My husband was married earlier and has a 4 year old daughter from that marriage.He later separated and we got married about a year ago.However, we were having a rough patch in our life for the past 2 years or so. This began when i moved to the city he was living in as we had a long distance relationship b4 that.After I moved to the city i realized that he was not the same person,was nt in love with me as much as I was with him.I would catch him lying about his friendship with other woman, or even caught him when he went out with another lady once.I forgave him, but must admit that whenever i was hurt by those thoughts I reminded him of it and he always complained that if i have forgiven him then i should not bring up the topic again.During this time he lost interest in me. We had no sex life.we would do it only when he wanted to which wud be once or twice a month.He would not get intimate with me except for saying I love u over the phone.Now im pregnant,need love but dont feel the same
2007-07-25 23:44:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hes moving on with out you try to get his attention asap all things anit going to be looking good for you.
2007-07-25 23:48:11 · answer #1 · answered by msstockny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately for the baby, you were married way too soon and you didn't even know him, especially if you had some strange long distance relationship. When you moved in with him, you thought he wasn't the same person? Oh, he was the same person, but you didn't even know who the person was!
You say he also was not in love with you as much? He never was in love! That's not love. You can't love the person you supposedly love a little less. This is not a game. It's a feeling. If he loved you all he would do naturally is try to make you happy, not himself, especially cheating on you with other woman.
Use some common sense. The guy is not for you and you will eventually find him cheating. You don't forgive him for that, you get a divorce!
If this is how he's treating you, your child will suffer. Look what that poor baby is being born to. Parents that don't even know what marriage is.
2007-07-26 00:09:20 · answer #2 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through. All i can say is be strong, dont think too much at the moment yet. Because you are pregnant, i am sure you do not want anything happen to your unborn baby right. Think about the baby now and i am sure your husband do and still love you very much. Sometimes, when we are pregnant, we tend to feel not pretty, not being love and will be extra moody. It is just due to the pregnancy. Hormone changed. And you may not realize it is due to our reaction that we push away our husband and they are feeling the same way how you feel now. Not feeling wanted and needed. But actually we do and it is just because we are showing them the wrong reaction, thats all. Dont think too much and take care. Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-07-25 23:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by Dark Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Now know that since ur pregnant ur responsible 4 another person! ur child! Try considering things over and taking the right desertions. Try having a long serious talk with ur husband first.. Good luck! Hope everything turns out allright
2007-07-25 23:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by ~seniorina~* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may in basic terms combat one conflict at a time and additionally you're able to desire to make certain which of them are worth battling. in case you 2 are entering into debt on the subject of the massive dwelling house, this may well be a controversy to talk now. Your pregnant and that's going to be a whilst in the previous you're able to desire to combat the PG-13 conflict or the video games one so in basic terms attempt to loosen up on that one for now. according to probability he will exchange his attitude in the previous your infant gets that age yet while not you 2 could have that talk then. there'll likely be a great style of issues you will discover he's not doing suitable after your infant is born. you will could desire to think of via those. which of them are important and which of them are truly not that massive of a deal. when you sift in the direction of the subject concerns and look on the stable & undesirable and after your hormones quiet down then elect if that's a relationship you desire to be in. yet do not forget approximately that he stands out as the father inspite of the place you go. wish each and every thing works out & gets extra suitable!!
2016-10-09 09:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How foolish are you? Why in the world would you allow yourself to get pregnant from a guy that does not even love you. You should have left him long ago. Now you are going to make a child just as miserable as you are. What a selfish person you are.
2007-07-25 23:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're in a tough spot. May I suggest marital counseling? If not, it's time to realize who you are without him and start making plans to be the greatest single mom in the world.
2007-07-25 23:59:50 · answer #7 · answered by madderpooh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why did you even have to marry someone whos divorced? its useless...why would he be in a divorce if he hasnt been cheating? , the most likely case, you shouldve been aware that he cheats before you marry him. its logical enough :D
2007-07-26 02:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by mikael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is the babay his? or did u flirt around which explaines why u r worried abt yr husband.
2007-07-25 23:49:49 · answer #9 · answered by chasen54 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋