I hear them say that the number one thing in a man's mind is sex. my husband of five years tells me he does

Question

not want quantity but quality so he asks for sex once a week or even after two weeks. I think i find that quite abnormal and that really disturbes me because he has ever become unfaithful to me and i keep asking myself does he get sex satisfaction from elsewhere. is that normal. he is a bit plump and sometimes i think i think its the problem of weight. kindly advice.

Answer 1

quality IS better than quantity.... maybe when he wants it more... it's better for him. i haven't heard of too many "plump" men that didn't want to have sex often despite their weight... maybe that's his preference

Answer 2

I totally agree wtih MikeD452001. A person's weight DOES affect their sex drive by way of their self-esteem. If he's not comfortable with his weight, he may not feel attractive. The other possibility is that he's a bit on the selfish side. He may not want to do the work it takes to turn you on, foreplay, etc...so he only chooses to have sex once a week or even less. Meanwhile, he's masturbating to satisfy his needs. Truth is, there could be a handful of other reasons, but only your husband knows what's really going on.

Either way, there's definitely something wrong with this picture. You have two choices... you can ignore it and pretend your sex life is satisfying or you can get to the root of the problem with couples therapy. It doesn't seem like you two can have an open and honest communication by yourselves. He's not fessing up to what the issue is. You will also learn how to tell him that you need more, and if you've told him this already, he's not listening. If he won't go with you, seek therapy alone because either way, you have an issue that needs to be dealt with.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Each man has his own desire and his own focus on sex.
But it is true that overweight is a problem for selfesteem and Mojo (energy).
The other point is not to find out he has sex with someone else but if your past experiences were satisfying him or not.
Moreover are you still good looking enough to stimulate him or have you changed? Are you ever using the same "starters" and the same "finishes"?

All these points are important. But don't forget that he could also feel that once a week or every two week is what you expect and not more so he just tries to adjust to your pitch...

U are part of the solution.

Answer 4

I was in a situation like that with my ex-girlfriend. I loved the sex but, frankly, I hated all the foreplay and, even worse, postplay. So I told her something along those lines. In the meantime, I was jerking off several times a day. None of the foreplay and postplay, all of the orgasms.

Answer 5

correction about being over weight yes it does effect your sex life both mentally and physically. A overweight person has low self-esteem they are embarrassed and lack energy and good blood flow and when you add all that up it can have a big impact on a person sex life.

Answer 6

Be thankful he still wants to have sex with you and forget about it. It means more sleep and free time. Some people hate sex, actually.

Answer 7

don't know what to tell you but may be if the both of you rent a movie. a good hot one. things may change for him and you.( a new life with love) give it a try the coat is about 5.00 or so.

Answer 8

Sometimes excess weight can lower a man's libido.
If he increases his exercise, you may see an increase in his libido, but no guarantees.
Drugs, including alcohol, are other factors that can lower the libido.

Answer 9

quality is definatly more important, if i have good quality sex with my partner it can keep me satisfied for at least a week!

Answer 10

sounds like he has a low sex drive due to his weight problems./