i've been in a 7 year relationship. we've recently broke up. this past week, he has been calling me 2-3 times a day, leaving me msgs like "im in trouble, pick up".. but, he is seeing another already. i cant and dont want to speak to him because it still hurts... plus, why talk if he has "moved on"? so, a few days ago, i changed my cell phone number. but i feel sorta sad. what can i do to feel better. im not ready to speak to him or any of his friends. why do i feel this way?
2007-07-26 19:40:27 · 8 answers · asked by 1212 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You feel that way because you shared your life with this person for SEVEN years. Of course you're going to feel a lot of different things...
Changing your number was the right thing to do in my opinion. If he has already moved on...that doesn't show much respect for you. I can only imagine how hard it must be to get over something like that. Let his other "lady" help him out if he is in so much trouble. It will take time to get over, but soon enough you will move on.
I hope that helps a little.
Good luck.
2007-07-26 19:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do u feel this way? cause your not a cold hearted person, this is obviously someone u cared alot about, u cant be with someone for 7 years and not have some kind of feeling for them unless ur just extremely cold hearted. You did the right thing, if u've only recently broken up and he has another gf, then he shouldnt be calling u, seems like he was just trying to string u along, and the "im in trouble" , just sounds like a ploy to try and get u to talk to him, ur not his life preserver, so he cant keep wanting u to "save" him , he's got to learn to do that himself.. or to rely on the person he is with.. so dont feel bad, u did what u had to , to make a clean break and not make this messier then it had to be. But its only because u care for him that u feel this way, and that just means ur a good person.. and it doesnt make u a bad person for wanting to not prolong the pain for either of u by answering his pleas to talk to u..
2007-07-27 03:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally know how you feel. 7 years is a long time and i'm sure he was a good friend as well as boyfriend, so having him gone hurts twice as much. well just because he has a new weirdo girlfriend doesn't mean he's moved on. he could just be trying to get over you by going out with some random girl you know? i know that getting over people can be really hard, but you've just got to stay strong. if he wasn't up to being the man you need....then you're better off without him.
good luck love.
2007-07-27 02:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by mle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's good...changing the cell phone number. You need the distance.
It's perfectly okay for you to feel sad. 7 yrs was a long time, and chances are it may take awhile for you to completely get him out of your system.
You feel this way because you cared about him. I know it's cliche-ish, but take it one day at a time. You'll eventually get past this.
2007-07-27 02:52:51 · answer #4 · answered by Prodigalchild 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, I commend you for changing your phone number so you don't have to deal with him calling. You absolutely don't need that pain in your life now. If he's "in trouble" he can call his current, or his friends, or the police, or his parents, you know? That and I know plenty of guys that use variations of the "I'm in trouble" line to get booty calls.
They saying is, "time heals all wounds" and that's basically true, but it hurts the worst at the beginning. You can do things just for yourself like go shopping, take a mini-vacation (just stay in a hotel in the next town for a weekend, etc.), catch up with your old friends, or spend time with family.
Keep yourself separated from him. Any encounters will rub salt in your fresh wound, and you don't need that.
Take care of yourself and hang in there. It will get easier with time.
2007-07-27 02:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by 21_Questions 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its all part of the break up
try to distract yourself. Ignore his msgs and try to move on. Go on a holiday, go shopping, find something fun to do!!! you will feel better!
it will get better in a few weeks.
2007-07-27 02:50:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He hurt you and it's hard to be alone when you've been part of a couple. Be strong and don't talk to him.
2007-07-27 03:10:59 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy belgian chocolates and a poodle. you will feel better
2007-07-27 02:45:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋