he's having trouble paying bills in the new place., i help with the inside bills and my car payment and cr card bills i have. and cell bill. i buy groc. and whatever i can do. never no money to take a vaca.! what can i do? he wont let me see how much he makes. i just want to know how he spends his money and he doesnt show me all the time where it goes.
2007-07-25 20:02:10 · 4 answers · asked by nana c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not much of a marriage. You need to talk and share. Who made him the boss?..
2007-07-27 15:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...your married! That means, you share the money! Do you have separate checking accounts? You should have a joint account. Obviously, you take care of the majority of the bills. Tell your husband that you will be responsible for paying all the bills. This means, however, that you need to receive all bank statements. Also, tell your husband to direct deposit his paychecks. Also, check debit/credit card statements. If he doesn't want to share info with you, talk to him about going to see a credit counselor or a debt consolidator. Maybe someone else can knock some sense into him.
Also, now is the time to talk to him. Tell him your concerns and bring up the house issues. If he dismisses you or still won't come clean, then he's really not committed to you or your relationship. If you don't want to or can't afford to leave him, you need to protect yourself. Start putting money into your own account or safe deposit box and don't tell him about it. Go through his stuff (office, drawers, car, etc.) when he's not home. The issue of trust died a long time ago. If he's not being honest with you, you can't continue to be honest with him.
2007-07-26 04:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by Ariel H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats really not good..my mom is in the same situation..she has a boyfriend almost husband and he wont let her see his paychecks...it seems like hes hiding something..she pays 4 alot of the stuff they do have and the food..they took a trip to tennesse and the whole thing costed more thatn 800 dollars..guess what she paid it all...i remember when she found out he was saving all his money and not telling her..then all hell broke loose..i personally wouldnt be in this kind of realtionship
2007-07-26 03:20:29 · answer #3 · answered by Alyssa D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like he is either betting on something. or has a misterss in my opion?
2007-07-26 03:17:19 · answer #4 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋