I have a 6-1/2 year old daughter who has my last name, from my previous boyfriend. I am now 24 weeks pregnant with another girl with my current fiance. I want our girl to have his last name. What last name should I take when we get married? I was thinking hyphenating, so I could have both of my daughter's last names, but am not sure if that will get confusing on their school records, and all other records. If I take my fiance's name, will it be hard on my 1st daughter if the rest of us have a different last name? Would that be confusing for her at school?
2007-07-25 04:12:17 · 16 answers · asked by angel_of_love_1981 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok...sooo....a bunch of people suggested you have your fiance adopt your daughter....but you didn't even mention anything about the relationship with your ex. Do these people not realize that if the father is still in the child's life you can't just say 'oh, I don't want you to be her dad anymore'!?!??!
I personally do not like hyphenating. I think it's silly. And most of the time the people with hyphenated names drop the last part anyway.
But, let's say your daughter keeps her hyphen, and then 20 years down the road is in a similar situation as you.......is she just going to keep on adding hyphens to her name?
My experience with men is that they are typically very proud of their last names. My husband probably would have flipped out had I not taken his name, lol. I think that you should give your baby her daddy's name....and if you want, hyphenate your own name.....but I wouldn't hyphenate your baby's name.
2007-07-29 03:01:48 · answer #1 · answered by jezyka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally, I HATE hyphenating, I think its useless and unless the name is something that you are famous for or something their is no sence in it.....EXCEPT...I think in your case it would be a nice way to keep your family a little more connected in name. I wouldn't want to be the only one in my family with a different name....I kinda am now cuz I just got married and its wierd! Your other option is to have the new fiance adopt your 1st daughther once you get married so you all have the same name, but I don't know how 1st daughters dad would feel about it. To sum up, I think you should hyphenate!
2007-07-25 05:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should give your daughter the same last name as you and your fiance have, along with your unborn child. Since you are all a family now, I think that you should consider taking your fiance's last name, considering that you and your boyfriend are split up. It will be much easier to refer to everyone in your family with the same last name. Since your fiance is the new man in your life, consider taking his last name, without hyphenating anything. Good luck.
2007-07-25 04:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a son by my first husband and am now remarried. I actually kept my first husbands last name so it matches my sons, only until he is out of high school (he's a sophomore in HS) then I will change it to my new husbands name. The reason I did this is because the school system gets extremely confused when there are different last names in the household. I had a couple friends who went through this and said if they ever had to do it over they would keep the same last name as their child it just saves from alot of confusion with the school system.
2007-07-25 04:18:48 · answer #4 · answered by Maria 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what you think is right. Maybe talk to your daughter and man before you pick one or the other.As for the schools no they see it every day. My girls have one last name and I have another. It is not a big deal to them. They only care if she is in school so they can get paid for her being there. Maybe you can even change your daughters last name to your fiance's last name. You should really talk it over with him first and see how he stands.
Have a nice day
Smokin
2007-07-25 04:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by Smokin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always has a different last name from my family and though I sometimes wished mine was the same as theirs only because my last name was my fathers and he wasn't ever around. But the name issue didn't leave any lasting affects on me (wish I could say the same for the father not being around). But if you wish to hyphenate then do so...it'd be nice to share the name for them both.
2007-07-25 04:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well You could take your fiance's last name and then just have him adopt your first daughter i guess to make it easier and so she can feel that when shes older shes part of the family (Some kids have issues with that) Good Luck.
2007-07-25 04:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by SiCnGaged 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hyphenating shouldn't cause that many problems.
Many people do it when they want to keep their maiden names and take their husband's names too. It will also "include" your daughter into your current family.
Hyphenate it Honey, it'll be alright.
2007-07-25 04:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your finance could adopt your 6 yr old daughter, that way she could take his last name, and everyone would have the same last name!
2007-07-25 04:15:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter has your old boyfriend's last name or your maiden name? I don't understand.
If your daughter has your maiden name, you might want to hyphenate. However, if your daughter has your old boyfriend's name, I say don't do it.
2007-07-25 04:19:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋