How can I change?

Question

I'm 17 and I've made some bad mistakes in the past regarding boys. I've dissappointed my mother numerous times, even after I told her I would do right. I'm really trying to do some soul searching and get my life on track. I'm a senior in high school and I just want to live life and focus on me right now. I want to get the boys off my mind and just be a better person overall. I don't really know where t start because I kinda feel like it's too late to do right. Any advice?

Answer 1

stay in school, work hard, forget about the boys for now and believe in yourself, you'll feel better over time just remember change doesnt happen overnight....good luck! and if a boy comes along just remember if he cant accept your goals you really dont need him

Answer 2

Sweetheart, you are 17. Life is just beginning for you. Now IS the time to change, though. The decisions you make in the next few years will determine what your life will be. I am 30 now, but, when I was 17, I became engaged to an older man, and eventually married him. Please try to get the "boys" obsession off of your mind. You have the next 70 years for love. You have to get you straight first. Please focus on your schoolwork, getting into college, and, setting up the rest of your life to be good. If you can attend therapy, that may help. Otherwise, how about listing everything you want to accomplish in the next year- 10 years- 25 years. You will see that your dreams are yours, and, you can accomplish them. Once you are capable and ready, THEN you will be ready for the love of your life- and, he will be ready for you.... Make you great before you worry about Mr. Wonderful. He will wait.

Answer 3

Joyce Meyer's Christian program, "Enjoying Everyday Life," available at http://www.joycemeyer.org/, contains excellent and practical advice on learning how to live a better life and draw on all the good resources God has available to help us through relationship with Him.

A book that might encourage you is John Maxwell's "Failing Forward," in which he illustrates the value of mistakes and so-called "failures" as part of the learning and growing process of life.

It is never too late. Every morning is a fresh start. You'll never be perfect, but you can always choose to take positive steps to build your life up. Whenever you make a mistake or a wrong choice, you can choose in the next moment to make a right choice, and to learn from your mistakes.

Life is not so final that you ever have to be stuck without hope. God loves you, He knows everything about you, and He is listening, waiting to help you when you reach out to Him. As Joyce Meyer says, everything is subject to change except God. And God is willing to help you as you learn to lean on Him.

Answer 4

it is never too late to do right i was a screw up as a kid im 19 now but when i was between 14 and 17 i was in jail in and out and i stole from my parents and everything my parents moved me to another state i didnt know anyone so i had a new start and nobody knew me so you have to REALLY want to change anything you do is becouse of a choice that YOU made I got a job focuced on school and work and now I have my own business and a great relationship w/ my parents and its because i wanted to be a better person

Answer 5

It is never too late and you only you know how much you can commit. STay aways form boys until you find a gentleman...
In the mean time just keep yourself busy, FInd a hobby, Study like you have never studied before... That way you will mature and find more about yourself ....
Again to change you will have to put yourself in a position to change be aware of your surroundings and not put yourself anywhere you can get interrupted by boys... Join certain women clubs , groups etc...
Lastly spend more time with your family and mother as whe will support you and be very appreciative....

Answer 6

Why would you think that it is too late? What have you done that cannot be rectified? You are only 17, you haven't even begin to live life. If you really want to prove yourself to your mother, then you need to stop thinking about yourself. School should be your top priority but then where would we be without our mothers? Getting boys off your mind is not the solution, it is how you handle them, that is the question. You teach people how to treat you. So teach them how to treat you well.

Answer 7

It is never too late to do right.

Become active in your local area. Volunteer at places, whatever your interest is (besides boys) focus on that interest and seek places that you can volunteer.

Pay attention in school, do your homework, get great grades, start getting involved in the after school activities. Talk to your counsler at school openly that you want to change and need help doing so. Sit your mother down and tell her with your "heart" that you want to change.. just saying it is one thing, but saying it from your heart is different. If you can say it from your heart, it will show and you will actually feel it.

Again, It is never too late to do right!!!

Answer 8

I have found in my experience that finding what I am passionate about has helped keep me focus on being productive. What do you like to do? What are your interests? Maybe you could volunteer somewhere and help those in need. It could help you gain a different perspective on life. When you find a purpose for your life, something to pursue, you won't think about what you "shouldn't do" and instead think of all the things you want to do.

Answer 9

guys and sex if your active can be an addiction but you can be strong enough to be better if you really want to do better! you have already taken a giant first step by realizing that this is bigger than you. Maybe since you are still in school you can get counceling, not because you are crazy either but for some good advise and tips on how to clean up that act of yours. GOOD LUCK you are really young and strong you can do it

Answer 10

Its never too late to start over a new idea in life. Just get your goals together and focus on that.