I've been married for 16 years and I have been cheating on my husband for 6 months with a co-worker...I feel really bad but my sex life with my husband is not what it use to be. I don't want to let go of my co-worker because sex with him is amazing...what do I do?
2007-07-25 02:57:31 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do your husband a favor and tell him, so he can kick your sorry cheating butt to the curb, and find a woman that loves him!
2007-07-25 03:01:49 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I cannot help but feel frustrated with your actions! Have you tried to approach your husband and tell him how you feel about the sex? Of course sex is going to be different or "amazing" with someone else after being married to one person for so long but that is the decision you made, and you broke that promise between a husband and wife!! Yes, you should feel bad about it--how would you feel if he had an affair? Karma always comes around! No wonder the divorce rates are over 50%.
Although I am being harsh, you really need to think about the problems you will be causing--to yourself, at work, to your family, etc.
I strongly suggest you break off the affair with the co-worker if you want to save your marriage and seek some counseling for yourself and/or with your husband so you can find out why you decide to step outside of the relationship before trying to address the issues within the relationship first! If you feel that the affair and the sex is that amazing, then do that being single!
I have been cheated on and I can tell you from personal experience that I felt so hurt, betrayed, and angry. Let's just say he and the woman didn't end up happily together, and I am glad he is out of my life.
2007-07-25 19:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by kitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off you need to break off your affair with the other guy. Then go home to your husband and talk with him. Tell him you have had an affair. If it was one time that's one thing but this has been going on for six months. Tell him you want to work on making your marriage better by going to marriage counseling. You are in a marriage not dating. You need to try as hard as you can to fix the problems and improve your relationship with your husband. Affair's and Divorce are not the answer. You may be having fun now but its your husband that you need to have fun with. Do not throw away 16 years of marriage over some co-worker.
2007-07-25 03:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of question is that???? Do you tell him you're cheating???? What about the biggest question, what kind of woman cheats on her husband??? Boo Hoo your sex life started lagging. Oh no How on earth will you make it. Before you decided banging someone else was the best path to take to a great sex life, did you bother to try and fix what was going on with the one you shared with your hubby? Did you talk to him, did you try and spice things up. Sweetie, did it ever occur to you that if you weren't happy with the sex life the two of you had that he might be just as unhappy with it too? Looks like you just are looking for people to tell you that being a adulterer is okay, well guess what it's not! A marriage is between 2 people and bringing in a 3rd person in to it was just asking for trouble. Be honest with yourself and for a change be woman enough to fix what this time you definitely broke and let your husband know what kind of person you are.
2007-07-25 03:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by Angela 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM NOW!!!! and STOP CHEATING!!!!
If you felt that bad about your cheating you wouldn't have done it for the last 6 months. You apparently haven't cared enough for your husband up to this point why is it all of a sudden bothering you now? Does it mean that NOW you have a conscience? He is the one that is victim here not you so what do you really expect help with from the people out here? If he does forgive you then you are one lucky ***** but if not and he divorces you then you will have deserved it.
2007-07-25 03:11:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop cheating. Stand up and do the right thing. You didn't say if you have children. I really don't think you feel bad you just want some one to say its ok what you are doing, Its not! You need to ask yourself it the shoe was on the other foot. Would you want to know it your husband was cheating on you? Your husband knowing won't change anything especially if you are seeing the other man. Do the right thing stop seeing the co-worker, work on your marriage or end the marriage first then look for another relationship.
2007-07-25 03:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by mugsly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow ... well, you HAVE to end the affair.
You need to talk to your husband and tell him your sex life together worries you and you are having serious problems ...
If he can't or won't address it, that seems like a good time to tell him what you've been doing. But you can't tell him if you can't add that you're sorry and plan to stop.
In any case, it's a terrible situation and you have done a really terrible things. Do vows mean nothing anymore? A little deprivation and they are disposable? It really hurts me to find out, time and time again, what scum people are.
16 years? You should be ashamed of yourself ... truly,deeply ashamed as a human being.
2007-07-25 03:08:47 · answer #7 · answered by Random_Girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From all the other comments I've read, it sums up to be, don't tell your husband, stop cheating (if you can - it's been 6 mts after all), talk to your husband about your sexual desires, divorce him and let him be happy with someone else. Oh! and the best part of a comment - KARMA COME BACK AROUND. The real question is - if you found out your husband was cheating what would you do?
2007-07-25 03:09:15 · answer #8 · answered by Brown'n 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
In spite of what some people may say, cheating happens millions of times every day. It doesn't make it right, but it's not the end of the world, all it means is that you are human and you have weaknesses and faults.
It depends on the relationship you have with your husband, and how you want it to progress from this moment on. Will he be able to handle the truth, renew your relationship and move on, or will telling him be the first step to the end of the marriage? Unless you have a very unconventional marriage, I do not think he will agree to you sleeping with your coworker while married to him.
Also consider if there are any real reasons to stay with your husband. If there are, realize you are risking them for this affair and ask yourself if it is worth it.
Good luck
2007-07-25 03:15:46 · answer #9 · answered by pawn_takes_king 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Does your husband know that your unhappy with your sex life? Or is that just an excuse to continue a affair with this other man? Your not even giving your husband a chance to work out the problem. If you want to save your marriage, then you need to break it off with the co worker and get into some marriage counseling asap! You need to be honest with your husband, yourself, and this other man. Your husband deserves to be with a wife who's honest and doesn't sneak around behind his back, and all of you deserve to be happy. So you need to quit being so selfish and figure out what you want in life.
2007-07-25 03:12:42 · answer #10 · answered by tropicalbreeze 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course sex with your lover is great!!!!!! I am sure it was with your husband when it was a new hot relationship too. Either stop cheating and work things out or leave him. Give him the chance to find someone else to have amazing sex with too. Actually I have a couple friends who may be interested in it.
2007-07-25 03:04:06 · answer #11 · answered by Maria 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋