My boyfriend is 28 and I am 24. We already have two kids together. He asked me to marry him. But I feel his mother still tries to control his life. His sister says don't worry because if I can put him from their momma I got him on lock. She states he always lets his family know how he feels about me when I'm not around. But is this safe enough to say yes?
2007-07-26 14:28:24 · 12 answers · asked by ru4real 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
say yes and move away
2007-07-26 15:10:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you enough to propose and you love him enough to say "yes", then that's all you need to know. Trust me, my mother in law didn't even come to my wedding and my husband and I had been together for 4 years at the time. She didn't get used to me until much later. Even if she never comes around, if he's willing to risk it and so are you, then do what feels right. You have kids together and are a family otherwise, you should not let her interfere with that. Your "Family" comes first, and that is you, him and the kids. Period. If she don't like it, too bad, its not her life. Her son is old enough to make his own decisions.
2007-07-26 21:32:41 · answer #2 · answered by maishabrend1977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me just say that you already agreed to this arrangement when you decided to have two children together and not be married. You set yourself up, now do the right thing and marry the father of your children. Sorry you don't like his family but it's a little late to complain. Get over it.
2007-07-26 21:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand how you have 2 kids if your not married? No, really if you are already living together you should be married and actually things should get better after you sign the papers. But when you do get married please ask our Lord to be with you. If you and your new to be Hubie put our Lord Jesus Christ first in your lives you wont have anything to worry about!!!
2007-07-26 21:35:46 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is a mommas boy, if he's not influenced by his mother and doesn't call her constantly and you are confident he would stick up for you with her should the instance arrive then YES you are safe to marry him as long as all the other reasons are there...you love and respect eachother etc..
2007-07-26 21:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by Hope 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you've already got two kids with him it sounds to me that you've already made a commitment. Go ahead and marry the guy!
2007-07-26 21:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by yankeegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thats really a question only you could answer. Do you love him? Do you see yourself being with him for the rest of your life?
2007-07-26 21:32:02 · answer #7 · answered by California Kush 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you love him. All marriages have inlaw problems. I'm divorced and still have them, lol.
2007-07-26 21:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by Angela F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no worries! you already have kids, what's the big deal?
2007-07-26 21:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by sportguy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
say yes and move away from mama
2007-07-26 21:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by marianne l 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋