if you slept with alot of guys *like 17 other people and it wasnt while i was with him..*...would you tell your new husband ...*it was some people he knew* or would you just take it to the grave?
2007-07-25 19:33:04 · 20 answers · asked by anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Past is past.
Let it Go.
What's important is the present relationship.
2007-07-27 01:06:54 · answer #1 · answered by Kreemery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an easy question. Let me set you straight on something. If you are already starting out your new life with a lie, why did you bother getting married. I think you should tell him if he asks. If you do run into someone that your husband knows and you've been intimate with in the past, you should let him know. It saves embarrassment on both parts. And that keeps the trust secure in the relationship. Also, if he asks you if you've sleep with someone, just be honest and tell the truth. If he really loves you, he will respect you that much more. But don't volunteer the info unless he does ask.
2007-07-25 22:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take that to the GRAVE.... unless he's really cool about that stuff.. which most guys even if they say they are... really aren't.... he probably wouldn't look at you the same... 17 is rather.... experienced... also if the guys you slept with that he knows aren't going to tell him, it might be best if you kept it that way... on the other hand if it really really bothers you... it's better that you tell him rather than if he finds out from someone else
2007-07-25 19:40:01 · answer #3 · answered by brown eyed girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it to the grave! Sex with the other men was before him , leave it in the past. Theres no reason to tell him.
2007-07-25 19:52:09 · answer #4 · answered by redneckcowgirlmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it to the grave! 17 guys is still a small number. If you tell him he is going to ask for details. Names, number of times, size of their members, etc.
2007-07-25 19:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by handyman7799 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a good idea unless he is really open minded .
for eg if has slept with 17 or more girls he really cant say anything can he now .......BUT
if you've had more partners than him he might take it a little bit hard.
i dont get it tho you havn't told him up to now and your married so why tell him now.
your married its a new life all is new and fresh so why go
back to the past.
cheers
2007-07-25 19:41:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it weird, if a guy had slept with 17 girls no one would think anything of it, but because you're a a girl suddenly it is something so shameful. If he doesn't ask then don't tell him, if he does ask then be honest.
2007-07-26 01:40:26 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it to the grave. Since you are with him now there is no need for him to know your history.
2007-07-25 21:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Sexi,
Why is it even an issue of "should I tell him?"....OF COURSE YOU SHOULDNT! First off what good is it going to do to tell him that info? He doesnt need to know, it was BEFORE him. The only thing that matters is what you do WHILE you are with him. You dont need to have a guilty conscience on this, we all have a past and the important thing is that you leave it there, (in the past) and move on, move forward and have lots of sex with your hubby!
2007-07-25 19:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by CrAzY D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it to the grave
2007-07-25 19:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by richard_beckham2001 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if he asks, then tell the truth. Just reassure him that he's the one you want. I wouldn't go into WHO you slept with, cause it's ancient history, it doesn't matter and what good would it do for him to know who they were.
2007-07-25 19:37:44 · answer #11 · answered by Kelly W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋