I recently moved in with my family and separated from my husband. My family does not like my husband at all because we have gone through some marital problems. He and I have decided to get back together and he is moving to this state to reunite our family. I understand why my family does not like him and they have every reason to. I believe people can change, they do not. How should I break the news to them?
Please do not say you should not get back together and that your family probably is correct because my husband and I are getting back together, I would just appreciate some comments on how I should let them know that.
2007-07-24 08:55:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I spent 10 yrs beleiving my ex will change.. he never did...and my family was right. They have reality glasses on and we do not. In my case I just sat everyone down and told them the thruth and the way it was. Your family will stick with you (that is what they do) and they might not be happpy about it but they will be there for you, I think. Just tell them that you invested a lot of time in this marriage and you are willing to give it another try as you want to be absolutelly sure that you did try everything before you gave up. My parents told me long ago you should try everything you can think of before you give up because than one day you will not look back on it and regret it. Besides, your family will want you to be happy and as long as you tell them this will make you happy they should respect your decision. This does not mean that if your attempt of saving you marriage fails they will not come down on you, but that's ok too as that is also what families do. I hope your husband will work as hard on your marriage as you will and I hope you succed. Just a word of caution...if he cheated on you (like mine did) he will most likely do it again and again as now he knows that you will forgive him and take him back. Tnat is one of the hardest things to work through and if that is the case I hope you do not get hurt again. If you have children just tell your family you owe them another try as they really suffer the most when parents split up. Hope this helps. GOOD LUCK TO ALL OF YOU!
2007-07-24 09:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! What you are trying to do takes guts and a lot of hard work. I give you a lot of credit for working out your problems and fighting for your marriage. A good friend of mine has recently been through the same thing. Her husband went to her mom's house (where she was living) and they told mom together. Her mother told him honestly that she was not happy with the idea but that as long as he treated her daughter well, she would stay out of it. She also commended him on respecting both her and her daughter enough to have the 'sit down' with her. Perhaps doing the same would give your family some respect for your husband. Aside from that, all you can do is thank them for their support, remind them that you took a vow and that you are an adult able to make your own decisions. I don't know what your faith is but the Bible does say that 'a man should leave his mother and a woman leave her home' and that 'the two should be joined as one'. It is your life, hopefully your family will support your decision. Good luck to you!
2007-07-24 16:06:02 · answer #2 · answered by nimat33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember - your family is only looking out for you. But you are a big girl and you have to explain to them that you love your husband and want to give it another try. Tell them you would appreciate their blessings with this because you really do not need any more stresses in making your decision. That's all. I just hope that you are not going back to him if he was abusive. Good luck.
2007-07-24 16:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by Babycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We Are Getting Back Together.
2007-07-24 15:59:21 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible say "Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything" (Ephesians 5:24). You are married to your husband not to your family
2007-07-24 16:07:54 · answer #5 · answered by Emmit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life. Grow a backbone and live it.
This is about your needs and your husband's needs. No ONE ELSE GETS AN OPINION.
Good luck.
2007-07-24 15:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by flyfish_777 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well u already made up your mind, so there's nothing anyone can say.. You'll probably be back to your relatives house soon anyways...
2007-07-24 16:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by Haidee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well - since you obviously have your mind set. Open your mouth and let the words come out.
2007-07-24 15:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by Answer Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋