I have been married to my husband a little over two years, we have a 15 month old son, that i would not trade for the world. I am NOT happy in my marriage and i have not been for months now, i do want out but i am scared and this is why: Me and my husband agreed that if we ever got a divorce he would let me get our son, but let him see his son anytime he wanted to, no big deal, we my husbands monther said one day that if we ever did get a divorce that she was going to try and get my son, i am not a bad parent, i take very good care of my child and i always will no matter what, but can she get him? What does she have to prove?(sp) I don't like for my husband to even be around me anymore, plus i think he has something going on behind my back cause i want have sex with him, i just don't feel that way about him anymore, and i want out, and i'm so worried about what people will say about it, i honestly don't think he's happy either, but he want admit it. What do i do?
2007-07-24 08:50:58 · 12 answers · asked by punkin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why aren't you happy? Honestly, people need to think long and hard before they go and get married. Marriage is about surviving the good and the bad. Have you even tried to save your marriage? Is whatever makes you unhappy with him something that could be changed? If it is, talk to him and try to work things out. You owe him that much. He's not happy because he knows you aren't and you don't care enough to bother. Do it for your son. You clearly have no idea how much divorce affects a kid..
As for his mother, unless your dangering your son or you're a bad influence, there's nothing she can do unless she makes up lies.
2007-07-24 08:56:57 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Here where I live (learned from some friends) that is a husband and wife divorces, then the child custody arrangements are settled in court. The schedule is made up to what suits both parties and both parties are to adhere by that schedule. Example: my friends split up and the child was in custody of the mother and every other weekend was at his dads. The holidays were exchanged meaning x-mas was at the moms one year and vice versa. And....the mother in law can try to get custody, but unless you have been proven to be an ufit mother, then she is wasting her time, money and effort. In such case, then the father would get sole custody. Not the mother in law. So, might want to check with a friend or aquaintence that has been thru this and if noone is available, try calling a lawyer and just ask those questions to him/her over the phone. Good luck.
2007-07-24 16:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look in phone book. Get a attorney and talk it over with him or her. Getting a divorce is costly $$.
Have you talked to your husband and said up front that You want a divorce. His mother has no right to take your son. Only way she could do that is if you two weren't capable of being good parents. I wish you all the luck in the world. Live to be happy......
2007-07-24 16:08:02 · answer #3 · answered by Tina the cat lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st thing, your mother-in-law has no right to your kid, no matter what...UNLESS your unfit and he is unfit. At that point she can TRY to get custody but I doubt she would get it. As for you and your marriage, if your not happy and he isn't happy why would you even consider anything except splitting up? the baby is small so it whill ahve minimal effect now and you can begin a new existance, get into new different things find another companion, perhaps get married again...the whole world is out there waiting for you to discover it.....go after it and good luck. Don't stagnate in a no love marriage.
2007-07-24 15:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a number of problems here but they do not involve custody.
Why are you not happy?
What has your husband done to deserve this?
What happened to your feelings?
Why do you think he should give up his son because you want out?
Why did you stop having sex? Because you did not feel like it?
It sounds like you changed , why I can't tell.
You might reevaluate your position and work on your marriage a bit before you rip your kids home apart.
2007-07-24 16:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex mother in law used to say that to me all of the time. She has to have proof that you are an unfit mother. Even then it would take forever for her to do anything. Speak to a lawyer so that you feel more comfortable but really - she can't do anything. Just be happy and get along with your ex so that your child grows up normally.
2007-07-24 16:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by Babycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She cannot get your child unless she could prove you were unfit. Do not let an old meddling hag scare you.
However, I will say I feel like marriage is sacred and worth a lot of effort - but no one can know your situation but you.
2007-07-24 15:54:34 · answer #7 · answered by Random_Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She couldn't get your son unless proving you unfit, which it seems you def. are not. As far as the marriage maybe try to save it. Don't give up and scream out the "d word" so quickly.
2007-07-24 16:21:07 · answer #8 · answered by Leigh08 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother-in-law can't get custody of your child, don't worry. I think you need a therapist anyway. Give it a try. The first two years of a marriage are the most stressful anyway (especially with a child).
2007-07-24 15:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by susano 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mother in law would have to prove that you are a unfit mother to not have your son...she cannot just get your son..she would have to come up with proof...start talking to a lawyer and find out all that you can about the issue..good luck
2007-07-24 22:31:38 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋