i am comfortable but unsure if i am in love dont know if i dont want to loose hime or mu security shield how do you disteguish love from comfort
2007-07-26 17:51:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Love just isn't starry eyes and romance and flowers. Love is a choice, even more than it is a feeling. It's the things you do in between those moments, in the "comfortable moments" that matter. I've been married almost three years and have occasionally hit that point where I too wonder if I am just comfortable? Am I really in love? The fact is... true love IS comfort and the security of being loved by someone else unconditionally, and loving someone else in the same manner. You have to remember why you married them in the first place, realize that how you are feeling will likely pass and if not, take steps, make that choice, to seek outside help. Good luck.
2007-07-26 18:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by wimmibear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a couple have been married for a while love turns into comfort. The time frame is different for everyone. After a while a couple's love turns into security, comfort and the fact that you have a history together. If you want more than it's up to you to revve it up. Because love is a choice combined with action, so spice it up and get jiggy with it honey!
2007-07-26 18:05:07 · answer #2 · answered by candeekissez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that love is not lust. Those two words are completely different. There are all kinds of love. Love for a husband, child, parent, friend, relatives, etc. If you are comfortable, I would say that you love your husband. If you have been married for awhile you should be friends, too. Then you are working together building your future together. Think about your wedding day and why you married him. Has anything changed? Or are you both just older and more mature? I think you are fine.
2007-07-26 17:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attend a Family Life conference called, "A Weekend To Remember".
2007-07-26 18:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by mommak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey when you are in love you know and you won't ask us about it, I been in love and I know that love is so strong and painful you can't confuse it with comfort, so to answer your question NOOOO you don't love him you just feel comfortable, and buy the way comfort is a wonderful thing don't underestimate it.
2007-07-26 18:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by thecoldfire72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to weigh up the pros and cons - what you life is like with him, what your life would be without him. What do you like/love about him, what you you dislike about him? Maybe try going out together like you would have done when you first met and see if there's still a spark. You could be feeling this way because you're stuck in a rut.
2007-07-26 17:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by Monkey007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Maybe you should have figured that out before marriage! Didn't the minister counsel you? "Love" suggests a google-eyed passion. Comfort is what's comfortable. Really, you should get some counseling before you have any kids!
2007-07-26 17:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't your vows say something about "till death do we part", not "until I decide I'm not real sure if I love you anymore because I only took our "marriage" as any other relationship.
Love is not a feeling, it is a verb.
2007-07-26 17:56:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hit the nail on the head Katherine W!
2007-07-26 17:57:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question you need to ask your self is why did you marry
this man if you truly had doubts about how you feel. being
in a marraige is about love, respect, etc. you need to be
honest with him. other wise it will be harder down the road/
2007-07-26 17:56:56 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋