Marriage & Divorce - 25 July 2007

2007-07-25 04:35:51 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just last night my husband became very upset with me because he found an email chain in my Blackberry between myself and a guy I am friendly with. This guy and I work together and are just friends (we are both married) - however, sometimes we flirt with each other in an innocent way.
My husband saw an email about us getting together for drinks and me saying I wanted it not to be a "quick drink" meaning maybe dinner too. He is so upset and now thinks that i have cheated on him but I haven't done anything but talk to someone else who understands marriage and can give me good advice and I also get some attention - which was nice because in my own marriage things haven't been very exciting.
My question - Do you think it is bad to flirt a little with people if it means that you feel better and have more to offer you husband when you are home becuase you feel good about yourself- only flirting nothing else-Also, now that i know he read my Blackberry without asking I feel I can't trust him

2007-07-25 04:33:18 · 19 answers · asked by crmnyc 1

Do you think I should be concerned?

2007-07-25 04:32:15 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

I got a Got Out of Hell Free card from someone. What does that mean?

Should I use it now or save it for later?

2007-07-25 04:29:47 · 7 answers · asked by smittybo20 6

2007-07-25 04:24:06 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-25 04:21:15 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous

were in bed the other night just talking. Due to having "summer" colds (me first then him) we haven't had sex as often as we normally due. I made the comment that I can't wait until we are both healthy enough to resume our active sex life and he agreed. I then made the comment "aren't you glad that our sex drives are so equally matched and that I want sex as much if not more than you do". He then remarked "I guess I have been lucky because every woman, except for one, has wanted sex just as much if not more than me". Then he went one to tell me that his ex-wife was insatiable!!! I know he has a past but was he out of line for saying these things or am I being to sensitive??? Of course, he doesn't think that he was out of line and was just having a conversation with me and that I just get to hung up on things. On one hand, I'm glad he is so open and honest with me about things but on the other hand, I would never tell him "my ex and I f*cked like rabbits"! What gives, is it me?

2007-07-25 04:18:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

How should she get past the resentment? Or is marriage now doomed?

2007-07-25 04:16:00 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you had to choose between being in your most ideal location in the world where you'd always dreamed of living but with average people or in an average place with the best people, which would you choose?

2007-07-25 04:14:11 · 16 answers · asked by Alex 5

Been married 2.5 years, and although there wasn't much sex, I thought we were getting along fine. Now she started a new job, she's saying she's having crushes on other people, and she's not "in love" with me anymore. I want to win her heart back and am not willing to separate yet. I've always been the kind of guy who helps her out around the house a lot, massages her, stuff like that. Should I put a stop to all of that and make her feel what it would be like if I didn't love her and treat her good? Or should I keep it up, maybe try some other things....take her on trips, out to dinner, anything else you can think of???
I feel really lost lately. I don't understand how she can marry me, and now so soon after decide that she wants to date other people. But of course she want's to keep me around too because I'm such a great "friend"! Well I aint having that! She hasn't cheated yet, but has said she has felt temped to. What think? Any hope for our marriage?

2007-07-25 04:13:09 · 26 answers · asked by qu1ck80 5

I have a 6-1/2 year old daughter who has my last name, from my previous boyfriend. I am now 24 weeks pregnant with another girl with my current fiance. I want our girl to have his last name. What last name should I take when we get married? I was thinking hyphenating, so I could have both of my daughter's last names, but am not sure if that will get confusing on their school records, and all other records. If I take my fiance's name, will it be hard on my 1st daughter if the rest of us have a different last name? Would that be confusing for her at school?

2007-07-25 04:12:17 · 16 answers · asked by angel_of_love_1981 1

2007-07-25 04:02:27 · 14 answers · asked by Secret 1

My wife and I have been having fight about Second Life the online world. When she first started playing she was having virtual sex with other guys and did not think it was a big deal. On the other hand I did, because I felt it was a form of cheating. She was sharing sexual intimacy with someone online that was not me. We had a huge fight about it and she stopped for a while. Now she is sneaking around doing it behind my back. She does not know yet that I know about it. What would a person in my shoe do now?

2007-07-25 04:00:20 · 19 answers · asked by ilford 1

Male age 31
Female age 24

2007-07-25 03:37:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband of 18 years has been getting on my nerves for the better part of 16 years. We have two children and I've always thought you have to stick it out for them, but I'm realizing that is a very old world way of thinking. He is very controlling, doesn't let me be myself, walks around moping most of the time, has no outside hobbies or interests (including sports), complains we never "do" anything--but has no ideas on what to "do".
Hasn't wanted to have sex in over three years. Tried counseling but didn't resolve anything.
Financially he is good and is a good "handyman" 'round the house. Nothing spectacular. Doesn't cook or clean. Expects me to work but says he doesn't have to do anything when he gets home because he worked 8 hours.
I'm just tired and don't want to spend the rest of my years this way. Beginning of marriage wasn't great either. He had issues with porn in the beginning. No porn now, but nothing else either. How do you say done?

2007-07-25 03:30:31 · 21 answers · asked by ? 4

2007-07-25 03:29:02 · 16 answers · asked by Lasarge 1

l dont understand why can l have a nice relationship with him with out the marriage thing,l love my hubb l just dont want to be married,the routine kills everything

2007-07-25 03:28:22 · 7 answers · asked by alana p 1

My stepson, who I raised, is now a grown man with a wife and child. His father and I divorced some years ago after many years of marriage. We had a blended family (his son, my daughter and a child together). My children are still extremely close and my stepson has always considered me as his Mom even though he has a biological mother who was in and out of his life while he was young. Now that he's grown, his biological mother has a renewed interest in him, which is all good for him. On the other hand, she has always resented my ex and me and thinks nothing of making a scene and ruining celebrations. I am still included in all his life events, but can't help feeling awkward/uncomfortable. My husband and I have a civil relationship with my ex and his family, but I still feel like an intruder. Any advice for me?

2007-07-25 03:26:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents are getting Married
after being divorced for over 20 years...and niether one of them getting married in-between
they have decided to re-marry..my brothers were raised by both of them, they have lived next door to eachother for our entire childhoods.
We have never witnessed any fights, arguements, or even cross words between them, they act and live as best friends, always supporting us and eachother
My brothers and myself are freaking out..what if this idea or marriage distroys their relationship?
are they being realistic?

2007-07-25 03:24:28 · 20 answers · asked by bopddbop 3

I am in a program that requires me to work as a teacher for 2 years (within a window of 3 years) in order to get my certification. I live in a VERY competitive area where it is incredibly difficult to get your foot in the door at most of the big districts. I had a one year contract last year and so I am needed to do year #2 of teaching in order to get certified. There are several jobs available to me several hours from my husband & house...and we're having a difficult time deciding what we should do. We see pro's and con's to both sides (me moving temporarilty for 9 months to get certified vs. me staying and not having a job and HOPING that I get one next year or I don't get certified and will have wasted my experience & money in regards to the program) and I figure maybe I can get some feedback on here. Would you or wouldn't you move and why? (We've only been married a little over a year and we have house, car and loan payments so living on one salary isn't possible currently)

2007-07-25 03:23:33 · 10 answers · asked by its about time 5

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Give me your honest opinion and if possible can you please rate me out of 10?

2007-07-25 03:23:00 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just a rhetorical question. What are your opinions? I am not planning on doing this anytime soon, but I don't think I would have a problem doing it at some time in the future, if I was sure about the decision.

2007-07-25 03:18:04 · 22 answers · asked by HooliganGrrl 5

What does a man need / want from his woman?

1. how do you want her to dress? at home? when youre out together?
2. do you want her to cater to you? in what way?
3. what drives you crazy in bed?
4. feel free to add extra stuff too :)

2007-07-25 03:16:45 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

My older sister got engaged over Christmas and asked me to be the maid of honor. We're really close...but her boyfriend is so lame. He's unstable and everyone in the family sees that he's not good enough for her. And she's basically more dumb when she's with him. He's a pathological liar and she believes everything he says. It's embarrassing to see her be so naive and believe these crazy things he says.

I truly believe that their marriage won't even last 5 years. And even though she's one of my best friends, I think it's dishonest to stand up there on their wedding day and act like I think this marriage is normal and sacred.

We've already had a fight about him and it resulted in us not talking for months. Do I express my concern with her or just shut up? If I do...what do I say?

2007-07-25 03:15:49 · 27 answers · asked by luckygurl284 2

My best friends husbands ex wife is still calling him all of the time. My bf calls about once a month to vent. He has three children with his ex and communication is essential, however she calls saying that she loves his family, asking him how to cook a meal, (he is a fantastic cook) for her boyfriend, calls about car trouble and apparently keeps looking at him as the role of husband, in the fix my problems since. He just listens and keeps the conversation short. My friend thinks that he needs to tell her that this is not appropriate because since they were married for 20 years it keeps them too close and makes her feel that she is the alternative. I don't know what to think, I think it isn't healthy for their marriage. I am tired of hearing about it for the past three years and thought I would ask for outside opinions.

2007-07-25 03:12:56 · 14 answers · asked by Rein 5

2007-07-25 03:12:41 · 12 answers · asked by Old Old 1

what am I entitled to if i am not on the mortgage and me and my husband ever split up?

Can anyone help please.

Thanks

2007-07-25 03:09:30 · 11 answers · asked by Kate 2

i was married and my wife left after some really emotional issues. Too many to go into. She was very insecure and I'll leave it at that. Paranoid to the point where i was accused of everything and didn't do anything by the way. It was just how she perceived every situation. Like working 10 minutes later meant I was with someone else at the office instead of actually working. It was difficult living that way. Problem is this. Everyone says move on and start dating. I did. I moved on. Started dating. Everytime i get close to a woman or things get even the slightest bit physical, i think of my wife. she's the only one i wanted but I can't change her. I'm having a hard time moving on. I loved her a lot. I just couldn't change her paranoia or her negative perceptions. it was exhausting but i loved her. I know because i was married before her and that divorce didn't affect me that bad. with her, it does. I really love her. How do I move on? All the regular advice isn't working. I haven’t heard from her in 3 months. She moved out and cut up some pictures of us and left them around for me to find after she moved out. I’m trying to figure out if that’s a sign that she hates me or that she’s angry I haven’t tried to get her back. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to make a mistake of trying to get her back when she doesn’t want it when I should just continue to move on. I don’t know how to read what she’s telling me by doing these things. Any advice?

2007-07-25 03:00:28 · 18 answers · asked by survivor 1

I've been married for 16 years and I have been cheating on my husband for 6 months with a co-worker...I feel really bad but my sex life with my husband is not what it use to be. I don't want to let go of my co-worker because sex with him is amazing...what do I do?

2007-07-25 02:57:31 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex has gotten married to a muslim man and have recently had a child together. I've heard rumors from HER family that my son who she has custody of has been staying with her mom ever since her new baby was born. Does the muslim religion not allow children born outside the marriage in the household? I'm very concerned about my son because I cannot find any information about this anywhere.

2007-07-25 02:53:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous