l dont understand why can l have a nice relationship with him with out the marriage thing,l love my hubb l just dont want to be married,the routine kills everything
2007-07-25 03:28:22 · 7 answers · asked by alana p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You say marriage doesn't matter to you, yet you refer to him with a term that applies only to married men (husband, or "hubb"). If being married isn't significant, and your relationship is every bit as meaningful without it, then you don't need the married "lingo." He's your boyfriend. Period.
2007-07-25 03:54:42 · answer #1 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Three things.
1. People who are happy think that what makes them happy will make everyone happy. It is not always true, but that is often their motivation.
2. Marriage does not cause routine. Routine causes routine. If you are committed to your man and stay together a long time, you'll likely fall into routines, married or not. Whether or not you have a piece of paper that says you're officially a couple is not going to change that. If you DON'T fall into routines, it will have nothing to do with you not being married.
3. You CAN have a nice relationship without getting married. That said, the only difference between you and a married person is that piece of paper that makes it official. It comes in handy, but it is not a necessity.
Good luck!
2007-07-25 10:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that marriage is a routine and unless you really want to get married, do not do it. You have to be ready for a real commitment - it is a forever thing. It does not bring you closer together, marriage just means you will tolerate anything the other does - no questions asked. Do not worry about what people think.
2007-07-29 10:12:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you are happy just the way you are then don't change a thing...You don't have to be married to be happy....Some people who are married are not even happy or are seeking divorce...So it's not true that you can only be happy if you are married...Everyone is different and so are their situations...So if you feel that this is how you love sharing your life with your partner then thats all that should matter...If you decide to get marry it's because you want to be and because you feel it's the right thing for YOU***
2007-07-25 10:58:46 · answer #4 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can only be happy if you're married. If you're happy with the way things are for you that's great! I personally wanted the commitment and benefits that come with being married but I totally understand that many people feel differently. Be happy with your own choices and don't worry about what others think
2007-07-25 10:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by Jessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Afraid are you. Marriage is not a curse, but a life long commitment. Yeah, yeah you are in a committed relationship with an open option of packing and leaving that easy. Marriage make packing and leaving a bit difficult.
2007-07-25 10:36:57 · answer #6 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're content not to be married, that's your decision, right? Don't let what others say bother you if you're confident with your decision. People say things like that because since the dawn of man, the plan was to get married, settle down, be fruitful and multiply! But if that's not your plan, it doesn't make you a bad person. Be who you are.
2007-07-25 10:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by Starry Eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋