mens libido?

Question

my partner is a normal healthy guy,but hes not as interested in sex as other men ive been with in the past.i know hes not cheating and i know he loves me,hes very affectionate and loving,but it seems i always make the moves.we live together,and generally have sex once a week if that.thats not normal is it?for a young guy to only want it that much if that?does anyone have an opinion,i dont know if maybe im doing something wrong

Answer 1

I have always liked sex, lots of it. My wife of the last seven years hates it. I've gotten used to it, although I could still get right back into it if needed. Sounds like you better do what I've been doing and go with the flow.

Answer 2

You're probably not doing anything wrong. You've had experience and know what to do, so it's not you. Everyone is different, but once a week for a young couple is unusual, not abnormal. He might have a low testosterone level; suggest he have it tested. He may not realize that a little adjustment in that and he could be having more fun .
He could also be goin g through a sligt depression. He should get a good physical, and if all that checks, talk with a counselor.

Answer 3

Women often complain about being hounded for sex by their partners, but what about when men don't want sex? It's among the touchiest of couples issues, since society and even evolution teaches us that men are sex-hungry beasts who always want it. When a woman isn't fighting off her partner's advances or wants sex more than her partner, self-esteem of both members of the couple can be at stake.

Low libido in men is another one of those issues no one seems to talk about. One in five men suffer from it-and the best news is that help is available, if you want it. Men complain of low libido because of declining hormones, certain medications and health conditions, and too much stress. The relationship matters, too. It's not just women who are tuned into the quality of their intimacy and sexually inspired-or uninspired-because of it.

The real issue seems to lie in getting over the shame both members of a couple feel when a man has a low sex drive. If you're worried about your partner's sagging libido, pay attention to what's going on in your relationship. Carve out time for just the two of you, in which you focus on reconnecting as a couple. Try to minimize his stress by tuning into what he might need. If you feel at an impasse, gently bring up the idea of counseling and/or a visit to his general practitioner for further discussion.

Once you do put low libido on the table, interventions like stress reduction, sifting through medications that may be dampening sex drive and testosterone therapy all offer help. Low libido is a natural part of the relationship cycle and the life cycle, but it doesn't have to be a permanent one.

Answer 4

HAHA ... I'm the best partner I've ever had too, coolcowgirl83.

Just a hunch.. right.. but I reckon he is stressed... That is, something's bothering him and the worst thing you can do is ask.

I reckon you should try a little to spoil him a bit (you prolly do already but .. go the extra mile for your own peace of mind - humour me a little) .. a nice pair of slippers... a glass of wine (just one).. and a damb good bonking every evening... just to put his mind at ease. Take control of this situation with both hands. When he comes home from work.. he is bringing it with him, I think.

If it isn't in his head then it is in his pants. Just needs a blood test.. for low testosterone. Tell him he needs a full grerase and oil check.. cholesterol, BP, blood sugar, testosterone, leg wax .. the whole works.... once a year. When a women is putting out.. it's pretty hard to resist, even for icy gazpacho.

Answer 5

Welcome to the end of the honeymoon phase and the introduction to the beginning of your real relationship

It happens because stress either the women mentally drain us or are nagging and bitchy or simply are not good sexually.
It could also be missing his freedom.
May sound harsh what I am saying but if an attractive female hit on him and flirted, his interest would skyrocket on her.
My advice, get some counseling, this could be hiding a more serious problem that will arise in the future such as an affair.

Any person whom thumbs down is a woman whom doesn't understand what a man thinks

Answer 6

I'm sure it's not you. Some guys just don't need it as much.
What you really should look at is the fact that he loves you for you, sex is good but not what his relationship with you is all about. That's a good thing.
Most guys only get affectionate when they want something.
Believe me it's better when you have a guy that wants to be with you, for you, not for sex.
So, NO don't worry.
You actually have a more stable relationship because it's not all about sex, it's about the love he has for YOU. ;)

Answer 7

I don't have a good answer for your question, but I'm in the same boat. I feel like I'm always bugging my husband, and sometimes I feel like he never really wants it, just wants me to leave him alone. But otherwise, he's great, and I know he's not cheating. He swears that I'm the best partner I've ever had, he just doesn't want sex very often.

Answer 8

Low testosterone can reduce sex drive. It could be that or he's just tired, stressed - have you asked him? It's the other way around here, my husband would have sex all day everyday (he's 40) and I'm just too tired but I do try to show willing.

Answer 9

maybe he doesn't want the whole relationship to revolved around sex. just try asking him why and just respect it. he prolly doens't want to cause its easier now that u live together he's taking it like marriage i guess. u no married couples don't do it all the time. plus once a week is normal.

Answer 10

He should see a dr. who can do a test to see if he has enough testosterone in his system. If not, then he can be put on pills.