For Men..How can I be the perfect wife?

Question

What does a man need / want from his woman?

1. how do you want her to dress? at home? when youre out together?
2. do you want her to cater to you? in what way?
3. what drives you crazy in bed?
4. feel free to add extra stuff too :)

Answer 1

Each guy is different. Probably the most important thing is to stay in decent shape, and dress pretty & get your hair & nails done regularly.

Honestly, a guy's worst nightmare is to marry a hottie in her early twenties, only to watch her change into a lazy frumpy fugly fat lady 5 years later. A guy will do nice gestures (like buy flowers & spend time with them) for a lady that chooses to stay good looking their whole life.

Second is to make an effort to clean (not live like a dirty sewer rat). Friggin buy some kitchen spray cleaner and some paper towels (not a dirty rag & dirty soap water) to clean the kitchen counters. Do laundry, & at least microwave some decent meals every now & then for him.

You will probably cringe at this, but your man probably want someone that is similar to his mother. If his mother is skinny & pretty, the guy will want their wife to be skinny & pretty. If his mother is a good cook, chances are he will expect you to be a good cook too.

This is all a trade off though, if you promise to always look hot for him, then he has to spend time with you & make a decent living. If you promise to cook & clean for him, then he needs to do guy cleaning like yard work, clean the cars & garage.

Answer 2

This is going to be a serious answer:

All Guys are not as pigheaded as some of the above. Please undersand this ladies!!!!

If you feel you can not be yourself around your man, and he doesn't still treat you like a queen, perhaps he doesn't "know you"

1. Dress comfortably at home, out together, look as stunning as you can, Guys like to walk into a resturaunt with the feeling that their woman is the best looking woman there. It's what I call the "She's with me" feeling. But don't over do it. Look classy, not Charo.

2. Yes cater to him, but not to the point where you feel like you're taking orders. Draw the line if this starts happening. He should also cater to you. Do little thing, offer to refil his cup if he's watchig TV and you're getting up.

3. The bedroom: Learn what he likes and do it. Keep things interesting. I won't tell you publicly what drives me crazy ;)

4. Extra stuff: Just be yourself. That should be all you need to do. If he doesn't like who you are, that's not your fault. You shouldn't have to change for anyone. And he shouldn't expect you to change yourself. You are who you are.

Being the perfect wife is not all on you. A wife is on;y 1/2 of a relationship. Perfect wives can only be as perfect as the man who marries them.One can not exist without the other. If the two of you have a the perfect relationship, then you'll be the perfect wife.

You shouldn't have to try to be the perfect wife.

Answer 3

Dress casually at home, but not sloppy. When out together, always look your best ( a man wants a nice looking woman on his arm in public). Don't have to actually cater, but do things for each other out of courtesy and respect at the proper time. What drives me crazy in bed is a woman who isn't afraid to try as many sexual positions/variations as possible to keep the sex act interesting.

Answer 4

wow that's such a diverse question(s)

there's too many undefined variables for me to answer the first question - mostly it depends on how good she looks - if she looks really good - dress sexy all the time - if she's not hot - don't try to dress sexy - guys laugh at big girls that try to dress sexy - like the fat girl that wears a belly shirt - don't do that

catering to a guy can be a dangerous thing - especially if you don't intend to keep it up - I mean don't get me wrong - if you aren't employed it would be nice to have dinner ready when he gets home -

oh now the sex related question - here's what i have discovered in my days - as long as you are more worried about taking care of your man than getting taken care of yourself then your sex life will be fine - he will take care of business for you - once you get more worried about getting taken care of in bed than taking care of him - the sex life will go straight into the toilet - as far as what to do - figure out what he likes and do it - do it all the time and don't expect reciprocation

extra stuff - ok he's my secret to a successful marriage -
1) make sure you don't spend all of your time together - no matter how much in love you are - if you are the only person he spends time with - sooner or later you'll want to kill each other - you have to have a life outside of each other - not a large one but enough to put things into perspective
2) pick your freaking battles - most "bad" wives nag over every little thing - if your a wife and you have to tell your husband more than three times not to leave his dirty socks on the floor then he's not going to pick up his socks - geez it's socks - it's not like he's out banging the chick next door - dirty socks on the floor should not be the reason you get a divorce - basically - don't nag over things that aren't REALLY important

good lluck

Answer 5

I love tight clothes on a woman. A woman that is proud to show what she has is amazing to me. No matter were we are. I dislike woman who were flip flops all the time. Its a pet-peeve. Sneakers is the way to go for me I dont know why. Catering? Cater to each other. I never ask for anything except be there. On the other hand I don't mind catering to her ever need. What drives me crazy in bed is when a woman bites me. Scratching jus being rough drives me crazy. I love it.

Answer 6

First, there is no perfect wife. At least not that you can get info about by polling yahoo answers. Because what is perfect for me would drive another man crazy.

Same for what does a man want or need - everyone needs different things.

Given those constraints, here's answers for me.

1. I want my wife to dress modestly - I don't want some other guy getting hot over my wife and trying to make a move on her. This goes for where ever we would be.

2. "Cater to me"? What I want is a wife who loves me more than anyone else in the world. Someone who loves me so much that when we're together, she loves to be near me, wants to hold hands, or kiss, snuggle, or just hang out together. And I want to be someone that does the same toward her.

3. Define crazy - if you mean distracting - to know that what we are doing is not really what is on her mind.

4. Extra stuff - I want someone who is committed to me 100%, and to whom I am committed 100%. I want someone that I can talk to, and who will talk to me, about deep stuff as well as fluff. I want someone who likes to do stuff I like to do, and who is open to talking about what she wants, so we can do that too. I want a great mom to our kids - someone who doesn't treat the kids as a nusiance and as a mistake. I want someone who likes to read and think. I want someone who is willing to do their share of the chores around the house. I want someone who doesn't try to keep every tiny thing that has ever been in their life, hoarding used napkins or empty toliet paper rolls. Someone who will share chores like laundry, dishes, cooking, whatever, so I'm not left doing everything. I want someone who will save money, not spend it on every little thing that enters her line of sight.

Answer 7

My husband swears by (and sometimes at) my methods.

1 - Don't nag. This doesn't mean you can't say you don't like something, but don't beat him over the head with it. Use a calm, pleasant voice, and be prepared to talk about reasonable solutions that you can both live with.

2 - Don't hold a grudge. If the issue has been settled, drop it. Don't keep bringing up old news, or try to hold old mistakes over someone's head.

3 - Don't 'punish' your partner. This means no withholding of sex, attention, affection, or anything else that is a part of your normal interaction.

4 - If something is bothering you, TELL HIM. Don't pout, hint, snub, or do any of the other passive means of trying to get him to guess that something is wrong. This should be done in a calm voice, and with you taking full responsibility for your own feelings and involvement with the situation.

5 - Spend meaningful time together. Give each other attention, affection, and support. This should be a two way street, if you're having a rough day, he should be just as willing to cheer you up as you are to help him with his rough days.

6 - Give him room to be himself. Take the room you need to be yourself. The most compatible partners aren't going to be identical in their personal needs. I have interests that my husband doesn't share, so I meet those interests myself, without expecting him to participate. He also does things without me. When we see each other afterwards, we enjoy each other all the more.

7 - TRUST HIM. Don't get jealous every time you see him speak to another woman. He should be with you because of choice, not because he's afraid of your reaction if he leaves. If you discover him taking advantage of this trust, that's a fairly good sign that he isn't taking the relationship as seriously as you are, and it's probably time to break up and move on.

8 - Bedsport preferences are going to vary from person to person. The absolutely best thing you can do is keep lines of communication open. Ask, play, try things out together. If your partner is reluctant to engage in a particular act, don't push, there are plenty of other options. There should be a pretty wide common ground, though. If the two of you have a lot of things you can't agree on, it will cause problems.

9 - Pampering is great, but neither partner should be expected to do it. That leads to someone feeling taken for granted. If either of you are heading for the kitchen or the store, you should ask if your partner needs anything. If someone is sick, the other should help out. Keep the other person in mind, and occasionally surprise them with little treats, such as a new book by a favorite author, or turning out a favorite meal.

10 - Dress for yourself. Your partner should be with you because they love who you are. Don't put up with someone trying to recreate you to their specs.

Answer 8

1. When going out dress however you think your man may like. For example some like jeans and t-shirt, others like sweat pants types, and some like dressy types. Whichever one you think he likes, you dress.

2. Cooking and cleaning is a major plus, no nagging. We love sports.....alot...

3. You girls should take control once in a while, ride it like a shotgun be a bit more aggressive and sometimes passive. Tell the him that he is pleasuring you. Just make him feel manly.

Just be a woman at times and be girly at times and mix it up a bit. That should do the job, you seem to have a good head on your shoulders.

Answer 9

Good Lord, please forgive me ...... :~?
1] Dress like yourself, at home, anywhere, everywhere, anytime & everytime
2] Engage a catering company to cater to both your needs - spend more time making love & make life wonderful : - Life is Beautiful [but, short], make every precious moments worthwhile & wonderful in your own way[s]....
3] crazy drivers drive dangerously, if you drink - don't drive! If you're the driver - just observe the regulated traffic rules, if you're passenger - enjoy the ride! ... whatever. Drive safely, it's okay to speed - just drive safely. Speed don't kill, carelessness does. Always maintain your speed limit, and send your vehicle for regular servicing, just in case it broke down midway ..... or you'll never come, I mean reach your destination....
4] it's always the Mind, Body & Spirit - maintain, you'll be happy...

Answer 10

So, I know I'm not a man. But, I'm smart enough to know that if you put on a front for your man, it won't keep up. You have to be yourself....in every aspect. Dress however you think you look good, cater to him when you want to do special things to make him feel good, look to your heart for this....ask him what he likes.....if you love him with all your heart you will learn to know exactly what he loves.....and he should learn what he loves about you, by loving the person that you are and not a person that you have to fake being when you're around him.