Recently me and wife have been going through some things.Thewords of Divorce have been mentioned and to futhercomplicate things we have three children. I am older than my wife by a few years. Every now andthen she will talk with me about change that is fine with methat will take time.But the question that keeps hiting me me is do I love her. My RESPONSE IS YES and that is not based souly on thekids asshe thought. I really do love her. But then she ask meif I love her regardless of anything and she gets the same answer of YES. Wahat I am wondering now is what is love and how do you know whenyou do love someonelike that. I know what is was for me inthe beginning of the relatinship but what is it suppose to be now?
2007-07-24 23:30:25 · 7 answers · asked by Ryan m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make this relationship work if that's the last thing you do. It will be harder for both of you if you leave and especially on the children. The love you have for each other in the beginning will evolve into something else and will not always feel like it did in the beginning. This is a partnership between the two of you and it's you two against the world. Who will you let win?
2007-07-24 23:36:36 · answer #1 · answered by marie s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling like you always want her to be with you. Feeling like your life would not be complete without her.
What she wants from you is for you to show her by doing romantic things for her and together with her. Why don't you plan a night away from the kids.
Get a hotel room, make reservations for a nice dinner, go to a dance club, and when she gets to the hotel, you would have already put a bottle of wine in the room, a card that says how much you love her, and some fresh flowers. About once a month at least, plan a night out for the two of you to go to a movie, a nice dinner, a dance club, or something to renew the relationship. I will bet you will find those old feelings again!!!
By the way, that night out is MUCH cheaper than a divorce!!!!!!!
2007-07-25 06:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think back to the beginning of your relationship. How was it then? What did you do to make her heart skip a beat and vice versa?
You still love your wife madly, but you both have gotten lost along the way.
Rekindle those feelings you both had (I know it's hard to remember when you have children) and put the romance back in there.
2007-07-25 06:37:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is patent, love is kind, love endures, love is felt as something lifting, love changes as we change.
There are many "types" of love.
Love of the first bloom, that love that gets you all choked in the throat.
Love at looking at your child, and your mouth feels like a banana is stuck in it.
Love that makes your heart swell, that you think it will burst.
Love when you see two old people walk by holding hands, and you look and can feel there is something that they have.
Love for a parent is different than love for your spouse.
So many forms that love can take.
It was never supposed to be contained, labelled, taken out on Sundays.
Love needs to be expressed, shown, felt. no holds barred.
2007-07-25 06:47:07 · answer #4 · answered by Astro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same.
Love is a choice.
When you say "I DO", you not only say it to her but to God, and before witnesses.
God says let your yes be yes, and your no be no.
When you say "I DO", it's for better or worse, for always.
The rest is about faithfulness.
But moreso unto God.
If you are faithful to Him alone, you will be faithful to your mate, your job, and all else.
Make your choices and live by them.
If you truly love her, it is because you loved and accepted her exactly as she was, and thus do forevermore.
You >chose< to.
And that choice keeps you.
The "I DO" is the strength and foundation of the marriage.
So tell her "Yes baby! I loved and accepted you, and chose you, for better or for worse, and STILL do, forever more". "Faithful and true".
God is love, and love is a choice.
Love is a choice, the feeling follows.
2007-07-25 06:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by SOULCRY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you love her but you cant live with her thats the difference. you will always love her she is the mother of your children but its a different kind of love now. if u do divorce u will probably be happier and still be able to see your kids.
2007-07-25 06:35:23 · answer #6 · answered by marianne l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you sit down and think.....if i saw my wife with another man...would i care?.....could you see her out of your life and being happy with it?.....if you cant....that means you still love her....and try some counseling.....but if you can....i say dont waist your life if your not happy and take the next step and file for a divorce
2007-07-25 06:42:50 · answer #7 · answered by anonymous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋