my boyfriend left me when i was 4 months pregnant,I am now 7 months and i am very depressed!?

Question

i just found out two night ago that he has been seeing someone else, his new girlfriend sent me pics. telling me to move on and then she called me later that night crying saying that he was saying i was his cousin and he didnt care that she e-mailed me . she said she knew he was lieing and that is why she called me to find out the truth. well come to find out they had been dating for 9 months before he left me and they are about to move in together and he is telling her that he loves her and he wants to marry her.Did i mintion that we also have an 11 month old1 im so depressed i cant get through this and dont know what to do

Answer 1

don't be depressed think about your health for the baby!

the one that will truly love you!

Answer 2

aw no, amanda i am very sorry to hear that.
who needs men like that, eh?

i think you should definately move on. but when i say move on, try to be happy. for your baby's sake. at least your baby has a mother who cares.
if you have close friends, socialize and talk over your problems.
i find that talking to people about my problems can really help sort it out.
But i know that some people can get over things like this in many different ways.

i think you should totally try to forget him. the thought of this may only depress you more.
men are strange things and some love, some are cheaters.

unfortunately you have met a man who really hurt you.
friends and family are the best remedy. visit your parents and sit down have a coffee, laugh away your worries.

i know it seems hard, but keep trying.

good luck with your baby and everything x

stacey x

Answer 3

I feel you, you be surprised how Meany selfish people their are.That's messed up how he can do that to you and you feel left alone with the kids you have on your own. But, don't rely on a punk azz like that to solve your depression he's more likely to hurt you more. It looks like your going to have to put him on child support latter on. I know it hurts but it will get better. You have to move on and find another way to resolve these problems. Time will heal you just hang in there. I'm a father of 2 boys both with different mothers. the mother of my first son abandoned him and hasn't seen him since he was 18 months and hes 11 now. It's hard to see them grow up with out the other parent around because you see their pain you know? People make mistakes and people will lead you on the wrong way not knowing how it's going to turn out. But that fool that did that to you must be a dumb *** cuzz he don't care how he makes others feel , he just thinks about him self. But don't try to get with someone who's going to hurt you. I hope you will be all right, you get through this Just be strong about it. I hope that helps you. Sorry

Answer 4

first of all. how old are you? cause if this is a teen relationship that you were sure would work out then i have to tell you that you are dead wrong sister. a very VERY small percent of teen relationships actually work out.

however

if you are older and this happened then you have my sympathy. some guys are total jerks. if anything think of this as a good thing. cause if he would have stayed with you then he probably would have been a bad father or would have done something else that was even more atrocious! stay with a friend or relative/family member and live with them until you can get things under control. Until then, I would stay away from your ex-boyfriend cause he most definitely will NOT help you.

Answer 5

Did you tell this woman that you are the mother of his child and expecting his 2nd child? If not, you should have! She is crazy if she moves in with him. He'll cheat on her, too. Feel sorry for her, if she does. Meantime, don't bother being depressed. You don't have time for that. Take his sorry *@ss to court! Get a child support order for TWO children. He needs to be visiting your first child and paying support immediately, if he isn't. I would not want him back. He's bad news...very unfaithful and a liar. Let him visit with his children, but don't let him teach them his values, okay? Go find a better guy. If you can't shake that mood (the hormones don't help you, you know), ask the doctor if there's something you can take to calm you down and make you feel better. Good luck.

Answer 6

wow does the other girl know that you are pregnant?? maybe that would make her think.. f**k him ma you are better and keep your head up it will be hard and all but at hate end you got to tell your self i have to make the best of things and as for your ex he needs to get a wake up call, does he go and see his kid. girl even if it means that you have to put the law on him. make sure that he knows that he has a baby coming meaning responsibilities.that other girl needs a wake up call to what makes her think that he is all that in a bag cuz look what he is showing that he ain't responsible.. he left you and he's own blood,.. mas mas you need to show him that you don't need him as much as it hurts but you have to be strong for you and your kids, maybe he will come around and if you let him but remember that he has another girl and you don't need all that drama in your life, show him how good you are and as foe the kids tell him . don't let him tell you get into his skin. you should know his weakness.. that's only if he don't give his attention . i hope my advice works. keep your head up ma there are more men out there that would treasure you..

Answer 7

I'm sorry to hear this. I just wanted to stop in and give you as many best wishes as I can. My advice to you is to try to do your best to move on. I know that is hard to do considering the circumstances but you have so much to look forward to with your new baby. Don't let him destroy your spirit and the spirit and life of your child. Continue to do what's right and it will all work out in the end.

Answer 8

You should be glad to be rid of him - let her have him - he's certainly no prize. You need to get a hold of yourself and realize that you will soon have 2 small children to take care of. He is not worthy of you or your children honey. Be strong, do not have any contact with him or his foolish girlfriend. You should contact a lawyer about support. Be strong - you are better off without him - you will realize that soon. No one deserves to be treated like this. Just love your children - they will need you. Good luck and don't take any more garbage from him. He's a loser.

Answer 9

You have to be strong, for yourself, for your child, and for the unborn child. So he has left you for someone else at a very hard time, what can you do? I know you will be depressed for some time but you will get through this. Remember that you can file for child support now since he has left you. All you have to do is go to your local human service center and file some paperwork. Don't let him off the hook, he has a responsibility to take care of your kids.

Answer 10

it maybe hard now especially being pregnant and having a child already, you deserve better and you will get ova him you sound a loving lady and the kids are lucky to have you , what i say is think really hard on your situation and what he has done to you and if he has already lied to this other girl about you he will probably carry on lieing , i hope you have a good support network around you and if you do lean on these people to help you and your children move forward and begin to enjoy life good luck

Answer 11

First off, congrats on your pregnancy. Secondly, you should be grateful this loser is out of your life. Take him to court- he needs to pay child support for both kids. Does he think he's off the hook?
You need to be strong not only for yourself, but for your kids. Don't let this rat bastard ruin your life. Use this as an advantage to make you stronger.
Also, keep in mind that this new gf of his is stupid for staying with him. Karma always prevails and what goes around comes around.