know whether to talk to my psycholigist about this because it's too gross and embarasing. I know everything is confidential but I'm still scared to even mention it. I know I need help so please don't call me rude names and tell me I need help. I need an answer from someone who knows what they're talking about. My question is, "Why do I have this coprophilia?"

2007-07-26 15:47:21 · 19 answers · asked by ☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻ 1

2007-07-26 15:26:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Moan, scream, ask for more

2007-07-26 15:09:15 · 26 answers · asked by babby_fish 1

2007-07-26 15:03:21 · 21 answers · asked by mom of 4 1

ends in him saying, "Fine, then just divorce me then." Or "Fine, let's just get a divorce." We just got married 5 months ago. He's the one that asked me. I'm in this for the long run. I would rather talk out our problems. Should I be concerned, or is this just something normal people say whe they're married and heated. I'm 24 and he's 30.

2007-07-26 14:31:22 · 27 answers · asked by sdgirljen 3

Ladies,

if you had to chose between the two which one will it be?

1) a man who is not rich, doesn't have a college education but loyal and treats you like a queen.
----------OR------------------
2) a really rich educated man who often flirts, treats you horribly and even cheats.

and please be honest. I'm doing a study.

2007-07-26 14:29:32 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend is 28 and I am 24. We already have two kids together. He asked me to marry him. But I feel his mother still tries to control his life. His sister says don't worry because if I can put him from their momma I got him on lock. She states he always lets his family know how he feels about me when I'm not around. But is this safe enough to say yes?

2007-07-26 14:28:24 · 12 answers · asked by ru4real 1

I heard once that those who expect to be made happy by love shall see that it is a certain cause of grief.

2007-07-26 13:59:25 · 21 answers · asked by Page 4