I heard once that those who expect to be made happy by love shall see that it is a certain cause of grief.
2007-07-26 13:59:25 · 21 answers · asked by Page 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Great answers so far...Thanks
2007-07-26 14:12:26 · update #1
It cannot. You have to start out happy then when you fall in love it gets better.
I have found this maxim valuable:
anger is caused by an unmet expectation
if you expect love to make you happy and it doesnt deliver as expected you end up angry.
2007-07-26 14:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The original infatuation and the first feelings of love seem to always make people happy if they are returned. But, in the long run LOVE can't make you happy. Happiness comes from within. No relationship can POSSIBLY be perfect all the time. The greatest happiness that can come from love is making the partnership work! Feeling that you have a partner for life and someone who is there for you no matter what can make you feel VERY happy. Unfortunately...lots of people have had that feeling and it has ended in divorce. YOU have to be happy within yourself to even MAKE love work. *sigh* It's all so complicated. But I would NEVER say that love is a certain cause of grief.
2007-07-26 21:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by o7mistique 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No.
Love does not make you happy. It can make you giddy, lost, filled with joy, and intensely sad....all at the same time.
But happiness is not what love brings to you, for you first must be happy inside yourself.
Do not ever underestimate love. Love will enhance every positive emotion you have, and if the one you love loves you deeply, that love will carry you when other emotions and life circumstances drag you down mercilessly. Love will survive the worst that can be brought upon you and even if all else fails, love will be there to help you recover, and flourish afterwards.
Love does not conquer all, but there is nothing else in life that is so powerful.
True, deep, love does not come easy, and it will not stay if you do not work on it, and with it, but there is no greater reward than that which comes from fulfilling it. You can only do that if you are happy with yourself, but if you can do it, love will bring you boundless joy.
2007-07-26 21:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by Ef Ervescence 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO! "love" can not make you happy. Passion and emotion are heady things that can make you scream out your lover's name but they are not really going to provide happiness in the long run. Another person's kindness may make you comfortable and help you care about them but, no one can make you have peace in your soul. In the long run, to be happy, a person needs peace. For me, peace it is found in my faith in God. My life is crazy. I have kids with special needs, a full time job and I'm in school. Have I mentioned that my husband and I are having serious problems. Have I cried, swore and yelled? Yes. But I refuse to let life's issues ruin the gift I was given. There are still so many beautiful things in life. My one son does not speak, and yet when he laughs in delight watching a tree wave in the wind, why should I pity him? When I think of the other issues in my life, at times I think it is too much. But, given a choice, I wouldn't choose to "sit it out" as a country crossover song once crooned. I choose to hold on, suck it up and keep walking. I have plans and dreams and no matter what happens, I won't give up. I am not the first person to face what is on my plate, I won't be the last. If I trust another person to give me this type of hope, I believe I would be sadly mistaken. Since I have peace in my heart I will be able to share joy with another and the heartache too. But I can't fix someone else and I don't need them to "fix" me. I just need them to walk with me through the good and the bad and share joys and the sorrows.
2007-07-27 00:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love in itself is not a panacea of happiness. Love makes you happy, it makes you sad, it makes you angry, etc. Love can make a person that is already happy much happier, but you need to be a happy person first. Because once the passion wears off in the first 5 years or so, you are basically the same person you were before, but now stuck making someone else miserable.
2007-07-26 21:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by Thegustaffa 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The essence of love, the element of love that provides the deep satisifaction, is the emotional connection; it is the emotional intimacy.
As humans, we require emotional connection, emotional intimacy. It is essential to our mental health, our overall well-being.
Bad love, in which there is little or no emotional connection or intimacy, does not satisfy. Frustrated love, in which the couple is always fighting or breaking up, also misses the boat. Unrequited love, in which one loves the other but not vice versa, is so sad. This is the love that causes grief...frustrated love, bad love, unrequited love.
But Good Love is what we live for.
And as someone here wisely said, if you can feel this good love in your own heart, on our own, without a partner so to speak, perhaps the battle is in your favor. Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all...I'm sure you've heard that! But really, we need people.
There is the love between a mother and her child.
The love between a man and his wife.
The love between brothers.
You get the picture...there are lots of different types of love.
But emotional connection is the essence of it all.
2007-07-26 21:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think real love can make you happy. Its just sometimes we are involved in relationships that really have nothing to do with love. I know the love I saw between my grandparents who were married for over 60 years made them happy. And when I was with them it sure made me happy because they were able to give such unconditional love.
2007-07-27 12:17:20 · answer #7 · answered by ALASPADA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey,
No one ever said that love is easy. Just like anything else in life there are going to be your ups and downs. Yes love could make you happy. If you find love in the right person that loves and respects you in return. Then everything will be fine.
2007-07-26 21:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unless you've been in love, you won't ever know that feeling. But happiness is what you make of life. Love is just the icing on the cake. I hope you find love one of these days. OHHH my lord, what a feeling!!
2007-07-26 21:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by K.W. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
People make themselves happy...they choose to be happy or sad or mad or anything else...love is a positive emotion and typically a source of happiness âº
2007-07-26 21:06:21 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋