were in bed the other night just talking. Due to having "summer" colds (me first then him) we haven't had sex as often as we normally due. I made the comment that I can't wait until we are both healthy enough to resume our active sex life and he agreed. I then made the comment "aren't you glad that our sex drives are so equally matched and that I want sex as much if not more than you do". He then remarked "I guess I have been lucky because every woman, except for one, has wanted sex just as much if not more than me". Then he went one to tell me that his ex-wife was insatiable!!! I know he has a past but was he out of line for saying these things or am I being to sensitive??? Of course, he doesn't think that he was out of line and was just having a conversation with me and that I just get to hung up on things. On one hand, I'm glad he is so open and honest with me about things but on the other hand, I would never tell him "my ex and I f*cked like rabbits"! What gives, is it me?
2007-07-25 04:18:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You end up getting more and more of what you allow. If you dont say anything to him then you will keep getting it.
The first thing that came to my mind if you are quick enough to respond is
ewwww too much information.
That way it is sutle and descreet that you are sickened by that information.
2007-07-25 04:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is you. But not really in a bad way. You dont want to hear about the details of his past relationships. Just tell him you appreciate him wanting to share, but you're not really comfortable with the intimate details. You have two different ideas of what is and isnt appropriate, and this is true of ANY relationship, friends, sisters etc. Having open conversations are fine, and if your comfortable with small details thats cool too.
I think it may have just embarrassed you a bit and you also just didnt want to hear that. I asked my fiance about his worst experience in x or y and he was willing to tell me, though he couldnt ask me the same cause he's my first lol. But I am comfortable with that, and I did ask... HOWEVER he and his brother talk about sexual activities, not details just stuff like lingere and oil and things like that, and I dont want to be around or on the phone when they do... He didnt understand that, and I explained to him, I'm not mad at you for saying it, I just get embarrassed easy and it just is uncomfortable for me... so pls when I'm within earshot, dont mention it. And he got it and he hasnt. There are different things that we are and arent comfortable with, and there is nothing wrong with that.
2007-07-25 04:27:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have been upset also, hearing my husband talk about him and his ex wife's sex life. He would have also been upset with me if I was to do the same to him. Even though you know he has a past does not mean you want to hear about their sex life in detail. He may of thought it was harmless conversation and not realized how much it would up set you. You need to let him know even though you know he has a past you do not want to heat about his sex life with other women. I have said stuff to my husband not realizing that it had up set him until he let me know and he has me to. The only way to avoid this is to be open and honest about your feelings. In a relationship it is great that he feels he can be so open to you. I would not push the issue on him or he may come to think he can not talk to you.
2007-07-25 04:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by Cristy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too sensitive but, then men are more open about their past sex then woman. Be glad he is with you and happy you both enjoy a good sex life. And yes, men should think before opening their month sometimes. At least he didn't do it after you had sex....good luck
2007-07-25 04:26:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Being a man I can answer this for you...we don't think before we speak sometimes. I'm sure it was not his intent to hurt you in any way, he just didn't think before he opened his mouth. What you need to do is tell him that you know about his past but would really prefer to not hear about his past sexual conquests....he'll listen and think before he says something next time.
2007-07-25 06:54:33 · answer #5 · answered by Cupcakes Moosey! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I can have these conversations with out hurting ones feelings but if he knows this kind of talk about his past bothers you he should stop
But I think you are lucky because sex must be great with you if he is with you and not up her butt.
2007-07-25 04:25:44 · answer #6 · answered by My Three 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it was one thin g to say the first part, that was fine....the other part about his ex wife being insatiable was something else. THAT was wrong. But just drop it and dont bring it up again...he probably didnt even realize he said it.
2007-07-25 04:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're right. He shouldn't have told you about his past sex life, but don't make him sorry he talks to you. So many men don't communicate. Let it go as a stupid thing he said and leave it at that. He's yours now, be happy.
2007-07-25 04:25:09 · answer #8 · answered by mamabear 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He probably crossed a delicate line there. Try to excuse him. Don't bring it up again. You don't need those mental images ruining the good thing you two have. If he brings it up, tell him that it makes you uncomfortable. Other than that, celebrate the fact that you have this man and nobody else does.
2007-07-25 04:23:48 · answer #9 · answered by Kyle 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I have to say he was being honest. My B/F and I talk about his ex'es and I don't have a problem with it. But I am a strong woman and confident and don't worry about his past. If it problem with it you need to tell him. And ask him not to talk about his ex'es anymore.
Smokin
2007-07-25 04:29:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋