My parents are getting Married?

Question

My parents are getting Married
after being divorced for over 20 years...and niether one of them getting married in-between
they have decided to re-marry..my brothers were raised by both of them, they have lived next door to eachother for our entire childhoods.
We have never witnessed any fights, arguements, or even cross words between them, they act and live as best friends, always supporting us and eachother
My brothers and myself are freaking out..what if this idea or marriage distroys their relationship?
are they being realistic?

Answer 1

with 20 years in between I'd say they've had plenty of time to think about what they are doing.

Sounds like they are doing what is right. Definitely don't give them vibes that you question how 'right' YOU think this is....because if they make each other happy, which they obviously do, then this is without a doubt the right thing.

And there are LOTS of couples that divorce and then remarry. Just because it wasn't right 20 years ago doesn't mean it's not right now!

Good luck, I hope everything works out for the best with your family!!!!

Answer 2

After being best friends and neighbors for twenty years, they probably understand what they are getting into. ;o)

Yes, it's a big adjustment for the you and your brothers when you are used to a certain relationship between your parents, and then that changes, but try to embrace it. If they have somehow made a mistake in re-marrying, they are grown adults and can work that out between themselves.

In the meantime, be happy for them! Celebrate this wonderful, exciting time in their lives.

Answer 3

What if it makes things better for the both of them? What if they are happier than they ever have been in their life? Don't they deserve that chance?

If it destroys their relationship, then they will divorce, again, and move on with their lives. It's sad, but that's the reaction too many people have.

On the other hand, if your parents are strong, then even if there are problems, they will be determined to make things work - to go to counseling, to make compromises, and to keep on working at things.

Answer 4

Don't freak out about this. Please let your parents do this if they want to, and be happy for them. I have an aunt and uncle who were married, then got divorced, then several years later they remarried. They stayed married and happy until my uncle died. So give your parents the benefit of the doubt and let them make this decision between the two of them. Why don't you and your brothers throw them a big celebration?

Answer 5

My husband & I have some friends who got divorced and 5 yrs later got remarried. That was 10 years ago.
My brother in law & sister in law did the same thing and they have never been happier.
It can and does work for some couples.

Answer 6

let them do what they want to do, don't freak out, after all they have probably grown to appreciate what they didn't have, and matured more, so know what they want now. Let them be the parents and you be the child, do not tell them what to do, you are being unrealistic

and

do you know how many kids wish their parents would even talk to each other, let alone get married... you should be happy

Answer 7

Don't freak out about it. Maybe the first time they got married they were to young and just maybe they have grown up enough to know what they want. Maybe they will make it this time. I think you should support them, be there for them. It might just be the best thing for them.
Good Luck Hun,
Smokin

Answer 8

It's the real thing especially if they haven't gotten married in-between time. Basically there was no need for a divorce, they just probably was moving to fast. But Congrats!

Answer 9

I think after 20 years of, pretty much, being together, they know what they are doing.
They were able to do what most people can't, remain friends after a divorce.

Answer 10

Congratulations.