My wife think I am a pervert because I watch porn?

Question

I don't see anything wrong with it but she says that it is like cheating on her. I don't ask her to watch it and I don't watch it around her. Also, she is a stripper!! I ask her how she could feel this way because her job is a by product of porn...she is a version of porn. She says it is not the same because she doen't enjoy it. Damn right its not the same!! I am not showing my goodies to other women and letting them go home and get off on it!!! Am I wrong for looking at porn on my computer from time to time?

Let me clarify that this is not an addiction and that my wife even believes that it is"gross to masturbate".

Answer 1

YOUR BOTH WRONG...YOU NEED TO QUIT THE PORN...AND SHE NEEDS TO GET OUT OF THE BUSINESS..........

Answer 2

as a woman, I think porn should not be a big deal unless it is interfering with the time you have with your wife. if you get to the point that you can't have sex with your wife without watching, then you have a problem. she should understand that it's not even a sexual thing. I mean, yeah, it's a visual stimulation, but I know people who watch it just to watch it, not to get any gratification afterward.

as for her being a stripper, I have feelings of my own for strippers. only after my ex got hooked up with one. they were hanging out at the neighborhood bar, and she looked me in the face and told me she was married and didn't want my husband. needless to say, we went from bad to worse in weeks, and I called an end to the marriage. he is now dead, passed away less than two years after contracting AIDS (which I was tested for and don't have. where did he get it??).

if it causes so much of a problem, then maybe both of you should quit doing what you're doing. that seems like it'll be the best solution for the problem. however, maybe you can compromise. tell her you will stop watching porn if every time you get the urge she will stop what she is doing and do a little routine for you, but she doesn't get anything in return. just that you get to watch. (other men watch her, right? why can't you anytime you want?) I'm willing to bet she gives up that fight real quick....

Answer 3

There's nothing wrong with watching porn...until it upsets the balance of the relationship. She may feel that the attention "wasted" on porn could be put to better use on her. It could be an underlying issue that needs to be dug up because it'll only fester and infect the relationship.
She's made her feelings known, so don't just blow her off. Compromise (both of you!) try to work something out. What is it exactly that bothers her? How is it like cheating? Reassure her. Men don't often realize that a woman needs to FEEL desired by HER MAN not only BE disired by him. (Don't gloat, you have quirky needs too that you may not know of or be willing to admit to)
But in your defense, it doesn't matter where you build up your appetite as long as you come home to eat! (WITH HER!)
Masturbation is not gross or wrong but could be viewed that way if she grew up thinking those are no-no parts or something similar. Has she ever tried it? I strongly support masturbation because it allows one to learn and know your own body more. How do you like it? What holds you just along the edge and what pushes you over? What don't you like?
Also, remember, masturbation does not limit sex to self pleasure, it can be and is usually incorporated into foreplay between couples. She may think or feel its's wrong but she may not realize it's what's done before sex if you dabble in foreplay.

Answer 4

I think the fact that she is a stripper has nothing whatsoever to do with the price of tea in china. She does that for a living. However, I do think she has quite a few hangups. I know some women don't dig porn, it sounds to me like she is really insecure, that is surprising due to the fact that she must have a nice body or no one would pay her to show it. In the end, is it worth hurting her feelings and making her feel like you want someone else? (way to go for making her feel like **** by calling her a version of porn by the way)

Do you really wanna persue porn or do you want a happy wife? Seems like a pretty simple choice to me.

Oh yeah, one last thing. If you're a real man, you wouldn't be letting her support your butt by stripping. You would take care of her enough so she didn't have to do such a degrading thing for a buck.

Nuff said.

Answer 5

Wow. A lot of dynamics happenin' here. Um, let's see...you mention it's from time to time, that you watch porn. Yet your wife is a stripper. Sounds like your wife is the pot calling the kettle black.

You're right in the sense that your addiction (because that's what it is...or could become) is not as bad as her addiction (she says she doesn't enjoy it, yet still strips; probably because it helps to pay the bills no doubt)...but yet each of you endure each others addictions. Why?

Something may be missing in your relationship or some underlying issue needs to be resolved. Just my $.00002 cents.

Answer 6

It must be very hard for her to strip in front of a bunch of moral retirdes,than come home to one.If you were any kind of a husband you wouldn't make her do this.As for watching porn,It is part of your mentality you cant help it.Do you honestly think any woman would look at your goodies and get off on it?LOL.If it was me I would make sure that porn on the computer was the only thing you look at,at home.

Answer 7

Watching porn when you're married isn't a good thing. It's filth to the mind. But, it's kind of like the pot calling the kettle black. She's doing something just as dirty, whether or not she enjoys it. I do agree with her that it's like infidelity, but she is showing her body to other men and, in a sense, it's quite similar. Please excuse me for saying this, but you're both wrong. She could use trading in her job and you need a new hobby.

Answer 8

Yes, it's wrong if it is something that bothers her and you continue to do it.
Is it wrong the way picking your nose in public is wrong? Depends on whether the people you are with are bothered by you picking your nose. You'd stop if it became apparent that it does bother people when you do that.
So why is it that it bugs the hell out of you that your wife thinks it's wrong for you to watch porn and that you would have to stop? She probably is used to perverts watching her strip and doesn't want to think that you are like them.

Answer 9

I would have to say that your wife has a warped sense of morality. Some will tell you that wrong is wrong but if you have to put it on a scale of "wrongness", I think she takes the cake. Sexual morrality is often disputed, but if we put it in another scenario such as this. Is the druglord worse than the user? Or is the dealer worse than either of them? Typically I would think that the order on the scale would put the end user as the least because he is only affecting himself. The stripclub owner would be worse than your wife but that makes your wife the dealer, right? Your just the end user in a world full of suppliers. Good luck

Answer 10

If my wife was a stripper I would have her strip for me live is better. Ask yourself why do you need porn is she not better. Watching porn together now and then is ok but by you self?

Answer 11

Nope you are not wrong you are human. My husband watches porn and it is fine with me i on the other hand am not interested in porn. I am not a stripper either thou. for the cheating you know the old saying the one that is accusing is the one doing!!!!!!!