I have been dating an absolutely wonderful man for the past year and a half and I believe we are ready to take the next step in making a solid engagement commitment to each other (as in telling family, friends and eventually planning a wedding). I do not need a fancy ring nor do I need to set a permanent date - however, I would love to know that we are on our way to doing the right thing. We live together and share expenses, chores, responsibility of a 2 year old and we are pursuing purchasing a home. There are no skeletons in my closet, and I feel very comfortable, safe and happy with him.
He does say things such as "I will marry you some day" but we never get any where past that. Am I wrong in pushing him to make the commitment of an engagment?
2007-07-28 20:24:08 · 6 answers · asked by Lucy365 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you're not wrong at all.
As a matter of fact, if it doesn't happen soon, it may never happen at all. You've already done all of the commitment things--living together, having a child, sharing expenses. How much further can you go without him feeling that he gets the milk for free and therefore doesn't need to buy the cow?
I can't imagine what you can do to encourage him to propose. Are either his or your parents married? Would it make your son feel more secure as he matures if his parents were married?
What is he waiting for?
2007-07-28 20:34:32 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you push him into an engagement he may push you away. I wouldn't pressure him. He obviously loves you and wants to build a life with you, so take your time. He'll ask you when he's ready. As for the comment about if you don't do it now, you may never...that's crap...if it's been 10 years and he still hasn't asked...then I can see that, but not after 1.5 years. Mention to him that you'd like to be engaged and see how he reacts maybe...ask him how he feels about being engaged right now. Maybe he'll suprise you and say he's ready for it, but just waiting for the right time to propose. You may be ready for that....but maybe he's not...doesn't mean he doesn't want to marry you!
2007-07-28 20:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are wrong if things are working leave it alone just let it flow naturally just cuz you are ready doesnt mean he is and if you force it it will cause problems i a had girl drive me to the court house saying we getting married now well i havent talked to her in 7 years cuz i ran far far away
2007-07-29 09:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by anthentherwasi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention ages.
If he is under 25 - don't push.
If he is over 26 - start pushing.
If he is over 30 - get the hell out of there!..
2007-07-30 01:49:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't push. With you shacking up, he doesn't want to or need to get married!
2007-07-29 01:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure...what r u waiting for...sounds perfect to me... don't see any reason to be unsure...
2007-07-28 20:34:29 · answer #6 · answered by dentist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋