My husband and I got married a month ago. He is a good person with a good heart. He treats me like a princess. But he has bad credit, $15,000 credit debt, and has loser in-laws that rely on him too much. I see his financial situation and his family affecting any future plans that we may have.
On the other hand...i have this ex-boyfriend who says he still loves me but he has cheated and lied to me several times. But he is financially successfull and has a gud family. There are still trust issues tho.
So shud i divorce my husband, go back to my ex, or just
divorce and be away from both?
Help on this please!
2007-07-25 19:37:13 · 16 answers · asked by Hawaiigirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would work on my marriage because your husband is a good person with a good heart. Your ex was not loyal to you and with him there will always be trust issues. Financially your husbands responsibility is to you and him first. I would take him to a counselor so someone can help him see this. good luck ...I hope everything works out for you.
2007-07-25 19:50:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are his debts and in-laws an issue now? Didn't you know this before "I Do"? Could that be what is meant by "look before you leap"? Aren't those debts yours, as well , now? Try and recall ALL the reasons you agreed to marry this man...sounds like post-honeymoon blues are what you are having now that the fantasy period is winding down. Seems you have some maturing to do...now's a good time to start doing that.
Ever thought about working through some of your problems instead of running from those problems into other problems?
He can explain to the family that he simply is not in a position to assist as he did prior to his marriage to his princess...and you and the prince can work out a financial plan to decrease/eliminate your debt, together...
2007-07-25 20:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by Tonya R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tiff one ...But if u have trust issues with your ex I sure as heck would not go back to him cause he will do it again to you and u will be miserable...If you really love the man you are with at the moment and like the way he treats you and he is very kind to you than heck stick with him and that's only if you love him...sure money is nice but having a good heart and treating u like a princes is much better than being cheated on...you sound like your not that in love with your husband other wise you would not even question any one on what you should do...just be happy do what ever makes you feel good ...but thinking the way you are thinking sure sounds like u in it for the money...not the person
2007-07-25 19:51:29 · answer #3 · answered by blugeanie923 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would rather have a man who loves me and treats me like a princess Bad credit and all then a man that is faithful and has a good family. It sounds to me that you're in the marriage for the money and not the person. The husband should dump you and move on to the next...
2007-07-25 19:48:18 · answer #4 · answered by BabiGurl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You say that your husband's in-laws are losers. That means that you are calling your own parents losers! Get a clue.
The fact that you married him and didn't know anything about his financial situation indicates that you are either really, really young, naive, or stupid. You don't deserve a decent guy. Go hook up with your ex-boyfriend -- you two deserve each other.
2007-07-25 21:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think when you marry someone you are expected to stay with them, "for better, for worse", at least try longer. The ex is a no hope. Lies are like black holes. Money is not the main thing in life.
2007-07-25 22:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by sheila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief, on one hand you got a good man/$$ issues and on the other hand you got a cheater/with $$.. I say divorce your husband in debt, ok he has a good heart, but believe me it isn't going to work, you need someone that is wanting the same goals as you, and as for the cheater, well, I am a strong believer that once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater.. first comes respect, then love I say.. good luck my dear!
2007-07-25 19:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why did you get married in the first place? You don't get married because of money but because of love. You don't deserve your husband. You should go back with the ex so he can keep cheating on your butt because that's what you deserve.
2007-07-25 19:57:55 · answer #8 · answered by r_nicho 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just found out about your now husband's spending habits? Sorry, I don't believe that. If you didn't intend to marry for better or worse, then please, do the guy a favor and move on. If a liar and a cheat looks good to you, it might be because it takes one to know one.
2007-07-25 19:54:20 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
funny i should run across this question. maybe you should just separate for a while and see if he can get things straightened out on his own. chances are they wont get any better. as for the looser boyfriend, why would you want to go back to a lier and a cheater? i would nt. . better just leave him alone. get some one with better standards.
2007-07-25 19:45:18 · answer #10 · answered by nana c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋