2007-07-26 15:03:21 · 21 answers · asked by mom of 4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he doesnt wanna get tied down
2007-07-26 15:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's been your boyfriend for 12 years I think you have your answer. Obviously in that time you either haven't shown him that getting married was that important to you, or that he really doesn't care that you do feel that way.
After a few years you should have said "If we aren't going to get married, I want to move on and find someone who wants what I do." He knows you will stay, you have for 12 years.
It may be too late to change him, so you have to decide "Is this what I want? Is it enough?" and if the answer is no, move on.
2007-07-26 15:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you allow him to be your bf for 12 years. Some marriages don't last that long. If he marries you after 12 yrs you will be the oldest, most f**ked bride in the world. Those who are informed about your wedding will laugh their heads off because to them, you are more or less married.
2007-07-26 22:09:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that he is either afraid of committment or he has known for some time that you are not the person that he wants to be tied to for the rest of his life.
If you have been together for 12 years and he has not asked you to marry him, I would say it's time for you to move on and find someone who wants to commit to you....unless, of course, you are happy being "just the girlfriend"
2007-07-26 15:07:28 · answer #4 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not going to ask. Tell him you need to know in 6 months, that you won't mention it again, but you need to know.
If you are living together, move out. That will put some pressure on him to decide. Then you'll at least know and can make the next steps towards a happy life!
2007-07-26 15:28:11 · answer #5 · answered by colorhappy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My guess is he is getting everything he wants by leaving things just the way it is. He has a loyal companion, probably a willing sex partner, and doesn't have any commitment. You probably should have asked this question 10 years ago. Time to ask him what gives?
2007-07-30 14:59:21 · answer #6 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like he hasn't HAD to ask you, as you've been with him for 12 years.
take a quiet moment alone and decided what YOU need for your life. if you need the extra commitment of marriage instead of just a bf/gf relationship, it's time to bring it up with him. but do so only if you're not afraid to get EITHER answer.
2007-07-26 16:32:23 · answer #7 · answered by The Beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
12 years is a long time.
Are you happy with him? if so, remain as you are...
If not, you pop the question indirectly... & gently. :-)
Or give him the impression that you are looking (elsewhere).. That might wake the chase & alert system in some guys up.
2007-07-26 15:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he is going to ask you to marry him.
Now the real question is, "How do you feel about that?" If marriage is important to you...time to put the pressure on or move on. If marriage isn't important to you then just sit back and enjoy what you have.
2007-07-26 15:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men don't do things that aren't required of them by the women they are with. He doesn't see the need for it, if you tell him how important it is to you to be his wife instead of his girlfriend he should act on it, if he truly cares about your needs. Otherwise unless you are willing to continue being a girlfriend, you have to tell him what you want from him, and hopefully he wants the same things too.
2007-07-26 15:48:06 · answer #10 · answered by Vegas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because you have been with him for 12 years and not insisted upon it....tell him that he has a choice
either the relationship is leading to marriage and you want to continue it or leave it alone
2007-07-27 00:51:43 · answer #11 · answered by laura g 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋