How can men forget they have children?

Question

Make children and forget them......why?

Answer 1

Because, "It's too hard."

Having children requires mature judgement and selflessness. It requires committment and hard work. It is 24/7.

There is no video game time when the baby is crying because he's teething and in pain. You're luck to grab a nap.

There is no, I'll just get myself something to eat...and ignore the kids...you have to acknowledge their needs and their presence.

Lately, having met young adult men in my new place of employment I am amazed.

One 23 year old had a 4 year old he paid child support on. He had an 8 month old whose mommy refuses contact and support. His girlfriend had a baby about 3 weeks after he started working there. He had no valid driver's license, and no car.

Another young man, about the same age, had a 4 year old. Again, no valid drivers license, no car, and usually, no job.

Both of them got fired. Their work ethics were, to put it mildly, non existant. It's amazing, isn't it?

Answer 2

Many (too many) men don't want any responsibilities. They want the woman and the sex. They don't want to earn money, please a wife (in bed or out), help with the running of a household or raising the children. There are women who are terrible mothers too but women can only have a child once every 7-9 months. Men can spread their seed every day. Some spread theirs all day. Women have to be careful who they marry or have children by. Too many men just don't deserve to be fathers. Too bad those men are able to father children. The children suffer and the mothers suffer. If a man doesn't want to have a child with a woman he shouldn't sleep with her. Same for women. Its too late once you're pregnant. Its mostly the woman who has all the responsibility. Fathers who raise their children are out there but not as many as mothers. Men don't forget they have children (unless they were never told). They know but they choose to ignore them. They'll have to answer for it.

Answer 3

Hon, they don't forget them, they ignore the financial responsibility. And if you didn't want to raise children by yourself, why did you become preggers with a guy you really knew was not husband nor father material? Hoping to trap the guy? Nope, doesn't work... Best that happens with that kind of guy is he stays around 5 years max. Then, there you are out preggers again trying to trap another.... sorry, see it so often on this site

As my mama said, "Don't have any more children that you yourself can financially support... you just may have to... children and your education are forever... husbands, lovers and promises are not.!!!" Ohhhh thank you mama for this conversation sooo many years ago.

Answer 4

Probably because a lot of them became fathers when they were still young, immature, irresponsible, and not emotionally or financially secure. How can a male do anything for a child if he has some of the following issues? It's easy for females to say they took care of their kids even if they have the same issues because they usually apply for federal aid and/or food stamps.

I don't put all the blame on men but on the women who gave birth to those kids as well. I mean really, why get pregnant when you or the father is not prepared to take care of a child in more ways than one? The sad thing is, most of the fathers never get to the point of being able to take care of their kids since many kids out of wedlock are minorities/economic disadvantages, etc.

Answer 5

That's a major over generalization. I find that most men don't forget they have children. From what I've observed, many men feel that their parenting rights are trivialized and they would like to play a larger role in their children's lives. Our culture is set up to marginalize father's roles in the children's lives to that of a wallet. A MAJOR overhaul is needed in our custody laws and it's time that women who see this speak out. I am one such woman. Children need both parents.

Answer 6

Only the lowest form of a human can "forget" that they have children.To not accept your responsibilities to your children is the same as child abuse.If you know someone who "forgot "their child,than you know a degenerate.

Answer 7

It's not why do they forget about them.. it's why do they not care. It's a question we will never be able to fully answer.... same goes for moms... I always wonder how any parent can forget about their kid(s).

Answer 8

It's not just men who do this...women do it too.

And it's probably a lot easier moving on without the dad in your life than struggling with the every other weekend bullsh for 18 years.

Answer 9

to K .....women must apply for aid and food stamps BECAUSE the father of their children has chosen to forget about them. If fathers paid their child support, then we would not have so many families on welfare.

Answer 10

there is no excuse for it...a man should take responsibility ...they helped make the child they should help raise it...instead of runnin from their responsibility they need to grow the hell up..i think our governments system should get a hold of every abondaning father and make them pay for what they have done instead of lettin them sign their rights away ...it might help straighten these stupid boys out....