Marriage & Divorce - 24 July 2007

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2007-07-24 08:56:22 · 8 answers · asked by darealdanielle 1

I recently moved in with my family and separated from my husband. My family does not like my husband at all because we have gone through some marital problems. He and I have decided to get back together and he is moving to this state to reunite our family. I understand why my family does not like him and they have every reason to. I believe people can change, they do not. How should I break the news to them?
Please do not say you should not get back together and that your family probably is correct because my husband and I are getting back together, I would just appreciate some comments on how I should let them know that.

2007-07-24 08:55:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married to my husband a little over two years, we have a 15 month old son, that i would not trade for the world. I am NOT happy in my marriage and i have not been for months now, i do want out but i am scared and this is why: Me and my husband agreed that if we ever got a divorce he would let me get our son, but let him see his son anytime he wanted to, no big deal, we my husbands monther said one day that if we ever did get a divorce that she was going to try and get my son, i am not a bad parent, i take very good care of my child and i always will no matter what, but can she get him? What does she have to prove?(sp) I don't like for my husband to even be around me anymore, plus i think he has something going on behind my back cause i want have sex with him, i just don't feel that way about him anymore, and i want out, and i'm so worried about what people will say about it, i honestly don't think he's happy either, but he want admit it. What do i do?

2007-07-24 08:50:58 · 12 answers · asked by punkin 1

Well, I called him to check on him and see that he is ok. I worry because he is always crawling under the house or in the attic or on the roof. He has come home many times with cuts on his body, that he got from work, I guess at least I did not put them there.
Well, I just tried to talk to him and he acted all pissed off because I was calling to see if he was ok. I mean, he fell off of a ladder not too long ago, not a short ladder, one that reaches a three story house!
So, anyways...he was acting all guilty, and saying. "What do you want? I am trying to finish up here. Trying to show this lady how to use." And then his phone shut off and I can't reach him.
I Talked to his friend Barry the other day, and he said that his wife was divorcing him because he was screwing around on her with his customers. He goes to a ladies house and smooth talks her into sex and repair service. Should I be worried?
Thanks in advance. We have been married 10 + years, & are having our 2nd child.

2007-07-24 08:46:41 · 30 answers · asked by blackwolfinwinter 1

Do you think it's possible for a man to realize he was wrong to stray? And would that realization keep him from doing it again? Do you think having kids to lose factors in to his decision?

2007-07-24 08:33:10 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-24 08:28:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have two kids together and we have been together for 4 years he cheated on me and will deny that he did it till hell freezes over, but i never would have known except i got an std. now i havent confronted him about it yet i just want some input.
Is it worth fighting for?
Should i stay for the kids?
do i walk away and say screw him?
please any advice would be great!

2007-07-24 08:26:26 · 32 answers · asked by Kristina D 1

Not really taking about sexual intercouse but anything sexual during the massage.

2007-07-24 08:24:08 · 20 answers · asked by Brian 5

Ok--here is my story, any advice is greatly needed and appreciated. I met my husband when we were both 25, independant college grads and professionals (he a mil. officer, me a teacher). We dated for over 2 yrs before we got married and everything was close to perfect. Yes, we had our normal spats but he always acted so in love with me and all of my friends were so jealous....Well, after being married for only a month I got on the laptop and noticed he had left his email up, out of pure curiousity, I clicked on his messages (never in a million years intended on finding anything), well it showed he had been emailing a woman for almost nude pics of herself. He replied a few times saying, "thanks that made my day" and how "beautiful" she was. Well this was such blow because not to brag, I am a very attractive person. We have a great sex life and we love experimenting and we are both very sexual. The woman he emailed was a woman from a football message bd he visited and she would never email him directly, it was just a mass email of the men that asked her to (after she offered). Well, I confronted him and he was VERY remorsefull and apologized and said it was stupid and he would NEVER do it again.
I figured out his password to his email and checked it frequently. Well, I eventually forgave and he was called to go back to Iraq for a 15 month deployment. Let me back up for a moment the first time he was in Iraq (before we dated)he told me he had a brief sexual relationship with another soldier over there, but I never cared since he was single and it was before me. Well, he wasnt over there a month before I found out he was emailing her asking her for a nude pic of herself, they flirted back and forth and of course I confronted him AGAIN. And AGAIN he was extremely remorseful and begged for forgiveness and even cried to me, saying he couldnt live without me, etc......Well, I forgave AGAIN. After a few months I started to heal and get over it, well I checked his email out of the blue a few days ago and I found another email from her that said, "I am sorry for slapping you". Of course this was such a blow and KILLED me and once I again I confronted him......He admitted they had been emailing on his military acct and he even forwarded some of them to me. He said she slapped him when they walked by each other and he swore on my life he has never cheated, I have begged him to tell me if he cheated and he is adament that he never did. The emails were flirting talking about sending nude pics and even maybe meeting.....
I am crushed...He has promised to get counseling when he gets back and is extremely remorseful. I guess I need advice. Will he EVER change? Could counseling indeed help? He won't be home for another 11 months and I have to worry about what he is doing. I am distraught and disgusted. The way I see it, it would be a lot easier to get out now then later, but is this grounds for divorce? Should I forgive him? What do I do???

2007-07-24 08:18:06 · 29 answers · asked by gradie c 1

I have been getting a ton of attention from different men. I am married but my husband just doesn't pay me too much attention himself. I am eating the extra attention up with a spoon. I don't feel bad either. Should I?

Oh and before you say it. I have talked to my husband but it doesn't change. It's just how he is, i guess.

2007-07-24 08:15:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just would like anyone's thought on this subject.
Let me tell you a little bit about the situation. I been together with my spouse for over 7 years and we have three kids together and we separated at the end of 2006 and just recently moved back in together working things out but there is just one problem, when we were separated she started making friends and one thing about her she always has male friends. So when we got back together she continued to talk to a certain guy which she met at her job. Me being a male I know his intentions but she says there just really good friends and I don’t buy that! I never met the guy first of all she said she don’t want me to meet him because I would start asking him a bunch of questions and I would make him feel uncomfortable. She knows I don’t like her taking to him but she continues talking to him, she erases the calls on her cell phone when she calls him. I confronted her on that she said she does that so I wont complain to her about it. She is starting to lie about phone conversations. It’s not helping us to work on our relationship she doesn’t understand that! She swears up and down that they are just really good friends and that I need to trust her.
I just want to know if I am over reacting or is she in the wrong?

2007-07-24 08:09:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

A while ago I cheated on my girlfriend. Soon thereafter she caught me. comfronted me and after I sincerely apologized she "forgave" me. Now I was told when you forgive you forget. She steadily checks up on me like I'm some animal and always asks questions about what me and this other girl did. But on the other hand her EX calls everyday and some new guy also calls everyday. I asked her does she talks to them and she denied. I believed her and moved on. She also is on this thing called Private Phone. A singles hotline. She talks to guys on MySpace like she dating them and she is all over my case. We have something great but should I stick with it or just break it off.

2007-07-24 08:00:44 · 18 answers · asked by Young Vito 3

So my husband admitted to a drunken one night stand and I have forgiven him and we are reconciling and healing our marriage...so sunday I decided that I was ready to try to establish our physical relationship again (if you know what I mean). I thought it was a healing experience and so monday I decided to try again only to be rejected by him because he was tired. So I try to talk to him and let him know that I am hurting that he would reject my advances but not some stranger in a bar. He gets mad and tells me that he only did it sunday to "compromise" with me. He's had low sex drive our entire relationship and I usually have to initiate relations. I guess I thought that this healing process would include a passionate return to sex...I know that's a ridiculous assumption....but what wife (whether cheated on or not) wouldn't be hurt by a comment like that? Am I wrong?

2007-07-24 07:54:01 · 18 answers · asked by Notagain 6

He told me that him and his wife were not having sex, things weren't good, & sleepn on the couch currently and for a year prior to me meeting him. At the 2 year point, I read in print that him and his wife had a baby. He has not admitted to me the truth. He says he wants to get a divorce because he's not happy with her. I asked to see the separation papers, that he said he filed. Now, 10 months have passed and still I haven't seen any papers. He has told me that he loves me and wants to be w/ me and how he wants us to have a future together. He tells me that he puts me number one, however, many days & nights I sat here waiting and waiting. No pr Something he said "he wanted". How do i get over the hurt, anger, pain, betrayal, and emotional and spiritual heartache when he vowed so much to be open and I naively feel in to web of deception? Haven't talked to him in a little over a week, and he has made absolutely no effort to call. WHAT IS HE SAYING?HELP!!

2007-07-24 07:51:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

her husband was coming on to me one night when we were very intoxicated; so I reciprocated, however it stopped before anything really happened. He came over to my house, he asked if he could and he brought alcohol, none of this was my idea.She was out of town during this time and he has since told her what happened. She won't even let me speak my side of the story. Of course, she wants to blame it all on me so she doesn't have to deal with his quilt in this. Nothing had ever happened before between us, EVER. Now my 2 other children believe whatever it is that she's saying also and they are angry with me too.

The funny thing is that my close friends who I've told about it say I'm not at fault. I really am responsible for some of it, but please tell me if there's anything I can do to get her to listen or talk to me?

2007-07-24 07:50:32 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

to him several times. I never cheated on him. I want to work things out so we can be a family and I have been working very hard to maintain a better honest relationship with him but it seems almost daily there are new things he accuses me of. Now he is demanding my cell phone records, email passwords ect. Last nite I woke up and he was searching the phone all to find nothing. I know it will take time to trust me again and it has not been long of us trying again but I feel violated and dont think I can take constant absurd accusations. He is not free from his dirt he has been caught in a lie once and has done a multitude of other things as well that Im willing to forgive. Is it wrong to say sorry I know I lied and it wont happen again, youve donr many things to lets wipe the slate clean and move on? I dont want to be searched and checked up on not because Im hiding anything but because he says he thinks Im cheating but I never have!! HELP!! Should I just sit back n take this?

2007-07-24 07:43:03 · 14 answers · asked by liyah's mommy 2

We have had sex only once a month in the beginning of our marriage and now we haven't had sex for the last 10 months. 6 years into marriage now.

2007-07-24 07:39:21 · 22 answers · asked by catchmeifucan_now 2

Many of you here already know that I lost my wife to an illness some time ago now. Her best friend for most of her life was there for me and my two young sons after she passed away. She was married and I "always" respected that. Six months ago she filed for divorce and we talk sometimes on the phone to check up on each other. It has always been on a friendly basis. Sunday evening this changed. She and two of her friends invited me out for drinks. Well, after a great night of drinks and laughs I get a call at home around midnight. She tells me that her and my wife spoke often about me, after a few minutes I learned they talked "alot." Intimate details of life, sex, vacations...she knew things that blew me away. Then I got hit with the "bombshell" ...She told me that in the back of her mind she had always loved me, and then started with wanting to make love. She is a great person, pretty,warm,fun. But should I even cross this line? Yes..I need human touch! I'm not wanting commitment

2007-07-24 06:49:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am an A cup girl, but pretty, nice and lovely.
I know he does think my breasts are small, because he always said I looked beautiful when I was nude, I had the most beautiful sex, etc. However, he nevered said I had beautiful breasts..and, he joked about the size of my breasts couple of times, like when we were on vacation, we saw a very fat girl swimming in the sea, he said "apparently she has no floating problem as you do, she got two bags there.."
Even I think he is more a "butt" guy, seems he is really into my butt, always makes thousands of kisses on it.
But I still wonder maybe he will be a breast man if my breasts are bigger.

I am very sure he loves me very much, but do small breasts bother him? does it matter?

Thanks for your opinion.

2007-07-24 06:41:13 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend is Arab (christian) ans I am Mexican. We barely started our relationship but we are both very seriuos about it. We would like to end up in the altar.....I want your opinion plz

2007-07-24 06:37:49 · 41 answers · asked by AztecPrincess 1

my parents are getting a divorce, my mom kind of surprised my dad with this but hes known it could happen for a few years, he was gone for a week wiring a house for his cousin all last week and my mom has been gone since he's been home and he found out today, my mom is moving to a small town about an hour away that my grandma and my aunt live, my dad wants to stay here, my mom wants me to live with her, and my dad wants me to live with him, and they said its my choice but most likeley they'd fight for custody, my brother is 11, he thinks its cool and wants to live with my mom, im 15 and i dont, i wouldnt want to go to the school in that new town i'd like to finish my last 3 years of school right where im at, i dont know who to go with? i dont wanna make either parent dissapointed either, im equally close with both of them, my dad makes more money and knows how to manage it better than my mom and i dont know how she could handle it. what should i do??

2007-07-24 06:35:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-24 06:25:22 · 29 answers · asked by Jai 1

What do you do when someone you love is in love with someone else?

I really, really want to dislike this girl. I do. But she is so sweet, nice, perfect! And sadly I do like her! I can see what he see's in her! She is like me only better. More beautiful, more centered, more eccentric, intelligent, more artsy, just plain old amazing! Everything he really wants. She just seems like a better fit. Which I hate to say. She just seems so perfect for him.

I know she likes him as well. You can tell by her actions in everyday life towards him. She treats him completely different than anyone else. Her actions speak very loudly. He is 99% sure that she likes him back. He hasn't left me yet for her but I think he will. I really do!

How do I deal with this? Can I really? Should I sit here and wait for him to leave me and pursue her? Or should I get rid of him and move along?

2007-07-24 06:23:02 · 6 answers · asked by MelancHolly 4

my wife has a girlfriend and at first i wasn't fine with the whole thing but i thought i would loose her so i had a talk with the "girlfriend" and told her i cant handle my wife getting hurt so if that is not going to happen then i'm fine with the idea.
but now i'm wondering if it would work out or if it would break us up?
i love my wife dearly and don't want to lose her but i'm wondering who she'll choose when it comes down too that decision.

need serious advice...

2007-07-24 06:22:48 · 20 answers · asked by sassy 2

Husband left us for another woman. He eventually decided to see them and now has them half the time.

My 4 year old and 6 year old keep asking me, in this order?

Do you love Daddy?

Do you like Daddy?

Is Daddy your friend?

The true answer to all is no.


What would you say?

Thanks.

2007-07-24 06:15:32 · 35 answers · asked by tiaburkeangry 1

i can only write him once a month and i really wnat to say somehting perfect, any suggestions?

2007-07-24 06:13:58 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just met the most amazing guy. From the first second I saw him, I had this weird (yet good) feeling inside. We talked for a while, then it hit me. Something told me that he was going to be in my life...we just starred at each other, and it was like everyone around me disappeared, and afterwards I immediately felt like I was on top of the world. Don't ask how I know, but somehow deep inside I know that one day he will be in my life. I have never fallen this hard for anyone, and it's really bad, since he is married. I would NEVER in a million years do anything to break up anyone's marriage, and I would NEVER act on anything. (I could never live with myself if I did that.) But, I know these feelings are bad...and I don't know what to do. We still talk, and hang out, and I don't want to lose him as a friend...but yet, I don't know what to do. I can't tell any of my friends about this, because they would just judge me and think badly of me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

2007-07-24 06:12:14 · 55 answers · asked by oceanstruck 1

He says he accidentally clicked on something and then other stuff just started poppin up. Hes 42 and fairly reasonable. I trust him but I know he is inquisitive and it sometimes causes problems. Our computer is new also. We've had it about 3 months now.

2007-07-24 06:09:40 · 30 answers · asked by just me 1

she loves me.....right?

2007-07-24 05:54:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

i just found out two night ago that he has been seeing someone else, his new girlfriend sent me pics. telling me to move on and then she called me later that night crying saying that he was saying i was his cousin and he didnt care that she e-mailed me . she said she knew he was lieing and that is why she called me to find out the truth. well come to find out they had been dating for 9 months before he left me and they are about to move in together and he is telling her that he loves her and he wants to marry her.Did i mintion that we also have an 11 month old1 im so depressed i cant get through this and dont know what to do

2007-07-24 05:44:26 · 34 answers · asked by amanda a 1